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Jillette, I would tell them outright that you love your daughter too much to deliberately expose her to abuse and you will not be taking her to any family functions until they learn to control their children.
Their reasoning is an excuse to cover there laziness, their inability to control their child or willingness to admit to a disability in him. Whatever their problem is, your daughter is too precious to allow anyone, especially family, to abuse her. I would make sure they understand that you are disappointed in the adults more than the little boy. He needs to be taught but they should love your daughter enough to not want to see her hurt either.
Is that your daughter in your avvie? She is adorable! Everytime I see it I think of Little Orphan Annie and her curly hair and irrepressible spirit.
My nephew who is 8 months older than my daughter and second neice who is 4 years old ( my girl is 6) is so mean to her it drives me nuts. He purposly calls her stupid and excludes her and every family function she ends up crying and will keep going back for more instead of staying away from them. My family ignores their behavior for "kids will be kids she needs to buck up or I should not even bother". Of course I bother I love my girl more than life itself and it kills me to see her suffer. I will admit she is oblivious to most of it. As far as kids will be kids that is true but her school mates treat her better and she should not have to deal with abuse from family. I cannot get them to listen so I am planning to avoid them at all costs. Any advice? Today for passover I told them my girl was running a temp will not be there and we are at home.
I just needed to vent.
Jillette38819.5909606482IMac38945.6201967593You're doing what you have to do, if the parents won't step up. Sometimes you need to distance yourself even from family. I wouldn't hang with anyone who allowed his/her child to be cruel to my kids. I wouldn't even make up excuses about why I didn't go to family events. I'd tell the truth and stick to my guns. They are in the wrong, not you. OlderMom38819.7477199074[QUOTE=barb]
Is that your daughter in your avvie? She is adorable! Everytime I see it I think of Little Orphan Annie and her curly hair and irrepressible spirit.
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*Yes that is my daughter in the avatar, if the photo can be bigger you would get a nicer picture. We did avoid the family. My daughter is always quiet and very well behaved at family things will get hyper sometimes but that is after the brat tries to make her chase him.
I also agree that this is out right abuse and I would be totally honest with family about why you need to put up barriers to protect your child. Your a mother looking to protect your child, not their feelings.
I, too, would avoid putting my daughter through this. Your family members are not doing their children any favors by allowing them to behave in this manner toward other children. I would be very up front with them as to why I was not attending the family functions. This might be just the reality check that they need.i would also avoid the family,but i would also tell them what i think of their little brats,your little girl has a medical condition to explain how she is.this kids are plain nasty and rude and they should face to it.
I agree with you and would not subject my daughter to an abusive situation like that. I would have a conversation with the boys parents and other family members on why you won't be spending time time with them. What is the family teaching the boy...his behavior is acceptable? Well you are letting them know it is not. You don't allow anyone to treat your daughter that way...why would you allow family to do it? If nothing else the boy should be taught to accept and support a family member. Sounds like they don't get the meaning of family. I hope they come around. Good luck.