Ignore some behaviors? | ADHD Information

Is making noises an adhd symptom? My son does this all the time. He will just run around the house making noises, or while doing homework.

Mornings...this may sound cruel but my daughter has 15 minutes to get dressed. If she is not dressed she goes to school in her PJs. It took her 2 times and she has gotten dressed everyday after that within the time allowed. We did you the timer but I kept it with meso that she could not change the change the time. When it went off she was taken to the breakfast table crying and screaming. While eating I gathered up her clothes and put them in a bag. Do not let me cover this with sugar she went to school kicking and screaming. I pulled her into the car and walked her into school with her bag of clothes.. I do think peer preasure helped me fight this battle. When I picked her up she was dressed in her clothes. A few days later she did not get dressed again clothes in bag and too school. At age 8 going to school in your PJs just was not cool. She is now 9 almost 10 and dresses her self every morning. My DD does have ADHD and is medicated but she is an honor roll student with straight "As" so anything can be achieved.

I know it is hard but you have to do what is best for your child.

I too sometimes pick and choose my battles as for discipline my childs psychologist told us to take privelages away only give the child some control over their punishment. I was told to when she misbehaves she loses say computer time but not for a day but until she can show me good behavior choice one, choice two she can do a chore and earn the privelage back. The child would then have the control to decide how long the punishment will last and which it will be. My girl has Moderate to severe ADHD and ODD and this works for her.

IMac38945.886712963yes making noises could be an indication, but alot of kids are smart enough to handle mild forms of adhd. One doc says she can walk into any class room and seem some signs in just about ever kid, its just that some cant handle it as well and some are worse off than others. ADHD is considered to be a mild form of Autism, so if you read up on Autism you can get to the science behind it all and the root causes. ADHD docs usually dont get to the root cause they just treat the symptoms with meds. They can get by with this because ADHD is mild in comparison to the multi issue autistic kids that are in much worse shape. Coach, please provide your source on ADHD being considered a mild form of Autism.Jillette:

First nice to 'see ya'. <smile> And this sounds WONDERFUL! ok now like what constitutes 'good behavior'? Because my son can turn it ON and OFF like within a millisecond. (seriously) another thing...he's a boy and has 'no' chores except to keep his room clean and he's great at that...really, really great at keeping it clean...(hard to believe but he does). I really like your system that your doing with your lil' one...but I guess what I'm asking is...ok like this. (I understand that the 'issue' is made to fit the punishment/taking away privledges, etc.) He comes home from school and got into THE BOOK (yes they still have that friggin' book) for reading when he was supposed to do Math...was told to put his book away and refused to listen...soooooooo teacher makes him go to the BOOK and write his name and why. On the way from school in the Martial Arts van he YELLS (because he likes to yell he told us) and we classify this as a safety issue. Driver has been BEGGING him to be quiet because it does make her nervous (DUH...like it would me too; especially with 16 other kids) anyway...gimme some ideas is what I'm asking. We've been using the SENTENCE method and also ignoring his 'silly' behaviors in the morning time and he had 4 GREAT DAYS last week...NOTE: this is a record for our son. We were tickled and we're doing something 'special' with him today (his choice) for having a great week...(I think he's choosing putt putt golf or fishing...he's trying to decide) I know this is getting kinda long...but I really like the idea that you use...let us/me know more about it.[QUOTE=laurapalmer]

is that the same son with the * on his foot? my daughter hates certain toothpaste too!

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LOL....yeah...wart boy doesn't like strong minty flavors, and his breath is too nasty for the bubble-gummy toothpaste. But he Crest sensitivity is great....but sometimes hard to find......

Tryan92038795.5241550926lol~they have way too much in common!

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[QUOTE=lostmyshoe]Hi Paul's Mom & Everyone,

I am Becca's Mom and I am frustrated with a teethbrushing problem my daughter has. My psychologist and other friends with kids with ADD have helped us come up with different methods of getting her to accomplish this without screaming but I failed miserably this morning. I confess, I blew it today. I know I have to use consequences and rewards but sometimes I just get frustrated and wind up yelling. I guess this is going to take some time to switch gears. I am also trying a toothpaste that is more palatable then most types seem to be. Not only does she despise brushing but she can't stand the taste. I'm going to try Tom of Maine's again and see if we can find a flavor that is mild. I sure hope it works. My daughter is also 11. I guess we all have our particularly rough spots with our kids and I'm just glad to knw I am not alone in this. Goinsunshine, I would also like to know more about the homiopathec methods. Good luck Paul's Mom. I'm right there with ya. Dee
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My son has a hard time with strong tasing toothpaste too, I use Crest sensitivity mild mint....he loves it....

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is that the same son with the * on his foot? my daughter hates certain toothpaste too!

I would like to know more about the marble system. As I am new here, please point me to the thread.

My son talks incessantly and has now started to whisper to himself when he isn't jabbering on to me or making some other form of noise.

I fear what my son really thinks of me. I would not be surprised if he thinks I am some sort of witch for constantly telling him what to do, over and over. I can see his eyes just glaze over and he stares right through me. And we are back to square 1 as he still hasn't done what needs to be done. More than once I have just thrown my hands up in despair.

