My Son’s Interupting issues | ADHD Information

Hello my name is Michelle I have add. My child Alex was just diagnosed with adhd he is 6. I am a young mother and I know what it is like to have add but some times I feel like I am going to go crazy with Alex. He can be so disruptive, I will try and have conversations with people and he will just come up and be like mom, mom, mom, mom, and then start screaming MOM, MOM. Until finally I am just like what! Does anyone have problems with this how can I stop this any ideas?

Both of my kids like to do this -- ADHD and non-ADHD boys -- ESPECIALLY when I am on the PHONE ! They say "Excuse Me" 10 times -- and I keep ignoring them -- or finally hold up my finger to my lips -- meaning "SHHHHHHH !!!!" -- then 1 finger to show I will be with them in a minute. Then I always say "Thank You" for saying "Excuse me", but it doesn't mean that I will immediately drop what I'm doing and respond to you. They are getting a little better, but they forget alot, too.I use a non-verbal cue. When he interrupts I hold up two crossed fingers. It took awhile, maybe 3 weeks, and then the interruptions reduced. Now they are at a normal level. Also he has a non-ADHD 3 yo sister who caught on very quickly and announced it every time he interrupted her, and then continued with her conversation. That may have helped also.

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He has said to me that if he cannot say what he wants to immediately, he will forget and then get cross.
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I think that your son is a very insightful young man to be able to put his reasons for doing this into words at such a young age! He is probably right. My daughter is 9, and she interrupts quite frequently yet. However, my almost 15 year old son, who has never been diagnosed with ADD still does this. At times, they yell at each other for interrupting! The only remedy that we have found for this is to remind them that they are interrupting, and have them wait until the conversation is finished. If I am in a longer phone conversation, I will sometimes ask the other person to hold for a second if my child has waited patiently for awhile to tell me whatever it is. Then, I thank my child for waiting patiently.

I use our scout symbol since our son knows what that means. He taps me on my arm when he need something. All kids I see do this alot. They just want our attention. My son interrupts constantly. Ignoring often doesn't help as he becomes very insistant. Sometimes, if I am on the phone, I often think it is nothing more than jealousy. DS will be busy with whatever suits him at that time but if the phone rings, he suddenly has all sorts of things to tell me.
If my husband and I are talking, he interrupts too. I immediately hold up my hand and say "I am talking". He apologizes and walks away, but that is only because my husband is there. I can time it ... it usually takes about 2 minutes and he is back, completely forgetting that he just interrupted.

He has said to me that if he cannot say what he wants to immediately, he will forget and then get cross.

I do make a point on giving him exclusive attention and listening attentively to him so that he does not feel he is being excluded. It is difficult to get him to understand that I just need to finish my own conversation first.

We call it "taking turns" at our house. Our son is still young and is grasping the concept of taking turns at school, but we say "it's my turn to talk, it can be yours when I am done." That usually works. If I'm on the phone and he starts, I go to another room and then when I get off the phone we have a chat about "rudeness."I think all children do this, whether they had ADHD or not. It's normal kid behavior, especially at six. [QUOTE=michelle14] Hello my name is Michelle I have add. My child Alex was just diagnosed with adhd he is 6. I am a young mother and I know what it is like to have add but some times I feel like I am going to go crazy with Alex. He can be so disruptive, I will try and have conversations with people and he will just come up and be like mom, mom, mom, mom, and then start screaming MOM, MOM. Until finally I am just like what! Does anyone have problems with this how can I stop this any ideas?

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My son is the same, & i use to end up shouting, but now i just stop my conversation to remind him that i am talking & that he should'nt interupt its rude, & say it calmly, if the person you are talking to does'nt like it, then thats just tuff, its there problem not yours or your son,ok. stay strong.

Thanks everyone for the advice it is really helping you guys are great. This is a nice site!

It never fails. I'm on the phone and suddenly my kids need and want everything THERE and NOW. I ingored them. If that does't work, I put a finger to my lips and give them an unhappy look.