New Mom on the Board... | ADHD Information

I am also new to the board and I am aready very impressed with all the support and great advice that you people have given.  My son was diagnosed with ADD when he was six years old now he is seven.  I requested a team meeting in his school. We call this meeting a PPT meeting.   I had to talk to the school psychologist, the teacher, and my son's outside therapist to get this meeting.  I also went to a Nerologist to get the ADD diagnosis.  This took around six months and my psychologist said that was very quick.  I hoped that helped.

Welcome!  Glad you found us.

 

I'm new to the board as well, and my son, also 9 was just diagnosed. I am in the same situation as you. We suspected a long time, but just now got dx. My husband and I both agree, but my parents and my mom in law don't. They think he is perfect. Maybe we can be email buddies, and support each other through this. I am quite overwhelmed, as I'm sure you are too. Take care.

Hello there...

A friend from work sent me this website in order to find out more information on ADHD and find others dealing with this disorder. My 9 year old son was diagnosed last Friday with ADHD. Even though I suspected before the results that this could be true I was in kind of shock. Unfortunately, his dad feels that this is just "growing up". I am fortunate that the school has been working closely with me about what is the best road for my son. His dad and I do have a meeting,though, with his counselor, who is located in the Family Center that is right on campus, this week in regards to future counselling sessions. Counselor is aware of dad's feelings. My son is also about to attend special tutoring classes.

It is so nice to find a website to really find support with this.

 

 

Well, you were given some good advice to come here. Many of us have gotten a LOT of help and support here. Even though some of us have found out that ADHD wasn't what our child had after all the ladies here helped guide us in the right direction. I know a lot of us have dealt with our spouses not agreeing with the diagnosis. It really took my husband a LONG time to come around and in some ways it is still a battle with him. Our son has even been hospitalized for his behaviors and he STILL will tell you that he's just having a hard time with things, he's fine. What really helped the most with my husband is giving him his space, and finally he agreed to read through a bunch of materials that I felt perfectly described our son and I highlighted the parts I wanted him to read. He agreed to read it and sure enough he is doing MUCH better with it now. He has told me though that it is the hardest thing for him to realize that something might be "wrong" with our son. He wants to believe he is perfect. Who was it that diagnosed your son? What interventions do you have in place(or plan to have in place)?

Hello to all.........

Well, as you can see by the smilie I picked how I am feeling right now. Dad did not show up to the session. His excuse is that he got the days mixed up. (**Even though I told him the night before and that morning.) He also has issues with his son speaking with a woman instead of man.

Well, the counselor said that without his signature my son can not attend counselling. My little guy was very sad this morning. He had asked if he could talk to the counselor and I had to tell him that he couldn't go yet. He asked if it was because his Dad didn't go to the meeting. In a round about way I said yes but Dad forgot. He shut down and didn't want to go to school or eat breakfast. Even upon seeing this Dad is still in complete denial.

The school and I will be attempting again.

Thanks for listening.

Hello again....

Thanks so much for your responses. It was first brought to our attention by the teacher & counselor. Officially diagnosed by the hospital after testing. Currently have I believe it's called an "IEP" in place with the school. (**Sorry...new with the terms.**) One of the things that will also be done, by the school, is a psychologist will be monitoring him in the classroom at two different times. My son also will be attending special tutoring (which he has been told that he got specially picked for by his teacher...who he likes very much.) His dad and I will be attending family counseling with him. He will also have private counseling too.

I would like very much to be email buddies.

Thanks again for your support!!!

Welcome....Reading these post just bring back those memories.  My daughter was diagnosed when she was 4 ADHD.  I have learned one day at a time because each day brings new challanges and new joys.  You are taking the right steps it seems quite overwhelming at first but the goal is what is best for your child just hold on to that idea.

You will find great support here and you will find that you are not alone.

Good Luck!

Hello....

IEP - Individual Education Plan

As far as meds....haven't gone that route. The hospital actually wants to tryout the methods that we have organized with the school to see how that goes. The doctor actually will only go to meds for a last results.

Thanks...Sheryl

Can someone tell me what a IEP is? 

Smile4u2- Welcome.  I have a 12 year old daughter dx two years ago and we still haven't gotten completely used to it or on the right meds.  What did they put your son on?
I still cant get the school to provide a tutor for my son.
though, report cards came today and the teacher wrote improved all over everything everywhere!
we're pretty darn happy with that.

I cried the day they finally officially diagnosed my son ADHD...but I had known he was Hyperactive from the time he was 2.  the pediatrician always denied it, but I knew.

