Or do what i did: take meds, find techniques that work for you, get better at your job and then find another job, better for you. I did that and my old bosses, who were at one point ready to fire me begged me to stay. Too bad for them though, I found a much better and more interesting job now, and my new manager actually thinks I'm super organized (you should have seen me six months ago!). Anyway what feels even better is to know that the old bosses are not happy with the new person they got. Too bad for them for not recognizing talent when they had it! You know what they say: the best revenge is to live well.
Well i'm not seeking vengence on them. Most are taking my side but one person wants me let go. I actually feel bad for them for causing this internal conflict. Its not the job so much as just that I cant listen when given insturctions so i screw up. I just need some independence.I wasn't suggesting you give up. I went through several jobs that didn't fit, until I found one that did - and I am very happy with my career now. I never would have found a place where I can really succeed if I hadn't been "encouraged" to move on from other jobs.
I know from my own experience that it helps to have a plan instead of waiting for someone else to make decisions for you.
Most of us have trouble keeping a job, at least until we find the right one. My two cents, start looking for another job right now. Even if things work out with your current job, it helps bring down the anxiety level when you know you have options. If possible, it is best to stay long enough to look good on your resume - if not, leaving still looks better than fired. If you get offered a better job, take it.
All anyone can expect you to do is your best -- that includes YOU. If you do the best you can, don't beat yourself up over other people's opinions. If your best isn't good enough for other people, hit the road, the employment ads and the headhunting agencies. Too many people thrive on negativity and drama - you don't have to play that game.
Well the point of me getting this med is so I don't need to find a new job and that is my plan. I'm not about to give up on my future career yet because im gonna find a med that works. Your post really made me mad and makes it sould like I should just give up.
[QUOTE=jman05]Well the point of me getting this med is so I don't need to find a new job and that is my plan. I'm not about to give up on my future career yet because im gonna find a med that works. Your post really made me mad and makes it sould like I should just give up.
Also I am waiting to hear about a electrical job but it wont be untill this fall.
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Well, at least it sounds like you know exactly what you want and what method you are going to use to try to achieve it.
You're 24 and therefore you are an adult. You have rejected the suggestion to deal realistically with the possibility that you could lose your job even though you don't want to lose it and are trying to avoid losing it. However, you've probably put a lot of thought into this and know what you're doing, so good luck!
jman - we've all been there. But your fear of imminent failure is going to end up being a self-fulfilling prophecy if you don't get a grip on it - and fast.
First thing to do is ask yourself where the anxiety is coming from. Do you not like your chosen field? If so then you won't get far with or without ADHD. Most people find that unless they have an extremely tough skin then keeping a job you don't like at 24 is nearly hopeless.
If you love your job but the responsibilities are the problem you may have to take a deep breath and discuss this with your jobs' human resources person. They should know that you have ADHD so your job can be adjusted to aid your inclusion in the company. Most companies have a very good policy about making sure people with disabilities are made to feel comfortable and included in the way things work. You should consider it if this is why.
If the job is loved and the responsibilites light then maybe it's the people around you. Do you feel uncomfortable with the people in the work area you are in? Maybe you might want to analyze why - if after that you still feel justified then a talk with the manager of your area may help you.
Do all this if you can. Get therapy too - anxiety is our enemy and meds alone just won't cut it (unless you learned how to cope with it at about age 5). Talk to someone!
And best of luck.
To find out what kind of work you would love you can take a tool called Strong Interest Inventory. It will compare loads and loads of your answers to questions about your likes and dislikes and compare it to those to thousands of professions and it will tell you what kind of professions like the same things like you. It's kind of hard to explain. I took it in business school and it came up with the field that i am in (and like) as well as a few others that I would totally consider a great career options and might use later in life. You can learn more about it here
http://www.discoveryourpersonality.com/Strong.html
Hi there jman;
Is it possible for you to take a leave of absence from your current job while you get your medication sorted out?
Or perhaps ...Is your boss one with whom you would be able to discuss your diagnosis? Would he/she understand your situation, maybe give you some assistance while you sort out your meds?
Hang in there, you will find something that will help you. However, I know from experience that going through medication trials while you are stressed and anxious is not always a good idea. I tried to do this, and ended up MUCH MORE stressed, and was unable to give any medication a real 'go' because I couldn't handle any side effects while trying to function properly at work....basically I got nowhere with either of them (i.e.; medication trials or work). Might be something to think about...
Best wishes!
[QUOTE=jman05]Well the point of me getting this med is so I don't need to find a new job and that is my plan. I'm not about to give up on my future career yet because im gonna find a med that works.