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Hi

My sister is in trouble with the law and shes only 13 ! ok, well yesterday she was behind the school basket ball courts with a few of her friends 2 guys and 2 girls. They were smoking and a one of the guys had drugs on them. The police came and her and her friend claim the cops threw a "hissy-fit" at them. They were taking down to Juvinal and put on 2 weeks probation. When they police questioned them about who gave them the drugs and all they would not talk. When we took her home we tried to get all the information out of her but she only said "i cant tell you anything". We got no where. Does anyone here know what it is like to get into trouble by the law? I feel bad for her but at the same time i'm angry at her.

Hey I can see how u would feel...I think of my friend the other day she was stoned and she was in trouble she came to me and I said hey u now wat u wanted this now u pay the price...I was so sorry for her cuz she is still young...but then I also feel so mad at her b/c she can be bright if she wants to....anyways tell ur sis how u feel....let me know how things go ok

Neldy

The only thing you can really do, in my opinion, is to let he know about the consequences.

Personally, I would never say anything that got any of my friends into trouble, regardless of how it affected me. It's an honor system. I don't have all that many good friends but if, say, my buddy graz got into trouble, I would do anything to get him out of it, even sacrifice myself. I know he would do the same for me.

If she knows the consequences, it's her choice whether she wants to talk or not.

There is one other side to it: the fear side. If there is any chance she will get beaten or such for telling, can you promise to protect her at all times so that this doesn't happen.

It's a crappy world and if you dabble in the crappiest parts, there are consequences. Drug dealers don't often forgive those that put them away (specially if the person went to the dealer of their own violation) and sometimes you have to choose between evils.

That's my two cents and I have a feeling I may have made some of you mad by this point.

mattsounds like a lack of trust on her part. tell her up front what is going to happen after she tells you. use the reward system and teach her why it's wrong.How did things go with your sister???

She's probably more afraid of her friends getting mad at her then about the trouble with the law. At 13 you think your invincible, going to jail or any other severe consequence seems very unlikely at that age. However losing your friends would be devastating.

Somehow she needs to understand that there are real scary consequences to her actions. She got off with probation this time but now that she has been caught once the penality will keep getting steeper for each susequent violation.

If she doesn't want to rat on her friends that is fine and admirable. So this is her second chance if she doesn't want to end up in Juvie or lose her friends she needs to choose not to participate in the activities that will get her in trouble. Worse comes to worse at least tell her what a stupid choice it was to smoke on school property. Talk about calling attention to yourself seems like they didn't even care if they got caught.

It went ok i guess. She wants to be with her friends. She already ended up in juvie. She said it dont matter to her. Her and her friend [Jay] are inceprable. thing is jay has a crimal record so she thinks it cool. I did not get through to her abviously. She told me she did it cuz of stress. I dont bye that for a second but o well. idk i love her and if she does end up in juvie again i got her back.