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[QUOTE=Koko]. I don't believe people use meds just because they don't have enough structure.
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I have no idea what in the heck your saying, no one said people use meds because of no structure.
Or were you just saying that to say it. I can't tell.
bugzappers38780.4178240741Sorry Bugzappers,
I guess I misinterpreted your previous post about supernanny. My bad.
just a personal pet peeve of mine. I will stop. sorry.Maybe I am wrong, but on the shows I watched people had very large homes, and Nanny always had her own room, or at least one in which she talked to the camera. I enjoy that show and have learned a lot from it. I believe I have seen most of them as I TiVo them if I'm not home. Not all the homes are huge but what does that have to do with the issues these families are facing?
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I do not want my kid's out of control behavior on TV. I think most of the families on Supernannny are very well to do, Supernanny wouldn't get her own room in my house. There are no stairs either.
Where in the world would you get that idea?! From what I have read, Jo Frost doesn't get a room in the actual house. She has a trailer she sleeps in during the week they spend with the family.Personally, I would not want my children on TV either but if the family has no other resource for help, it is a great opportunity. Plus, the families all seem to learn parenting skills in the process. I STILL think it would be interesting to see how she would handle an ADD situation for a week. This board can be incredibly pessamistic. Give the poor nanny a break!
We have always had structure in our children's lives, but we still needed to help our son more. Meds have been a huge help to him for getting his schoolwork done without his brain becoming distracted by every little thing. I don't believe people use meds just because they don't have enough structure.
Structure makes the child more comfortable in his/her situation. I have seen the supernanny give the family more structure and THAT probably is very helpful if they stick to it and adjust it as needed.
But who wants to have that kind of help on national television? Also, someone who specializes in the dx's the child has could probably offer very good suggestions for at home life. There are services doctors recommend which will send someone to the home and make suggestions to the parents that are much more private. That sounds like the way to go!
Tonight it is about a single mother raising 5 kids. The kids are apparently out of control due to the parents divorcing. The naughty kids show? lol
that's good.I would rather watch survivor or that other reality show where they travel. Sometimes the few times I watched Supernanny it made my kids look better!
That would be a great business, Sabrina. I live on the other side of the country and have not heard of anything like that.
The Amazing Race is the best reality TV show!And I agree with you about Supernanny making our own kids seem like angels.
My kids call it the "naughty kids show".
Jacquie-
Thank you very much.
I'm sorry...I have a problem with people exploiting their children and their problems on National TV, for 15 minutes of fame. I think allot of these "Reality" Programs have gotten out of hand...I would never put my kids on TV and embarrass them....I mean their friends will watch this show once they find out the child is on it...what child wants his friends see him/her out of control. There are some things that can be made public and some things that should not. There is allot of help out there for special needs children and good parenting programs, they don't have to be on TV to get it. This is my own feeling on the subject and some may disagree with me but my children's and Grandchild's feelings are the most important thing for me. I feel the same about Dr. Phil and his Preachings on him being a know it all on all things.[QUOTE=OlderMom]The autistic child show really ticked me off as it is not how most autistic kids act and he seemed beyond just autism. [/QUOTE]
Yes! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who got ticked off watching that show. I questioned whether or not the child even had autism. That is the last time I watched Super Nanny.
I see a lot of you talking about someone private coming in and helping set up structure in the home. I was wondering is there an organization or someone I can call because I would love to have someone help me with that but like everyone else not on national television. I live in Tampa, Fl so if you know anyone or anything let me know.
Thanks,
Sabrina
Exploitation is all it is! I saw a smattering of the show. Kids running amok. Parents standing by being made to look like total idiots.
Any parent who would actually put their poor kids through that to get attention should have their parental rights taken away. It's obviously unbalanced in view and set up to make everything seem awful at first and wonderful when they pull the cameras and leave them to their lives.
It's like most of the "Reality" (HA) shows. Or talk shows - why would anyone really get on maury and admit you are a sleaze sleeping with anything that moves unless it's for attention?
Tragic. Please don't get sucked into the reality fad folks. I hope it dies a painful death soon. Really.
I see the show doing a lot of good. It sure has made me think about how I react to my kids. Whatever the motives are for these families, I think the show has certainly brought out into the open how unprepared couples are to parent thier kids.There should be a required class on this stuff before you can become a parent.
Maybe if some of you would try being less defensive about the show, you might actually learn something from it. Or is that what you are afraid of?
Baily I'm glad you get something out of the show.
