Feeling Blue | ADHD Information

We finally got the right medication for our son. (He was on starttera but is now on concerta which is helping.) But as parents, do you ever feel like your ADHD child is not liked by any adults? My son is 6 and we have been struggling all year in school with his behavior. Our easter vacation is this week so I decided to send him to his old daycare provider for some needed R&R. The second day she told me that she would not keep him anymore because of his disrespect. (Things like talking back and stomping his feet.) I tried to explain to her that he does not think about what he is doing until he has already done it and he is learning how to control this. He also apologizes and feels sorry after he does it. She told me that ADHD has nothing to do with it. My son heard her say that she did not want him there and cried for an hour whe we got home. He also wrote at least 10 sorry notes to her.

I feel like no one likes my child. He wants to play with other kids and have a good time but some adults do not understand how to deal with him. He is such a loving child and wants to make other people happy. He gave another boy at Mcdonald's his toy because he broke his. Do you ever wonder about your child's future? I believe my son is a wonderful person but I get so upset when I hear constant bad things about my son. We punish him and take things away and he understands why things are being taken away. I quess what I am really saying is there future for our children. Because all I see now is rejection. How can we teach our children to think on their own and make good decisions?

I guess I just needed to vent. But I will tell you one thing. This daycare provider also keeps my other son. He is coming out of that estabilshment tomorrow. We love our children and I know that me and my husband are raising our children the best we know how. I do know this, no matter what the school or daycare says, we have the best loving child that anyone could ever have. I am just sad that no one else can see this.

Have hope, your son is really young. My son at 6 was kicked out of 3 babysitters, because he was so impulsive. He was also in trouble constantly at school. ADHd kids really don't make you feel like a very good parent, and you don't look like a good parent to others either.

The best thing you can do now is make sure home is a safe haven for him, that you love him even if he is a little devil. Tell him over and over again about what you love about him, what he's good at-you can stretch the truth a little if your'e having trouble thinking of things. He will then try harder to do better. He still needs constant supervision to help him stay on track, even though other 6 year olds could play outside fairly well ours don't seem to be able to make the right decisions.

My son is 15 now, very ADHD, still on medication but is getting through highschool, has a few friends, but really still acts younger than his age. Whats success? When they are young you worry so much its unbelievable. Find a good and fair behavior management system, keep your relationship strong with your son, and everything will be fine. Who said life is easy for anyone.

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Have hope, your son is really young.

Whats success? When they are young you worry so much its unbelievable. Find a good and fair behavior management system, keep your relationship strong with your son, and everything will be fine. Who said life is easy for anyone.

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Great advice from a mom of 17 year old ADHDer

Hello there...

My son is also struggling with the friend issue. Has a couple of good friends that are very patient and have known him for several years during the better times. Now though due to him being loud, screaming out at inappropiate times, excessive clapping, interruptions, etc.... new friends don't quite get it and think he's a little nuts. My son also is a very loving & caring person. Always makes sure that others are included in activities, when someone doesn't have a lunch will share his, share pinata candy with others that don't have alot, save extra McDonalds gifts for his younger nephews, and more.

His previous school (he attended K - 3rd grade) never got involved. Only with the exception of saying he was hyper in class, not doing homework & other things like that. In fact other students that had problems were kind of just punished and not even evaluated to see what was happening with them.

I get scared for him sometimes. I am very happy that I have the support, so far, of the school, doctors & family members to help with him.

I am also very grateful for the support and venting outlets this site has given me.

Please keep up with the posts!!

I really identify with your post Christie. My son is disliked by so many adults who have no idea about his ADHD, nor would they understand if they did. My son is a beautiful, thoughtful and loving child. I see right into his heart - as you are doing. It really does hurt when others can't see past their own perceptions. Your love for your son will never be forgotten by him.It is hard being a parent for our children are sweet and lovable just mis-understood. I have been told at one time I do not discipline my daughter and then i let loose to protect my child. We had one bad daycare experience too before her diagnosis and she was always being punished for things she could not control. I did have it out with the Director and pulled my daughter out and had to use grandma for childcare.