I don’t know what else to do! please help | ADHD Information

Hi

I am new to this board and would love some info. I have a 12 1/2 year old daugher who was diagnoised with ADHA when she was about 8 years old. I believe she had it at a young age, but I just didn't know about this condition. My question is, do ADHD kids lie about almost everything? Or is this just an age thing? I am so at my wits end. Her father and I have taken things from her, no stereo, no friends over, no anything. She was getting decent grades for awhile, but know she is failing math and reading. I don't understand how she can pass, chorus, social studies, french and others. I'll ask her if she has any homework and she will say "no". And of course I find out later that she did have homework. Currently, she is grounded from all activities. But this seems to not do any good for her lying or doing her homework and studying for test.(which I always tell her I will help her study for). PLEASE any suggestions would greatly be appreciated!

thanks again.
Can you talk to her teachers and ask that they send her homework assignments directly to you?  I know some schools where the teachers set up a spiral homework notebook where each teacher writes in it what homework, if any, the child has.  Then they initial it.  Then your daughter would have to show the homework notebook to you every night and you'd sign off on it.  Just a suggestion.  THANKS MISSOURIMOMMY

They do agendas they have to write homework in and I have talked with her teacher about it. Kellie is supposed to get the teacher to sign her agenda everyday. She is supposed to be starting this today. Hopefully this will work.


your daughter might be totally different from me BREE but the moment i started to do badly in a class --- was exactly the moment i couldn't bear to have anything to do with the subject.  i couldn't face failure.  i would rather not hand something in - and get a zero than get a 'low' mark.

it might not be the same for your daughter - but that was (to a certain extent) how it was for me. 

i was academically a very bright student, i was used to being top of the class all the time --- so in the subjects where i suddenly wasn't, i couldn't even bear to think about them.  if i had had the chance - i think i would have deliberately skipped the classes to give me an 'excuse' for not being at the top, something that could 'explain' why i was getting bad marks (other than i was too thick/stupid to make the grade). 

maybe you could get her confidence back up by really helping her out with her math homework - so that she starts to excel, get excellent grades again.  for me, that was always a huge motivation.....  just a thought!

all the best