3 almost 4 year old problems....NEED HELP | ADHD Information
hello and welcome.... i have a 4 yr old son. who is just like your daughter..he has been dx with bipolar...like oldermom said have her tested... dillon is very violent, not potty trained,we have a very hard time taking him anywhere and dillon won't do anything he doesn't want to do with out a fight... but he is a little angel at his babysitters... the only thing she has ever noticed is he is VERY hyper..i can say one thing your daughter loves you the most...
as weird as that sounds its true.. most children will only lash out on people they love the most..dillon would be so good for grandma..she would think we were the ones that were crazy..she would say he is a perfect little boy.. until one day he flipped out on her.. and once he did that each and everytime he went back to her home it only got worse..anyways i could keep going but i won't.. once again WELCOME. Welcome! I agree with OlderMom. You need to have your daughter evaluated by a neuropsychologist. Good luck.
I am not real sure how this forum works but I am going to give it a try. My 3 yr old daughter (will be 4 in May) is out of control! I know typical 3 yr olds, I have two older children. She is in school 1/2 day 4 days a week at a special education program and seems to do really well there, but she absolutely will not be good for me. I can't take her anywhere so my older children miss out on everything because I don't have the strength to fight her. If she doesnt want to do something, there is NO MAKING her. Her Dr tried to put her on Methlyn but she won't take medicine. It is a liquid (we've tried capsules) and sometimes I can Force her to take it but not always and not regularly and I am scared that that is dangerous and I don't see any improvement when she does take it. They didnt do any "testing" before perscribing it either. She is not potty trained and wants to wear pull ups. She does not talk good and is very very violent. My older two 7 and 10 are afraid of her and give in to her because she is so mean. I love her so much and at times she is loving but only on her terms. I don't know what to do and I don't feel like I am getting the answers I need from her doctor. She is worse for me than she is anyone else. If anyone has any suggestions at all I would really appreciate it!! Thanks
My advice: As one who has a son with autism spectrum disorder, take her to a NeuroPsych and test for it (as well as other things). Speech delays, potty delays, sensory issues, problems with transitions, and out of control behavior are all big signs of ASD. My son had all those symptoms. Many times these kids flip out when taken, say, to the mall because of all the stimuli around them--they freak out and get frightened and rage. They don't interact right with other kids either, but that doesn't become too apparent until they are older, when it becomes glaring (pre-teen when you can't explain it away as just immaturity anymore).They are very rigid and can't stop doing one thing and transtiion to the next. They often appear to be defiant when they are just being autistically rigid. Also, there is the frustration of not speaking well or at all. My son was taught some sign language until he could talk (age 4). He did not potty #1 until almost 4 and #2 until 5. Common with ASD. The first diagnosis is usually ADHD, but, imo, it's irresposible for whoever is medicating him to give him anything before intensive testing. But my son was also put on stims at three. They didn't help. A NeuroPsych can be found at children's and univeristy hospitals or any Neurologist can refer you to one (they usually work with one). The NeuroPsych will do a complete and long evaluation, over and above what other professionals do and hopefully you can get your answers sooner than we did. Our 12 year old ASD kid is doing great and is quite manageable now, although he wasn't at three--in fact, we adopted him because nobody else would take him. He was that much a handful. ASD kids can really improve. It sounds like it should be tested for and ruled in or ruled out. Autistic kids, if she has it, also have mood problems 30% of the time, so she also may have that too, which can be significantly improved with the right meds, but stimulants are bad for mood disorders and make violent kids more violent. I have a few links you can look at. Don't self-diagnose, but you can get an idea of a few other disorders aside from ADHD. Good luck!
www.childbrain.com (click on PDD/Autism, then make sure you find The Five Types of PDDs and click on them--look at PDD-NOS and Aspergers Syndrom. Take the PDD Assessment test too--it's good.)
www.conductdisorders.com (great site. It's being worked on now and should be up in about three days)
OlderMom38798.7473611111I would recommend the book The Explosive Child. I dont know the author. I know there have been other post recently about it. It might help with ways to deal with her outburst. I wish you luck. my son is the same age than your little girl and has the same problem exactly,the psychiatrist said he was a headstrong,determined control freak.they make me feel that it is my fault that i let him do what he wants.and that i am not strict enought with him i resent this as i have a 9 year old girl who is an angel.i think i know how to raise a child.when i try to reason with jude or to get him to do something it is like talking to a wall.whatever i say,he will do what he wants