I also thing that part of a Pre-Natel program should be so many hours of a parenting class....Maybe insurance companies could say it is mandatory to take parenting classes if you want insurance to pay your medical bills.
I don't like the show because I don't think Good Normal parents would put their kids on the show so the world can see what bad kids they have. We just have to agree to disagree here:)
Glen:
The other day I had my TV on the channel that Maury was on...and I was in my computer room so just left the TV on for background noise. I was listening to Maury when it came on...SOmetimes I wonder if these people are real or are they hired actors...it they are real I am really becoming disappointed in the human race..LOL. Maury used to have pretty good shows..with a quieter audience....I can't stand the guy anymore...seems to me he is exploiting the unemployed and Low income people of the US...mostly of the Black communitee...it's really sad. Do you some countries see shows like this and actually think the average American is like these people. I have a friend from Holland that was telling me about it:)
I agree to disagree but I think that parents who are willing to do this show are DESPERATE. They are at the end of their ropes and are willing to try anything.I also hate shows like Maury but I don't think Supernanny can be compared to it.
Mainly because at the end of Supernanny, the participants are happy about the outcome. At the end of Maury the participants are usually moe upset.
[QUOTE=Bailey]Tonight it is about a single mother raising 5 kids. The kids are apparently out of control due to the parents divorcing. [/QUOTE]
out of control due to the parents divorcing?????
wtf???? my father lost his father in the war. plus his three cousins came to live with them because their parents both died (i'm not sure how - could have been a bomb i guess) so there were six kids in all and only his mother to look after all six in a fricking tiny house in the middle of Glasgow. yet they weren't out of control.... with the trauma of losing both your parents too, that has to be way worse than divorce.
but those kids just did the best they could to help out their aunt/mother to help make it work and not be so difficult for all of them - and they had to be grieving.
this 'i'm outta control cos my parents divorced - oh woe is me' just smacks of self-indulgence and a me, me, me attitude - as far as i can see.
why does anyone give any credence or leeway to that kinda miserable, selfish, bullsh*t way of behaving? why????????????????
They want chaos on that show. From what I have seen of it the whole thing is kids breaking things and running around. They don't seem to let the parents try or the parents don't want to try but you then see cutaways to the "nanny" raising her eyes, making notes and little "tsk tsks". Bah!!
It's still crap!! That show exploits people's need for that "15 minutes of fame" and they just show the worst of humanity. I don't think that is healthy at all. It's like the trend to show people stuck in a house together whining about who took the peanut butter. Why not actually attempt to HAVE a life? Hell, I'm ADHD and scared spitless of it all and even I'm trying!!
I can't think of anything that would be more harmful or anything I'd rather do less than be a family for that show. My son always behaves better for strangers than he does for us. And what if something intensely personal or tragic happens? Do they go ahead and broadcast anyway? UGH! I can't believe the results would be long-lasting either. Supernanny leaves and wham! Everything goes back to the way it was before or worse.Of course I might reconsider if Supernanny cleans house. My carpets need shampooing too. Maybe I'd better apply......
The autistic child show really ticked me off as it is not how most autistic kids act and he seemed beyond just autism. We talked about that show, ad nauseum, on another board and it most of us angry. As for Supernanny, I don't believe anyone can walk into a house and change a family in a few hours. She gives standard behavior modification advice. If a child has a disorder, this most likely won't work long term and I'd love a report back from these families in a year. I think this show tends to make people think ADHD and other disorders are due to "poor parenting." Just flames the misperceptions that others have about our kids. I'm shocked that anyone would want their child's out of control behavior on television for everyone to see. I would never do that to my kid. I can get help another way and probably better help than from Supernanny or Dr. Phil. And it would be private. Did anyone see the show where she worked with a family who had an autistic son?
She taught the parents how to let him be a participant in the family. They had never really expected a whole lot out of the child but she showed them how to involve him. It was incredible the changes in the child. The parents spent half the show crying because they couldn't get over how much he could actually do when given the chance and the tools.
Someone mentioned that they would be afraid that the adhd would be downplayed and used as an excuse for bad behavior. I think quite often this does happen. I know I have done it. Kids with ADD are smart! They know how to work it.
I, for one, would be very intersted in seeing Jo Frost work with an ADHD child.
My son before and after medicine will have super nanny running all the way back to England, and that would be on a good day.Sing along with the super nanny,
"This is the way we take our meds,
Take our meds, Take our meds,
This is the way we take our meds,
So early in the morning!"
Thank you oldermom.