I still cried.

Its the finality I think.  You'll be glad you're here on the board.  Lots of great support,  some flakes, but mostly good support.

I probably dont post as often as I should, but I know when I need support, it'll be here with the exception of one who's been quite annoying of late.

Im sure you'll hear from him soon enough.
gah!

good luck and welcome to the fold!
You seem like you have everything together. I have no idea on how to go about getting an iep. Any advice? He does pretty well at school. He holds it together well and then comes home and explodes! Evening is the worst time of day, and getting him to do homework. He does have problems working in groups at school. He's also bothered by the other kids and super sensitive to them, and also to noise, tags, light, etc. I too have just heard about this site.  It's good to know I'm not alone.  My stepson, who lives with us full time, was diagnosed a year ago.  He is almost 9 now.  I suspected it when I first met him 3 years ago but it was a long uphill battle to get the schools to agree.  They blamed his father, his past and "learned behavior".  We took him to 8 months of therapy before deciding on medication.  Unfortunately we still haven't found the right combination.  He started on Ritalin, moved to Ritalin LA and is now on Concerta in the am and a Ritalin booster in the pm.  My question is about his immature behavior.  At almost 9, he has no friends, cannot ride a bike, messes in his pants and doesn't change them until he showers at night.  He hides the soiled underware in his room until the stench is overwhelming.  Therapy was not cheep so we stopped.  The kid has issues and I don't know what to do with him anymore.  Advice is greatly appreciated.Hello! We got the dx of adhd in 2nd grade and it was devastating. However, when we got past that we said, "That explains a lot!!" Anyway, this bd is a great place to get support and a huge amount of information as you start looking for how you want to treat your child. We use homeopathy with great results. Our sons biggest changes came with improved moods, behaviors, emotions. Focus on tasks is slowly coming into the picture. But the improvements is everything else make the focus issue managable. My personal advice is to read Ritalin Free Kids. It gives an over view of homeopathy with lots of case studies. Most libraries have it so you don't have to purchase it. Good luck and welcome!!Hi! I was very resistant to my son's adhd diagnosis. He is the inattentive type and from what I have read, that type was not even recognized as adhd until the late '80's. When a librarian handed me a book on ad/hd at the administrative library, I said, "Not THAT one!" Anything but ad/hd!

Before that, inattentives were thought to be just lazy, etc. I think many (if not all) parents go through the stages of grief when they get the dx. Some get stuck in denial. I just finally read everything I could get my hands on until I felt I understood as best I can.  Then I shared what I've learned so far with my parents and husband. Fortunately, they have seen the positive results of treatment and accept the diagnosis.  Now they accept my recent ad/hd diagnosis as well!

Best wishes to all y'all!

Hello to all...

Once again thanks for all the support

I was asked how the IEP came about and how to get one. Well, teacher/counselor/principal actually take time to check the scores of all the students and then have a spreadsheet with students that need an IEP. (I should also mention that this is being done in San Mateo County in California and might be different in your area/state) I would first talk to your child's teacher and then go up the line of command.

I received a letter from the hospital from the psychologist, yesterday, with her recommendations on what possibly the school can do to help my son. Actually looks pretty good. I will be bringing this for tomorrow's counselling session. My hubby is really having a hard time with this. Not sure if he is actually attending the session tomorrow. Trying to keep together though.

Talk to you all soon.

 

hi...I'm new here too.   I've been reading the boards and  so many people have similar stories...I know I found the right place to talk

My daughter is 14 and has ADHD (inattentive)  My 9 year old son has ADHD also.  My husband has big issues with this and neither one of my kids has tried medication yet.  We've done everything else imaginable to help them and now that I've exhausted all other treatment options we are finally considering medication.  My husband believes my kids are perfect as they are and that their difficulties are controllable.  It doesn't help that when we first had my daughter evaluated we were told she was not ADHD (her TOVA was within normal limits)  Because she continued to have problems I had her re-evaluated a year later (after much arguing with my husband) and they said she has moderate ADHD.  Big difference but my husband still chooses to believe the first diagnosis.  Anywho...to make a long story short, she has finally spoken up and told her father she wants to try the meds.   It's her first year in high school and she's tired of people telling her she's stupid (even though she gets decent grades).  She's tired of people telling her she's dizzy, of having to retrieve forgotten books and homework from her locker, of just not having her hw at all...of not realizing she HAD homework, of spending all of her time trying to take care of her responsibilities and not having any time left over to enjoy being a kid.

So...this looked like a good place to say hello to you all.  I guess I'll be seeing you around the boards :)