Hardto cope....you said you have together for two years....what made you stay in the first place and have a child. lets start there...find the things you like and focuse on them, while researching what to do about the things you don't like.
also, adhders can get very overwhelmed quickly. example: house cleaning. if you look at the whole house, wow lots to do, where to start. but if you break it down into steps, not so bad. Pick one room or pick one thing. Today dust the whole house, or today clean the bathroom. next vacum, or go to next room. Sometimes there is no multi tasking. Make a todo list and break things down into peices. and you will need to be really organized so your partner can follow your example.
one more thing, tell your partner that you are frustrated and need help to understand.
Have recently found out that my livein partner has ADHD. We have a 2 year old daughter together. Im finding life very tough and think that im actually starting to resent him. I find it quite hard to even be civil to him some days!
Im really looking for some tips on how to deal with someone who has ADHD and how to understand it. If I dont do something soon I dont see our relationship lasting!
Try the librairy first,"Driven to Distraction", is a book on ADHD which can give insight to the way a person with ADHD generally thinks. 2nd, this website is another resource you have found! Which probably means you're sincere with hoping to make your relationship work out. GLAD you called , we can give multiple views on problems resulting from ADHD and everyone here is always concerned with helping others. You may find it hard to believe but some of his behaviour can be tolerated and modified if he is also willing to work. If you care to research seperately, there is a books topic which may lead you to more resources not web related. 3rd,I don't know about the U.K., but if you have a local chapter of CHADD, they may also be of some service. Remember, people with ADHD can tend to 'hyperfocus' on one problem and forget the rest of the world for a while. There also seems to always be 'co-morbid'(at the same time)mental disorders , such as Depression, Anxiety, Obsessive-Compulsive Behaviour, Etc,,, which can be helped. Adhd also presents a diffferent view on the world, life, meanings of self, etc,,,and Isn't always a curse If there is a mutual understanding of each other! Good luck!