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Someone was looking for a forum to go to to talk to other pasrents of Autistics. I cant find the original post but theres a REALLY good one runm by a woman named Tammy. Very friendly, caring & supportive. Lots of great info there too. Heres the link:
http://groups.msn.com/CreatedSpecialSupportGroup/welcome.msn w
Auntie, all autistic kids are different, but if there are a lot of traits there, it's good to take the kid to a NeuroPsych. My son can make ok eye contact with family, but not good with strangers--gets better as he knows the person. PDD-NOS kids are more social than Aspie kids. They tend to have a few things in common--all have severe social problems, narrow interests, transition problems (some more severe than others) transitional issues and sensory problems to various degrees. It's best just to get the child diagnosed for ANY disorder because reading about it can only guide you. Overanalyzing can drive you nuts. My son does not like to be hugged or kissed, yet he has more compassion and love in his heart than any of my other kid or any of ten kids. There is a myth that *all* autistic kids do not bond or don't feel love and that's such a lie, but some autistic kids do lack empathy. Some autistic kids are more interested in objects than people and people are just there for their needs, but this is not the case with my particular son. Autistic kids are as diverse as ADHD kids and "typical" kids. They just have certain problems...the spectrum is large and often misdiagnosed (which is why NeuroPsychs are so good--they do such intensive testing). The site rocks. I'm glad I know about it. Also, Aspergers kids tend to be very prococious. Other autistic kids have speech delays, but not Aspies. If the kid is loaded with "spectrum" he likely is. Interventions in school and the community give the child the best prognosis, which is always unknown. OlderMom38830.677650463OlderMom - thanks.
I am just wanting to understand better. My hands are tied as far as my G-nephew going to a NeuroPsych. His parent DO NOT WANT to even acknowledge anything is unusual or different with their son or any of their children.
I don't really expect anyone to respond but I just have the urge to put down in writing what I see as their Auntie:
Eldest child, just a typical girl, very shy and soft spoken but once she gets to know you will talk your ear off.
Eldest son, definately autistic. Loving ways and acknowleging people seems taught and not genuine. Other than that no interest in people at all. Repeats words that seem to come out of the Dads mouth and not his own. For example, he will repeat snippets that I know came from one of his Dad's ( a minister) sermons.
Next son. Exactly like his older brother but very loving and genuinly loves cuddles. Talkative when you have his attention captured but unlike his brother, his words are his own.
Next daughter. Runs everywhere and I mean flat out runs! She doesn't stop until exhasted. Does not like touch, to be stopped when running, to be held, to be talked to. She is like the energy bunny. She just keeps going and going. She is just adorable, well they all are!
Baby, too young but seems a typical little "learning to crawl" bunting of joy.
And my neice homeschools them all - I don't know how she does it!!!
Misty (oops, wrong name -edited to correct -I just saw the signature and thought of Barb
sorry, Misty ), I think I will go join that site. I don't know why but I just want to get a grip on what I am seeing. I mean I think my niece is doing a fabulous job raising these kids. I guess I just want to understand so I know how to communicate with them better, if possible.
Again, thanks for the great site!
Auntie38830.8083796296That is a great site but now I'm a bit confused. The checklist said they don't make eye-contact and then in another article said this is a myth - that not all autistic kids avoid eye contact. Another on the checklist said they aren't affectionate - article said it is a myth.
Now I'm a bit confused about my grand nephew. He is very loving, will come up and hug you and kiss you but immediately is off on his own. As fast as he was there hugging he is gone and may not ever acknowledge your presence again during the whole visit -as if he doesn't see you and often YOU have to step out of the way if it looks like he has a particular destination in mind. Other times out of the clear blue he will be going somewhere with great intent and then he see's you and hugs and kisses may come.
Little background: My neice & her husband will not speak to anyone, even her own Mother (my sister) about her son being autistic yet we all know he is.
One of the things that crossed my mind when he "showers" someone with love and affection it seems to be rote. Is it possible his parents "taught" him the right way to react to someone he hasn't seen in a while?
There is no doubt he looks you in the eye but I get the feeling he is not really seeing you and possibly doesn't even know which Auntie I am...I'm just someone he needs to say the proper hello's to, give the proper hugs and kisses. Could I be imagining this?
Could this be why, out of the blue, he will "see you" - I mean he will almost topple over to stop and do the hugs and kisses but could it be because something clicked in his brain that he is "supposed to do this" and doesn't remember that he already performed the proper greeting. (I just have this gut feeling...)
FYI: My GN is very smart and was reading books outloud when he was 4 (just like his Dad did) and these were books intended for 2nd graders! According to his parents he continues to excel in learning. Otherwise he fits the "autistic checklist" to a tee.
I guess I'm just thinking outloud but if anyone has any comments, I'd sure like some responses. Even though the parents do not speak of their child being autistic I still want to understand what is going on.
O.K. So let me clarify my question. Do you think his parent just taught him the proper greeting (Hugs/kisses/eye contact) and it really isn't that he is "really" glad to see you or really "does see you"? 
I hope that makes sense and sorry so long.
Auntie, I know I've said this before, but you have a heart of gold. Most aunts would not go through the trouble of learning about nieces and nephews. They are oh-so-lucky to have you. I'm joining that site too, if I can figure out how to get an MSN password 
OlderMom,
Hope ya figure out the MSN password. And thanks for your always kind words.
Thank you, it was me. I posted the question, then forgot!(A little add anyone).
seths mom dx aspergers
That's a fantastic description of problems autistic kids can have. No kids have all those symptoms, but if your kid is loaded with them, you'd better see a NeuroPsych.That's the best description I've seen yet. Good site.Our Se director told me my son is blessed to born in to you family. Many gp's and parents careless. Some just want the school to do it all. To get better at any thing repetiotion helps.
Pdd/autism.net another nessage board.