Hi all, I'm Barb and I found your site by doing a search on ADHD. I found a message from a woman who's son was being put on seroquel, I tried to reply, but after I registered, I couldn't find the post. So if this was your post, please reple to me.
My grandson Robby has been through alot of changes in his life. He was taken from his mother (my daughter) almost 3 yrs ago because my daughter has bipolar sisorder and refused treatment. Robby's father, who really had little to do with Robby, came out of the woodwork with a court order to take Robby. As he was leaving with Robby nearly 3 yra ago, he muttered under his breath as he left (Now I'll save myself 381.00 a month) which is the child support he was paying for Robby. By the time of the court date, my daughter still refused treatment and was totally out of reality in front of the judge. So of course she lost the case and Robby. The judge ordered liberal visits with Robby from us at the time of that order. Well the order somehow was never signed by the judge and was in limbo for awhile. Of course Robby's father gave me a hard tme about visiting, to the point I had to hire a lawyer to get visitation rights. I won and got my visits. The next thing I know, the visits were stopped by Childrens services claiming that Robby said my daughter sexually abused him. This I know was not true, I lived with my daughter and Robby from the time Robby was born until he was 2 when my daughter married and then theyu moved back when my daughter divorced. I ended up buying a 2 family home. We had an open door policy, we walked into each others apts anytime of day or night and I've never seen any evidence of and type of abuse at all toward Robby by my daughter. We lived as Christians, went to church frequently. We watched everything Robby watched to be sure it was appropriate for him. So when the social worker told me of these allegations, I knew that Robby would never have known those words because he never heard them around us. My first thought was that his father and his father's family were making him say things that were not true to prevent our family from seeing Robby. So off to the lawyer I went and the judge ordered my visitation and phone calls reinstated with the exception that Robby not have any contact with Robby at all. My daughter moved to a town 4 hours away from here, so that there would be no problems with them saying I let them see her. I knew these allegations were untrue, they never even investigated, never spoke to the school or any agency involved with Robby whether or not they saw anything unusual with Robby. I called CYS and they were rude to me and would not give me and details of the investigation. In the meantime I wrote to the governor of my state and he sent me a leter stating he had sent the information to the director of Children's services. The Director assured me he would send his own workers to invesigate. During this time Robby was changing from a happy go lucky child to miserable and withdrawn. He wanted to go to church with me, but his father forbidded it. This was a sad and fearful child. Then one particular weekend visit I had with Robby, I dropped him off at his father's house and called the next day to speak with him and his father started using profanities at me and telling me that I had better get a lawyer becaue I was in big trouble. I tried for days to get ahold of Children's services and so did my lawyer. Well when we inally got in touch with them there was an allegation that we spent the weekend with Robbys mother which was completely untrue. We were with a friend that weekend and she came down to CYS with me and they still wouldn't buy our story. I called my daughter and found out that she was in Japan with her soon to be husband that weekend in question. I got a copy of her plane ticket and passport and my visits with Robby were reinstated In the meantime the investigation of the sexual abuse against my daughter was proven to be false. I spoke with all kinds of Child advocates because I felt that either someone was abusing Robby in his father's home, or telling him to say these things so that I could not have my visits. Robby constantly on our visits would tell me about being abused physically and emotionally by his father and his father's girlfriend. I reported these incidents to CYS and they just kind of sugar coated everything. Then Robby's father's family started reporting abuse of Robby as well, but nothing was done. Robby would scream and cry everytime I had to bring him back to his father's. Robby was court ordered into counseling in which his father did nothing about. Finally I got more aggresssive legally to obtain custody of Robby as my daughter married and is now residing in Japan. Robby reported to me that one of his female cousins was attempting to touch his privates. WEell I called and reported it not only for Robby's sake, but for the sake of the cousin who was a 6 yr old girl. 6 yr olld generally don't do this type of behavior as a rule, at least not the way Robby reported it to me. Well at this point all I got was threats from Robby's Aunt, mother of the female cousin. Nothing was ever investigated. I believe there was alot of sexual issues going on in that household. I'm a nurse and Robby's father was a nurse aid. I know alot of people that work in various nursing homes and found out that Robby's father was fired from at least 4 nursing homes for sexual harassmentr of nurses and aides. I realize this story is lond and not nearly finished, but I have to leave and will post the rest of the story later. I really need some insight here. I now have custody of Robby and I will explain all that too i another post. Thanx for listening to this long tale of woe..............Barb