I do not want my kid's out of control behavior on TV. I think most of the families on Supernannny are very well to do, Supernanny wouldn't get her own room in my house. There are no stairs either.
Supernanny.
Well, it is a modification, it works in most cases,If there is an underlying medical problem, you have to address that as well.
So all things considered, would it help?, Probably. Will it be drastic? yes.
Will it be as big as is seen on tv? probably more so. Why?
Because adding structure will always make a huge difference in ANY life. And we adhd'ers need that.
If the nanny stuck to that, it would be ok, and a drastic change. And as long as the child didn't become bored with the structure, it would work. And only if she made the structure entertaining for the child.
BUT, she wouldn't. She would exclaim drop the medications. and start self dx'ing things and then EXCLAIM,,, I RECLAIM THIS CHILD IN THE NAME OF NO MEDICATIONS. And then go absolutely off the chart.
The child would be ok for the first month as the meds wear off, then whamo, the meds are gone and the kid goes ape, then the parents loose control, and spend the rest of their life trying to figure out where they went wrong, never finding the combination that works again, loosing interest in the structure and finally reverting back to meds and being medicated and without structure ALL over again.
I wonder how super nanny would do getting an ADHD child (Off Meds) to go to the naughty mat.momiss2, Can I watch??? lol[QUOTE=crazymama]My son makes me feel like enough of a moron, I do not need a professional Nanny to help with that. thank you but no.[/QUOTE]
.[/QUOTE] Mix that with an ODD too- that would be REAL interesting...I think there should be a supernanny for us adults with ADHD
I would be worried that the show would down play the diagnosis of adhd as an excuse. My son makes me feel like enough of a moron, I do not need a professional Nanny to help with that. thank you but no.Well I don't know about the rest of you but my Grandson would close right up if a stranger came to his house to find out about him. Heck we even have a hard time getting him in front of a camera. He was invited to a Cruise Wedding to be a ring bearer...he was all excited about it...put his tux on then saw how many people he didn't know sitting in the audience...Put his Brakes on and said he couldn't do it because everybody would look at him. Thank Goodness the Bride was forewarned that this might happen. She told him it was ok ..she was just glad he was able to be there to share her special day.
Of course is this a show that would try to make a parent feel guilty for putting their child on drugs....I would be very cautious . And really how much experience do these Nanny's have with ADHD children...
ABC’s Supernanny is currently looking for families that deal with ADD and ADHD related issues. We realize that many families confront these challenges everyday. Contact us at Supernanny@ricochettelevision.com or call us toll free at 1-877-Nanny TimeI can not imagine putting my ADHD child and the rest of my family through being on the show. yes there are some good ideas but putting my family through this would not be fair to them.chjones,
Not all kids act the same in divorce or death. As you know I don't condone this show. I feel if this lady is having problems with her kids she could go else where for help than on TV. Her Pastor...Her pediatrician....Family Services might even head her into the right direction for help...and where in the heck is the father in this? I think there should be a law that Fathers have to stay involved in their kids lives even after a divorce...the only exception would be if he was abusive.
My son and his first wife had a nasty divorce...but when it came time for the custody ruling...they decided to act like grown ups and decided they have to learn a way to get along for their child's sake....and they have and they have a very Happy Sweet little girl because of it. They live in different States but my son still gets his Daughter about 5 months out of the year...he talks to her on the phone weekly if not more. Keeping involved is what keeps the kids happier...and not so confused. Of course when kids are young it is Me...Me...Me...That is what their life is all about and it is up to the parent to teach them there is more to life then just them. Kids do not raise themselves they are dependent upon adults to teach them. That may have been the reason the cousins did so well...they had parents that took time to teach them. In some way when it comes to divorce it can cause grief to the children especially when the parent that leaves the family does not stay involved. Was this the second world war you are talking about.....Life back then was so much different then today...Not for the better either in some areas when it comes to kids.
Help is help. It isn't fair to judge people on how they decide to go about getting it.Those families don't appear to feel humiliated. They do, afterall, volunteer to do the show. they aren't being forced.
Maybe they have tried other avenues and failed. Maybe they feel this is a last chance. Whatever the reason, they are at least making the effort to better their families. Whether it's on national TV or not is besides the point.
Give them some credit instead of bashing them for trying.
I could not ever put my kids through that humiliation of being on national tv at their worst. There are other ways to get help than that. Seriously I can not even watch that show much less be in it.If it HELPED your family........wouldn't it be worth it??????
Sometimes you have to go through something painful to get the outcome you are looking for.