Small Victory! | ADHD Information
I am so happy right now. My dh FINALLY agrees that our son likely has bipolar. He has been fighting the diagnosis tooth and nail for almost a year now. He has been completely unwilling to believe it and was ticked that the docs even mentioned it. When he was home during our son's hospitalization I asked him as a favor to me to read through all the BP stuff I had printed out and highlighted even if he didn't believe it, he could forget about all of it after that, all I asked was that he read it with an open mind. I think it REALLY got through to him. Up until now he has been really fighting hard to keep him off meds, and every time I wanted to make a meds change I was having to battle him on it. He told me last week that he wasn't going to allow ANY more meds beyond what he is on now. That was really hard for me since he seems to desperately need something else. I just talked to him tonight and he said he bought a book and has been reading it about depression and he said there is a little girl in the book that sounds EXAXCTLY like our son and she has bipolar. He really thinks he has it now AND he said that despite what he said before he sees now that meds may really be able to change his life. While he hasn't agreed to the meds changes yet, this is a HUGE step for us, to have him on the same page as I am now and working on this together really gives me a lot of hope.On the flip side though today was a really bad day for my son. For the first time I really really believe that his stim is causing him to become manic. He had a bad day to begin with, being aggressive, in time out and very defiant all day. I gave him his afternoon dosage of meds and within an hour or so he was bouncing off the walls, he was running circles around my dad's house and when I told him it was time to leave after about 10 minutes he hid under the table and when I tried to put his jacket on him he went into a full blown tantrum and became aggressive towards me pulling my hair and biting me for the first time since his hospitalization. It is hard to see him reverting back to the way he was before he went into the hospital, but with the meds he is on(and not on) I really did expect it. I guess we will have plenty to talk about at our pdoc appt wednesday!
Let me post a few links for boards that are good for bipolar kids. The first one is excellent. There is a joining fee, and I hate that, but, if you can't afford it, you can get a waiver to join. Just e-mail them. Conduct Disorders has a lot of bipolar kids (as well as ADHD kids). You may find more help there. Yes, stims often make bp kids worse.
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Mom, it's great that you got DH on board FINALLY with accepting that your son may have bipolar. Now you just have to get the pdoc to prescribe a mood stabilizer. I really hope she listens to you Wednesday. If he is getting activated on stims, there's a good chance Prozac will do the same. Believe me, BTDT. You do not have to consent to giving your son the meds she suggests. I hope you can make your case and stick to your guns. Good luck. I'll be thinking of you. Please let us know what happens.
That is wonderful that your husband is coming around. I can imagine your relief and how difficult things must have been on you. My husband doesn't fight me on the issues with our children but he's not really with me either.
Your son will benefit greatly having both of you supporting him.
Great news and the best of luck to you.
Maybe! She better to something! I will let you know how it goes.Yikes! Did you think it would help if I called your pdoc up and said Dylan really really really needs a mood stabilizer?
Sorry about today. Here's hoping the appointment on Wednesday makes a difference.
Thanks smallmom. Oh, forgot to add before he kicked my little one he wrapped his hands around his neck and tried to strangle him!
Oldermom, thank you for the links, they are wonderful. I have actually been a member of bpkids since before they started charging a fee. I am in chat there almost every day(some days without anyone else there though! )That site has really been my saving grace. They make me feel "sane" again! 
Smallmom~ I do realize that we do not have to consent to whatever the doc recommends. I have told her no probably more times than I have told her yes! I really hope our appt comes quickly because I am losing my mind! Today was another terrible day. My son ran away in the University hospital's parking lot and he is QUICK! I had to pick up my 3yo and try to chase Dylan down. Needless to say it took me a while to get him, the only reason I did was because I outsmarted him. When he got into the hospital he ran circles around the area that has the elevator and I ran the opposite way that he did! Unfortunately I learned that one because he has done the same thing before. He also kicked his brother really hard in the thigh with shoes on and I felt so bad because I couldn't even comfort him because I was having to restrain Dylan in a crowded elevator! ARGH!