Tough Love Sucks | ADHD Information

Hang in there!  I know it's tough.  I've been  there before with our son.  I know that it's hard to not give in.  However, if you do, they seem to remember this forever, and they will not take you seriously when you try to discipline them.  It is important to be firm and consistent!  Good luck!

It's been a while since I posted.  My son (8yr old, ADHD/ODD) has been doing VERY well lately.  This week however has been not so great.  Today another student @ school, hit my son.  So my son hit him back.  Things got worse & my son is suspended on Monday. 

Between the suspension, him putting his hands on someone, and him calling his teacher a stupid b***h...i HAD to tell him he could not go to his God-Brother & Sister's birthday part.  He had a HUGE meltdown.  He tore off  the positive quotes that are posted on his bedroom wall.  My boyfriend/his mentor got him an AWESOME football jersey for Christmas and he tore it up.  He said he hated me.  He said he wsa gonna run away tonight.

Now..that he's had sometime to calm down, he has come to apologize to me.  But my heart is broken. I want him to play with other kids. He doesnt really have any friends.  His God-brother & sister live about 2hrs away.  I know this is the right decision, but I want to give in SO badly and let him go and have fun just like a regular good natured kid.

I agree it does suck.  I hope the other boy was suspended too.  It sounds like he got him back.  At least he didn't throw the first punch.  Its sad when you have to take something away, but you did the right thing.  My son was suspended for hitting someone back, in P.S.  He spent the day in his room, and was grounded as well.  He didn't like it.  Now your son knows what will happen if he goes overboard the next time.  Good Luck and hope he doesn't do it again.  I think my son was suspended twice for 1 day each time.  He's 15 now and hasn't been suspended, although we get a few calls about homework not being completed-then he's grounded again.  I don't feel so sorry for him now, but back then I did-because he had much less control.Are you satisfied that your child's ADHD diagnosis is the entire picture? Just wondering. Sounds kind of over-the-top for ADHD.mbond, I'm sorry for what you're going through.  I've been there, too and it's so hard.  Hang in there because momiss2 is right.  It will get better.  I have found that my ds does much better when I'm strict.  He justs spirals out of control when I let him do what he wants.  Don't let him know that this hurts you, he'll just take advantage of that.  My ds knows that when I issue a punishment, I'm serious and he's not going to get out of it.  My heart goes out to you.

[QUOTE=OlderMom]Are you satisfied that your child's ADHD diagnosis is the entire picture? Just wondering. Sounds kind of over-the-top for ADHD.[/QUOTE]

Hello Older Mom.  "Technically" my son has been diagnosed w/ ADHD comorbid w/ ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder)..that's where the "over-the-top" kicks in.

I REALLY-REALLY-REALLY appreciate everyone's feedback!  Extremly encouraging to know I am not on this unique journey alone. THANK YOU!

 

Tough Love does suck but apparently you found a consequence that means something.  Not always an easy task.  You can do this and do not let him now that you are upset.  I have yet to find a thing that will work discipline wise with my son.  You can do this just hang tough.