My son has ADHD and Tourretts. Noises are an everyday part of our life. it is not uncoomon for these two disordes to go hand in hand. Sleep, there are nights that he doesn't sleep much at all and nights where he sleeps right away. As long as he is in his bed... I don't care. When he was young, the only way I could get him to slow his brain down was to snuggle with him facing the blank white wall and doing relaxing breathing. Now, his white noise is music.

Discipline. Natural consequences. You forget it.. to bad. You are not ready in the morning, all the way to your shoes and medicine, then no play station. cutting back on the tv has helped his focus alot. I am AMAZED at how fast that tv sucks him in. He is a good kid and it has certainly gotten easier. We have done charts and timers and yelling and spanking. I guess the best thing has been patience and natural consequences. Ever take a child to school in his pajamas? I have... only happened once.

I have be so tempted to leave my son in the morning as I know by the time my husband is ready to take him to school, he will still have his pj's on. And I know how totally distraught this will make him. I am so afraid with his behavioural issues that this will do him more harm than good. And so I press on. No natural consequence here and I don't know which way to turn. Well since I posted this (which I think was Mon.) I 'have' ignored his 'morning' behaviors...the noises, talking to himself, telling him "what should you be doing right now", etc. and surprisingly he had 3 GREAT days! Now Thurs. was the day that didn't go so well...ok so I say no biggie...everyone has an 'off' day...well he knew that there would be no tv, gameboy, or Lmax but I suggested that if he acted like a 'bigboy' during bath time, dinner, brushing his teeth etc. that he would be able to do his LeapPad..he was excited but then as soon as we got home it seemed like he was trying to be as NOT big boy like as possible...I DID again ignore his behaviors but let him know that he lost his LeapPad priviledge as well. Today (Fri.) is a 'new' day...we 'forget' about yesterday and focus on today. Oh: here's a tip that works GREAT for me...about 5 min. before it's time to literally walk out the door I take my keys and let him HEAR me get my keys and he right then and there knows it's about time to go...never had to take him to school in PJ's...and 'knock on wood here'; here's 'never' been late. So I do look at some of the other parents here and realize that they do have it much worse...but hey we're all different.. TRY to keys thingy...just rattle them and believe your child will ASK if it's time to go. Just give it a try and see what happens: I'd love to here any feedback on this technique. Hi Paul's Mom & Everyone,

I am Becca's Mom and I am frustrated with a teethbrushing problem my daughter has. My psychologist and other friends with kids with ADD have helped us come up with different methods of getting her to accomplish this without screaming but I failed miserably this morning. I confess, I blew it today. I know I have to use consequences and rewards but sometimes I just get frustrated and wind up yelling. I guess this is going to take some time to switch gears. I am also trying a toothpaste that is more palatable then most types seem to be. Not only does she despise brushing but she can't stand the taste. I'm going to try Tom of Maine's again and see if we can find a flavor that is mild. I sure hope it works. My daughter is also 11. I guess we all have our particularly rough spots with our kids and I'm just glad to knw I am not alone in this. Goinsunshine, I would also like to know more about the homiopathec methods. Good luck Paul's Mom. I'm right there with ya. Dee
You can't ignore the hitting and the choking can you and my other two they get so frasterated at their brother that they have started hitting him back. and then all three of them are in time out.

[QUOTE=CMRsmom]You can't ignore the hitting and the choking can you and my other two they get so frasterated at their brother that they have started hitting him back. and then all three of them are in time out.[/QUOTE]

DUKE and the Great Pie War - by Veggie Tales...a lesson about loving your family. This is just a suggestion: I don't know how old your children are but "I" enjoyed watching this one with our son. ANYTHING Veggie Tales is oriented toward 'learning' something...also Minnesota Cuke - lesson about bullying/bullies is available. However I don't blame the other 2 children for hitting back - I'm sure it hurts and they REACT before thinking also. We always teach our children (all of us) to 'not' hit...it's unnacceptable...re-enforce this talk perhaps with ALL children. You can go here and find out more: http://www.bigidea.com/

LOST MY SHOE: Try 'nothing' on her toothbrush for a while. NOTHING. Just stand at the bathroom door and 'watch' her brush her teeth. I know this may sound silly but I stand at the door at times and count to 60 (which is how long you're supposed to brush your teeth). HOWEVER I'm counting in a very silly voice. Our son has never had an issue with the 'taste' of toothpaste though; we use Crest for Kids. But before we used that we tried the bubblegum flavored toothpaste and he loved it. Have you tried this? IF SO then by all means just use good ole water and let her brush away...at least she'll get into the habit of brushing her teeth. Another thing...a flouride rinse...Hope this helps some. Oh and don't feel guilty about yelling...(which we can't help but feel guilty) but anyhow we all do it, we all get fed up and wanna scream. I personally feel that it's NORMAL. After I throw a tirade I do let my son know that I shouldn't have to YELL to get his attention and that I'm going to try harder NOT to yell. And I do apologize for yelling at him.

Terrific job!!! I am Pauls Mom.

Oh, and as far the pajamas to school. The change of clothes go with... his option was to get dressed in the car or show up in the pajamas. Completly up to him. He was 5 then and 11 now. :)

I started this and it is a �hands on� discipline program that most ADHD kids will respond to. ADHD kids need to participate in their discipline. They do well if they are able to have hands on and participate in. If they can see it, they will respond to it. This is what I do. I keep a log, but he is the one to add and remove the marbles. I am also ADHD, so this system works for me to keep consistency in our home.