Over the past couple of years, I've developed some new skills. Now, I have learned from the experiences and realize what I'd do differently in those situations. However, it seems I'm often a step too late.
If I had figured x out a year ago, I'd be much happier with my circumstance, etc. It's not as bad as it used to be - I don't generally get fired now, and I don't make really obvious mistakes but I do make the kinds of mistakes that people make when they don't have as much positive experience. And, that makes sense since I only have a few years of experience making an effort while taking the add into account.
Someone on here posted that people with add often act about 2/3 of their age - which would make me about 26, and, in many ways, that's about how I act. And, like someone 26, I'm ready for my life to come together now.
My current challenge in relationships is to learn to be more honest about myself - as having lived my life with add symptoms, along with stubborness, etc - there are some embarassing years and circumstances to account for. However, I think part of my problem is also that I learned to be private about my life when I was a child, as that was a coping mechanism of a parent as well.
Clear communication, connection with some (and knowing with whom), intimacy with a few, contribution, spirituality, (along with the survival needs) - Those are my goals now. I realize that these are a bit higher on Maslow's triangle of needs, and I am thankful for that. However, I'm ready now to finally get there ... and I'm so sick of missing the boat.
well good for you for finally getting there... that's fantastic