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Ah you would be surprised at how well I've learned to function while this has been going on...at least I know what the cause is and my Dr. gave me a prescription for Xanex. He told me that should slow your mind down...lol I bet I'll sleep like a baby by 10 pm tonight...lolI was wondering how you all cope with telling people you have ADHD. I dunno how to tell my friends or teachers. I know I have to but I told one teacher and he didn't even know it existed. How do you deal with people that think your just lazy and are making it up?

hilde.harmed - I dont tell people! None of their business, and in so far as what they think about me - I dont care about that either. I know I am a good person, doing as good as I can, and I just focus on my achievements myself and pat myself on the back - cause no other person will.

My motto, Keep Everybody on a Need to Know Basis.

, I am sorry, but reading all this venting is making me laugh. One of the few laughs I have had in a while - thanks all !. Maybe we should check on the planets see what is causing all this craziness

Isnt it good to get it all out in this forum where we all understand each other a bit and not take it out on our loved ones - even if they are driving us nuts.

Thankyou all for being there for me - i have had one of the hardest couple weeks in my life and I have a very sore head. So thanks for putting up with me if at anytime I may have been blunt, rude or not thinking before typing.

I love all my cyber allys!! & their wives & husbands. The world is a small place (we are all the same).

Regards Rae70

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My motto, Keep Everybody on a Need to Know Basis.

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Me too.

Thanks Harley Man...you just gave me the answer to a question that has been tearing me aprart for the past 6 months or so when I started my medication regarding the man in my life...not to put anyone out but to me this is an answered prayer...just to be able to finally understand what he's going through is a Godsend. Thank you again Harely Man...

Thanks for the input.

It has been a long hard road for my wife (over 20 years). I guess she was always hoping I would "get it together". But since I was diagnosed earlier this year, she is now realizing that I cannot ever "get it together". So I guess I don't blame her.

In typical ADD-style I was very good at pretending to be what I was not. I covered my tracks pretty well for many years. But the in the last few years I just could not keep covering and working around my ADD. At least now we know why so I don't think I am just nuts. So I unintentionally misled my wife into thinking I was something I was not back when we got married. So it is not her fault.

Thanks again for the responses.

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Hi Rae,

I really do understand where you are coming from. Here is my vent:

My wife often gives me a hard time about not getting out of the house for social activities and not having friends.

Well as it turns out, Friday I had a customer invite me to golf. Today I had someone invite me to golf, and I was invited to a BBQ Sunday.

So I got up this morning and was getting ready for golf. My wife got up and started to read me the riot act about cleaning out the garage, etc. She won't just schedule it for a specific weekend (she is tired of babysitting and playing the role of caretaker). So instaed she waits until I am ready to leave the house or go to bed to "nag" me about it (her words, not mine). Then she says "its fine if you want to go to a BBQ, but you have obligations as the husband and father and need to be able to schedule those things in also even if you don't really want to do them".

And I just said to myself "go ahead and put a f__ing bullet in my head and save yourself all the f___ing misery I am obviously causing you".

You know, "I'm sorry I have ADD, just whack me and toss me in a shallow grave so I can stop being such a friggin' burden on everyone".

I mean damn! I don't have single social activity for literally about two or three years, am constantly chastised for not having friends or being social, and when I do, I get a bunch of sh*t for forgeting and procrastinating on household chores.

My wife knows about my ADD and understands the disorder. But when it comes to me, it somehow is just a personal weakness.

The next time someone says this kind of thing to me I am going to ask them "so what do you do for fun, sign up one-legged men for ass-kicking contests"?

"How about sponsoring bird-watching clubs for blind people?"

Dammit, I cannot remember to do this stuff! I never complain about doing this stuff. If you are tired of reminding me and you do not feel like you want to take the responsibility to make a damned list, THEN DO IT YOUR YOURSELF OR LEAVE ME ALONE!

I'm sorry, the title of the thread was venting.

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I have been through an extremely similar set of circumstances with my wife. This may not be the right answer but here is what I noticed.

My wife has stuck with me through thick and thin. ADHD and before ADHD. From their standpoint, well, maybe yours as well, sorry, not so sure. But, my wife mentioned to me one evening that "It is really hard to see the person you have been with change so dramatically because of some little white pill. Sometimes I don't know who you are anymore, and I only bring up negative issues when you are about to leave or go to sleep. It is hard to not bring them up at these times because I don't feel like I fit into your life sometimes. I know you love us all but, I feel like I am sometimes being left behind while you are 'discovering the new you.'"

That discussion that night sent me reeling over the top. She had some really good points in there. Before ADHD diagnosis I did NOT like be be around people. Now I love it! Before I used to be a very frustratable, irritable, argumentative type person who would not ever want to go anywhere or do anything unless is was completely on my own terms. Now I am more busy than ever because, we are starting up our own business, coupled with the fact that I am still trying to learn how to respond, communicate with everyone, and most importantly freaking think. Those are all so difficult to handle as single issues let alone unleashing the genie from the little white pills!

Does that make any sense, or help out at all?

Ok, here is my vent. I attact FREAKS!

There is a crazy lady at work. And I do mean certifiable. She was hauled off to the mental ward one weekend, she is a drunk who drinks AT HER DESK, and she is a toxic crazy maker who has access to employee files, etc. (she's the office manager). She called and threatened to "blow everyone's head off" when she was in a drunken rage...and they STILL DID NOT FIRE HER.

Well, recently, I confidentially told HR I was being harrassed by a guy. It was supposed to be anonymous. They met with the guy and then told me "I tried very hard, but I did have to divulge your name." Okaaaaaaaaaay. Then they said, "We have told him he is in no way to retaliate." Okaaaaaaaaaaay. So, as an act of stupidity or retaliation, HE EMAILED THIS CRAZY FREAK AND TOLD HER WHAT I DID! She came back to my area and said outloud, "DID YOU HEAR WHAT BLUEBIRD DID???"

I wasn't there, my friend told me about it. Several people heard.

So, when I heard about it, I considered my options. I decided that, for once, I would just let it blow over and not make myself any more of a target. I could have made a big stink and got a lot of people in trouble, yes.

Well, this crazy lunatic is so drawn to drama that I think she wanted to try to get innformation from me directly. She has been asking me to lunch, saying "I never SEE you anymore" etc., and I just want to punch her right in her ugly face. My b-day is next week and she has been writing me emails about "what are we going to do for your b-day?" <Insert angry response here>

And on top of that.....

Awhile ago, she went shopping and called me on her cell phone (which is weird...and scary) to tell me that she had found the PERFECT picture for my new bathroom. Said she was going to buy it and I could return it if I wanted to. I'm like, "What? Ok. (whatever)." Well, it was cute, so I told her thanks and then as a courtesy I said, "how much do I owe you?" (thinking it was a gift). She said, "Oh it's --you can pay me anytime." GAWD! So, I paid her and just considered her to be very tacky.

Well, TODAY, she wrote to me and said, "I won't be able to come to your b-day (like I give a $hit and would prefer never to see her ever), but the picture I gave you is my gift."

OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

My new p-doc today said, "you are very sensitive about people, aren't you?" Umm..yes. I will forward her email to him, and maybe he'll become sensitive to her too.