Neighbor’s Daughter | ADHD Information

Video tape her doing it and then tell her you have her on tape.
If she doesn't stop being distructive, tell her that you plan to show the video to the police.  A little fear does wonders with some kids.
When she starts taunting your son, whip out the camera.  That should discourage her.  I suspect her home life is the reason for her actions.
IMac38945.8835648148Hi all.  I'm wondering how to handle this situation.  My next door neighbor's 10 year old daughter who lives in a small apartment complex is constantly trying to seek the attention of my 10 year-old son.  Once she mistook me for him and started calling his name over and over again stating she didn't like him until I stated, "I don't like you, either."  When she heard it was me, she ran off like a bullet.  But the situation continues.  If he's outside playing with his toys, his brother, or building forts in our yard, she'll throw sticks or fruit (there's an orange tree hanging in the middle of our fences) over the fence and call him profane names.  We've been putting up with this girl for a long while since we purchased the home, but yesterday after we told our boy to get in and as he was watching a movie with his younger brother, we suddenly heard a loud crash on our patio table that turned out to be two pieces of tile forcefully thrown onto our glass table from her side.  We didn't see who threw it so we couldn't make any sort of firm accusations but based on past history, we of course wondered if it was her.  My husband decided to intervene and spoke with this young girl's father who stated he didn't have a clue his daughter has been throwing things and/or harrassing my son, who is ADHD and autistic, to boot.  My husband also showed him the pieces of tile but stated he is not accusing his daughter of throwing the pieces because he didn't see her do it but that he needs to keep a better eye on his girl.  The father said he'd take care of it as the young girl witnessed the discussion and according to my husband seemed to display fear and shock in her face that my husband actually had the gall to discuss this situation with her father.  I'm wondering what to do when she starts again.  I don't want problems but I don't want my son having to stay inside too, too worried to play in his own yard.  Any suggestions?If any neighborhood child was cruel enough to pick on my autistic son, and the parents didn't take serious action, I'd call the police. Nobody should pick on a child with disabilities. Autistic kids have no idea how to defend themselves. See what happens now that the father knows. That's what I'd do. One more chance. We had the same problem with a neighborhood kid going to his uncle's next door and doing his best to make the other kids miserable. My husband and I both went to the parents but it wasn't until we threatened to press charges that it stopped. The kid continued to be verbally abusive in and around the school but I complained about that and its better.

If she continues, warn the parents that you will go to the police if necessary. Your son and his friends have a right to play in their yards without the fear of tiles flying over the fence and hitting them. That is too dangerous to let slide.

I have a similar problem with a 10 year old neighbor.  It is getting to the point where we will have to intervene and speak to the parents.  Unfortunately, from past experience - his parents back him up and encourage him!