Our son was dx ADD last year. He's gets distracted easily, have time management problems, is impulsive and very active. He is not overly hyper, in fact he didn't have behavioral problems at school. All his teachers loved him and said he was well behaved and social. He has no problems making friends, even though he's not friends with every kid. We got concerned because he couldn't focus and we felt he was not reaching to his full potential. We was evaluated and diagnosed which didn't surprise us much.
After diagnosis he started taking adderal and he had done A LOT better in school. He is pretty good in math and is average in other subject. He's a little behind in reading. My point is that he doesn't have major problems at school. He won't be an straight A student but he's fine.
On the other hand our day to day life is a struggle. To get him do things takes forever, We need to be on top of him so he gets things done. It is draining and it affects the whole family dynamics.
But what have me concerned now (and that's the reason I started checking this board) is that for the first time we are getting complains from other parents in the neighborhood because our son is being aggressive with other kids in the school bus. We don't know what's going on. He seems to be friends with some of those kids. This is new to us. He's also been saying that everyone is mean to him, but we've seen that others kids like him and accept him well.
We don't know what's the best way to address this. I want to make clear to him that agressive behavior is unacceptable but at the same time want to be simphatetic if he feels attacked or overwhelmed. Any suggestions?
I would ask him to describe each situation in detail and then describe a better way that he could have handled it---try to help him develop the tools he needs to handle this situation.
The school bus seems to be a problem for these kids. It is very unstructured, the kids are so close together, and kids are just plain mean sometimes. I would expect the worst if I put my son on a school bus. Do you have any transportation alternatives?
Could you give him a small MP3 player that clips on the wait and instruct him to just listen to music on the bus?
NoTellin38790.4279861111Has he started new meds? Adderall? Straterra? [QUOTE=NoTellin]The school bus seems to be a problem for these kids. It is very unstructured, the kids are so close together, and kids are just plain mean sometimes. I would expect the worst if I put my son on a school bus. Do you have any transportation alternatives?
[/QUOTE]