My problem with parents | ADHD Information

This Roger sounds like an idiot and must have some issues? I would corner him and ask him what is his problem.Vanessa stopped by this morning to see if Brandon wanted to take the school bus to church with her and Dustin. I don't know if Roger knew if she was here or not. Brandon declined. I asked her if she was going to come by later for him. She said if she was allowed. So I know she wants to play with him. We went out around one and came back at 5:45. So I don't know if she was here or not.that's good love.  sounds like Roger is mean.Brandon is outside playing with Vanessa, Dustin and Dakota. I guess Roger changed his mind about Brandon playing with his kids. What a fickle man! I won't stop Brandon from playing with his kids. That's not fair to Brandon or his kids. I still don't like Roger though! He's a nut case!

Quite a while ago I posted that there were kids in my building who were not allowed to play with my son. They were allowed to play with my son's friend at the time and his sister though. So they could not all play together.

Later on things became fine and Brandon could play with them. Well now this has happened again. Vanessa the girl in the building came to get Brandon today. He went out to play with her,her siblings and some others. One was his good friend Ryan. He has been playing with Ryan all school year.

Anyhow I guess Brandon was sitting in Dakota's(Vanessa's sister) jeep she got for her birthday. Vanessa asked Brandon get out of it. He didn't at first. So Roger(Vanessa's stepfather) told Brandon that he couldn't be around his kids again.

My son has ADHD and has very difficult making and keeping friends. It really irks me that the two times he has made and kept a good friend this man Roger has spoiled it for him.

I would never tell Brandon that he couldn't play with someone for that reason anyhow.

Ryan's parents do like Brandon and have no problem with them playing together. I've known them for  along time. Ryan and Brandon are in the same claass at school which is the Learning and Life Skills class. 

I don't really know Roger and Michelle but I don't think too much of Roger.

Does anyone have any ideas on how to deal with this?

 

They aren't legal...but I have ideas. What exactly was brandon doing wrong?
And thats no excuse to stop the kids from playing, how pathetic, if it was me i would go around there & confront them!

To me it sounds like Roger has a VERY short fuse.  I would be honest, but not to Roger.  I would talk to Vanessa's mom, in private.  Does Roger have any kids of his own?  If not, he really doesn't understand kids.  You son did what all kids do, want to play a little longer, there is no harm in that, and he did leave the jeep.  I know some of you reading might think I'm wrong, but all kids not just adhd kids do that sort of thing all the time.  I would talk to the girls mother and tell her how hard it is for your son to make friends and ask her if there is a way the kids can play together again.  Let her know how sad your son is not being able to play w/ Vanessa.  Roger has issues, and i also think he likes to through his weight around. 

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Maybe someone needs to corner this Roger and explain that your child has problems, but he isn't mean or dangerous and that he needs to play with other children to learn social skills and that he has feelings.

Its possible that after playing with your son, his step son comes home and tries to get away with behaviors (such as not doing what he is told immediately) that he sees your son getting away with. Its possible that if Roger knows, he will be able to explain to his kid why your son seems to get away with things that he can't.

I hope your son doesn't pick up the snobbishness and bigotry that Roger is teaching his kids. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black! Give me a child with a disorder any day over a snob and a bigot!

Sounds like Roger is enjoying a power trip by demanding who can and can't do what. I'd like to hear Ascentionist's ideas!! And Jasonsonsmom has some levelheaded suggestions too.

Barb I think that Roger's step son has some issues of his own. He seems to have some difficulties. I agree that Roger is narrowminded. I don't think Brandon will puck up on that. I would rather not speak to him. I had a confrontation once with him in the elevator the last time He didn't want his kids around mine.

Imac Roger came out to take his daughter Dakota with Michelle(wife) home.

Ogram I think Roger is a controlling person who runs the household. This is just my suspicion. I'm notr sure if it would do any good to talk to Michelle. Roger is usually home. Besides I think she would tell him that I came and spoke with her.

Jasonsmom I may feel comfortable at some point but not right now. The ironic thing is, Roger had a better reason to keep the kids apart before since my son was swearing outside. He told me this was the reason. He also said that i didn't discipline him and we had an argument outside. We hadn't. MY son is not the only one who was swearing outside. There were a bunch of them including his step son.

Have you talked to this guy?
I'd call him up and ask...why the restriction.
I wouldnt be snarkey, or mean spirited or anything....just ask - you wanna know what the deal is.

Kids fight all the time - kids without ADHD....kids called NORMAL - that dont have therapists and parents talking to them about feelings and dealing with emotions and whatnot...those kids dont get along all the time - does Rodger restrict his step-son from other kids just because they dont JUMP when the kid says to?

Kids need to be able to make their own friends, and work out their own issues.  Unless your son is violent, mean, rude or something like that, I see no reason for this man to tell his kid not to play with yours.