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You 2 are bring too much back to me.  I would give my 2 baths together when they were under 5.  They still tell me stories of jumping on my bed, and running around nude before and after baths.  Neither would be nice enough to play with lego.  You're lucky.  I hated bath time.

[QUOTE=TillyT]Oh, yes.

In fact, I am a super-filter type person myself, and find myself automatically eliminating all distractions from DS's environment when he's got to finish something like homework (or just find his socks, again). I have literally found myself standing stock still, doing NOTHING in an effort to not be distracting.  The phone rings and I think, "oh, no, it's over now!"

DS can actually get undressed in his bedroom, with the shower running next door, and *forget* to get in the shower because he saw a deck of cards, a book, and a hula hoop on his way back out of his room. I will then find him upside down on the bed, naked, inside the hula hoop, reading the book while shuffling the cards in the other hand. Sigh. When I ask about the shower, he is genuinely surprised.  Oh, yeah, *that* must be why I took my clothes off!

You do develop a good sense of humor.

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    I could help but laugh!  

Tilly T:  Oh my gosh, I remember all the distractions during homework.  You brought it all back.  I had to keep the T.V. off and find the least stimulating room to get him to focus.  I faced him away from the window, and got mad at my daughter or husband if they even came near the room.  I forgot how bad it really was.    I'm not really sure now that I want to remember it. Yuk, what a nightmare that was.  Thanks.

TillyT...yep you must need a good sense of humor...that is TOOOOOOOOOOOO funny....but I would not put it past my guy to do the same thing....it takes us a while to get his little naked self into the tub..usually I find him naked playing with a lego ......

getting to the bath is easier if he thinks he is racing his baby sister. WWOOOHOOO

I'm glad it works.  My son tries to continue with it sometimes, even though I say that.  I now resort to saying, okay I've heard your opinion, I don't have to agree with, so stop already.  They get better at trying to manipulate you to get into it with them.  He loves to trap his sister into it which is aggravating.  Sometimes she can just say "whatever", but other times she goes for it and it quickly escalates.  You can see it on her face that she's going for it.  She knows then that she may or may not get away with it.  Depends if we're in the room or not.  Siblings, gotta love em.   I do believe you are right in validating them.  I really think its a good skill to have with everyone.  We don't want answers sometimes, we just want someone to listen, and empathize.Oh, yes.

In fact, I am a super-filter type person myself, and find myself automatically eliminating all distractions from DS's environment when he's got to finish something like homework (or just find his socks, again). I have literally found myself standing stock still, doing NOTHING in an effort to not be distracting.  The phone rings and I think, "oh, no, it's over now!"

DS can actually get undressed in his bedroom, with the shower running next door, and *forget* to get in the shower because he saw a deck of cards, a book, and a hula hoop on his way back out of his room. I will then find him upside down on the bed, naked, inside the hula hoop, reading the book while shuffling the cards in the other hand. Sigh. When I ask about the shower, he is genuinely surprised.  Oh, yeah, *that* must be why I took my clothes off!

You do develop a good sense of humor.

 

BTW --momiss2...

 

I  have been using your " that is an interesting point of view" comment and it stops my son dead in his tracks...he does not know what to think and so he has been letting go of the argument...maybe he just needed to be validated

Let me know if this is similar to any of your guys...My son (6) seems to just blurt out stuff without using a filter (eg. not thinking) ...for example he was being tested and happend to look up at the lights and saw a dead fly in the glass of the light...well , there goes the attention from the test to the dead fly...he had to announce to the examiner about the dead fly, eww gross, ect ect ect.. and did not let up until the examiner said he saw the fly too.....urgh

do any of your guys do stuff like this?

 

All the time.  Sometimes I wish it was just about a fly though.  Sometimes my son just doesn't know when to let it go.

I have never had difficulty getting my daughter into the bathtub, it's getting her out of it.  She would live in the tub if she had a chance!  She will get in, keep water running, and play with whatever she can find, dipping and pouring water, getting water all over the bathroom in the process.  She will be singing away, sometimes talking, screaming and yelling, totally oblivious to the line forming outside the door (we have only one bathroom).  Since she would get distracted after each reminder to hurry up, I finally started using a timer with her, and setting it for 10 minutes.  If she is getting distracted and losing track of time, this now brings her back to reality when the alarm goes off.  She sometimes likes to play "beat the timer." 

I didnt come with a filter, I'm missing that part

If I think it's interesting all around me have to acknowledge it too or I cant move on. So maybe your son's missing that part too. Besides its more fun without it, we see things most other people overlook