Someone please respond!!! We need help!!




	Someone please respond!!! We need help!! CMRsmom: There are alot of childrens mental health agencies that can give you some ideas on what will work for you as far as managing your child. Some are idiots, so if you go this route make sure you ask for someone who is a professional is the area of ADHD. I asked a mental health agency what program I should use. They suggested 1-2-3 Magic by Dr. Phalen. My son was 4 at the time, and we were really struggling. He wouldn't do time outs, and the list goes on and on. I started this program, and I was at my wits end at the time, and determined to make a change in how things were going at the time. Normal regular fly by the seat of the pants parenting wasn't doing it for me. I stuck to the use of the program over the years, even though sometimes it didn't seem all that effective. My son is 15, and doing quite well, and our family has a good relationship with him. He no longer controls the mood of the house. He still goes to his room, and he always knows what will happen when he misbehaves. I find it a fair system, where I don't have to loose alot of energy, getting mad at the kid all the time. It works well, but you have to diligently work at it. Other parents don't find its very good. Is my son still irritating at times, yes. Does he still give me a hard time at times, absolutely. You have to aim for better.In the end you are the one that can make the decision, whether your child can function on meds or off meds. There are side affects and some meds don't work well for every child. Weigh the pros and cons. Behavior management at home and forming a good relationship with the school is what helps most to get your child to function to the best of their ability. I chose the medication route, after trying everything else first. I knew he couldn't control it. He's been on meds for 8 years and doing quite well. Get educated and get tutors, or other services you need to keep your child on the right track. Good Luck with your decision. I think there is more success with medication, than not. There are alot of scary stories out there. I wouldn't have medicated if he could have functioned reasonably well without med.s. He couldn't, and self esteem and everything else was suffering. It was worth the risk the put him on meds for me. At 15 he knows he needs the medication to succeed. It is still really obvious when he's not on them.But how do you get a behavior management plan? Barb, You and I are experiencing cyber telepathy . My dd will be getting tested soon for ahdh and my dh and I are weighing the option of wether to medicate her or not. I was on ritalin for my ADD and I know the terrible side effects of that but I am unsure of the new meds out their. I have heard of one horror story about the dangers of medicating a child from my moms best friend whos youngest son has adhd with a touch of autism. I am also hearingof how good the meds are. We need help with this decision. we welcom all opinions on this subject. please be honest. If you found that behavior therepy worked best say so if meds were the best help say so. thank you all so much for your help Andrea You should check out the medications and the alternatives to medications forums here. There is a wealth of info there. Welcome to the board! You need to read the posts in different sections of this forum. There's one section just about meds, and you can get a lot of information there, as people discuss which meds they or their children are taking, and how those meds are working. There's also a section of the forum for alternatives to meds, and there is a lot of information there discussing what kind of alternatives to meds people are using to treat themselves or their children. There's tons and tons of stuff on this topic, so happy reading! They have done good at going to bed on time but it's the hitting part that needs help. I've watched it I use it but my husband won't do it he says it doesn't work. Behavior therapy did not work for us. My son is 15 and has been on medication since he was 7. I don't think you really see the effectiveness of medication until you try it long term -- at least 6 months and then take him off of it for a few days! Concerta works really well for him. We have tried many others and find it has the least side effects. IT IS NOT PERFECT. We still have problems in school, etc. The bottom line for us is that with medicine -- he functions in school and he has many friends. Is the medicine dangerous? I often worry about that -- but I also see a happy, well adjusted and popular kid. Without medicine, he would not be alble to take any pre-ap classes and he would annoy and bother his peers and family. He would annoy us to such a degree we would lose our temper and become angry and yell at him -- all the time. Friends would not invite him to parties or sleepovers. Teachers wouldn't say "he a good kid - he talks to much but a good kid". 15 is a tough age. So far, he's happy. What more can I ask for?? That sounds great that your son is doing good mom15ofADHD my son didn't have friends in preschool at all and now in kindergarten he has 2 or 3 friends my son had his IEP today and next year there going to try to get him to his home school which I am going to miss his teacher she is so nice. My ADHD daughter is 10, and has been taking methylphenidate (first Ritalin LA, now Metadate CD) since she was in 1st grade. We are very happy with the Metadate CD, and find it works great for her. When she is off the med (like in the morning before she takes it, or after it wears off at the end of the day), she is much more impulsive and argumentative. When the meds kick in, she is much quieter and cooperative. She wouldn't be as successful in school if she wasn't on meds. The only side effect we've seen is loss of appetite, but it isn't too bad. In our case, medications work out well. Of course each family has to go with what works best for them. Good Luck! Is your doctor offering behavior management if so your lucky my childs doctor didn't and he needs it, The preschool made us put him an a special school before he was even put on meds before he was even out of preschool because of the way he was acting my youngest is in there now and he is going down the same path as my oldest son and my daughter she has this constent need for if you want her to do something she finds something other then what you asked her to do. For Jehauck does your daughter does she kick and hit other people or herself? My son is currently taking ritalinSR. He's 10 and it works well for him. He only takes it on school days. I can handle him one on one on weekends and holidays. He was on ritlainSR and DexedrineSR when he was 7. I had to take him off meds. He wouldn't sleep well and would hardly eat. He lost weight on the Dexedrine. I think it works better now because he weighs more.	Enter Your Email below to claim your Free Book

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