My inconsistent parenting (telling him no - him throwing a rage - me giving in)
Not giving adequate consequences, rewards, and being firm (i.e. MEANING whatg I say and SAYING what I mean, every single time, consistently)
He was on stimulants and not Bipolar medications, hence being over stimulated and already manic[/QUOTE]
http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17691& KW=imac&PN=0&TPN=1
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That is a very insightful quote, I appreicated that you sent it to me.
However, my parenting style is very different. I will not give in. I will ground him and take things away from him if he acts out. I'm not saying I never have given in to him but not to the point where he expects me to back down because of a tantrum. What he gets from a tantrum is me even more determined not to give in to him. It's not easy but that's what I do. I do reward him when he is doing well, right down to nightly homework.
I wonder myself if some of the medications have over stimulate him. Especially the last one he was on. I asked if we should lower the does and his doctors answer was to either stop meds or change to Adderall or Abilify.
I know, when no one is messing with him, he is fine. When playing with someone calm, he is fine. When there is a lot of things going on, including just people visiting the house he tends to try to be the center of attention and that can be intrusive.
Sharon
Mom of Matt 96
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Sorry, I just wanted to add.. That I believe my son was diagnosed with ODD because he was angry about moving into a new neighborhood where he was not excepted. He was constantly bullied and that made him Angry. The strattera, I believe made it more difficult to deal with the anger.
Sharon
momofmat, have you gotten a second opinion? My ds (now 8) had a bad time w/ strattera as well. But, after about a month of stopping it, he was fine. While on it, he never was "angry". I don't know what strattera can cause, all meds have some sort of bad reactions. I don't let my son get away with any thing either. If you don't mind sharing, what kind of discipline do you use?
Some times it is hard, but for every time I have to punish my ds, i will give him 2 complements of some thing. There are times I have to grasp at any thing, like how well he brushed his hair or how nice he was when he ate dinner and used manners. I am strict, but I also want to feed his confidence, too. good luck and keep us posted.
My 9 year old son took Strattera for a couple of years. He stopped taking it about 6 months ago. While taking the Strattera, he had headaches, his blood pressure was high (with most stimulants it was high also) pusle was high. And he started to get anger problems. So then he was diagnosed with ODD on top of the ADHD. As far as I see it, strattera may have contributed to this new diagnosis.
IMac38945.686712963[QUOTE=IMac] MomofMatt96,
My inconsistent parenting (telling him no - him throwing a rage - me giving in)
Not giving adequate consequences, rewards, and being firm (i.e. MEANING whatg I say and SAYING what I mean, every single time, consistently)
He was on stimulants and not Bipolar medications, hence being over stimulated and already manic[/QUOTE]
http://www.adhdnews.com/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=17691& KW=imac&PN=0&TPN=1
[/QUOTE]
That is a very insightful quote, I appreicated that you sent it to me.
However, my parenting style is very different. I will not give in. I will ground him and take things away from him if he acts out. I'm not saying I never have given in to him but not to the point where he expects me to back down because of a tantrum. What he gets from a tantrum is me even more determined not to give in to him. It's not easy but that's what I do. I do reward him when he is doing well, right down to nightly homework.
I wonder myself if some of the medications have over stimulate him. Especially the last one he was on. I asked if we should lower the does and his doctors answer was to either stop meds or change to Adderall or Abilify.
I know, when no one is messing with him, he is fine. When playing with someone calm, he is fine. When there is a lot of things going on, including just people visiting the house he tends to try to be the center of attention and that can be intrusive.
Sharon
Mom of Matt 96