father’s point of view | ADHD Information
Hi i am Scotmamas`s Husband and have just returned home from offshore after 2 weeks of hard graft . First of all i must thank all of youi who have been talking to my wife while i was away. My wife has been showing me this site and i have been reading some of the veiws and help offered to parents and i thought i should offer my insight / experience to you as a father.
I am still accepting my son has a problem that is medical. i expect to much from him and at times this causes conflict between me and the wife in parenting issues. My boy i admit has so much enegy, i relise that while i am away the wife has her hands full and do worry when i am away if everything is OK do any fathers out their feel the same?
Hi Scotmama's Hubby! I am glad to see your point of view. Your wife is a great woman and strong too. It's always nice to meet the dad's too. come back any time.I think it is awesome that you are involved as a father...too many don't understand this and feel that a "good spanking" will take care of this and it doesn't work. Keep reading, educating yourself and continue to learn all you can..best of luck!
Spot on man 
, I was also like your opinion. When the bairns came i thought man = work, woman = housework( i.e care of the house, children)
. But now i relise that it just cant work like this anymore.
Modern day living means both parents have to really work to enable them to save for holidays or anything extra. And mums do require a break from the children to interact with people outside caring for kids. The wife was more chatty, and lively when she was working and now i think it is missing in her life. But once again should she work for nothing just to get space?? 
No problem auntie, the thing thats been geting to me lately is the good lady has been getting Migrain headaches, although not directly the boys fault he contributes greatly. When the missus gets these migrains she is totally out of it. I found out the last time home that she had a migrain and Alana had to get the neighbour to watch the boy cause he was in early morning zoom mode.
I know i have to carry on working offshore to pay the mortgage but think if i gave it up and we both worked it might be better for the missus. She reconds we wont find a job onshore that meets our current budget. Even if the wife got a part time job just now to get out of the house and get some more social interaction it would do her the world o good. Problem is finding childcare for the Boy plus the cost would mean that scotmama would not only be working for nowt !!!
I think it is fairly typical that husbands are a bit harder on their sons but I think it is terrific you are open to this site and that must mean you are a great Dad.
BTW: I think your wife is terrific! Welcome and sorry...I'm not a man so no mans perspective from me.
Hello, its mikmum's bf, im gary. we are both old fashioned in thinking that the woman should stay at home & look after the house & the children, it does get hard at times espeially when the bills come in, i feel like im working for nothing to, i work as a dj every friday evening & do private parties saturday evenings, pay isnt good but its my hobbie & enjoy it it aslo socialising. i do earn enough to support us and i am pleased to provide for my family, we have a good life and good children mikeys difficulties sometimes become a problem but we can deal with it. we have seperat bank acc for each of the children and a seperate one for savings, we are getting married in june 2008 we have been together for 12 years and i love her i will do anything for my family i think any man would. i hope this is ok for a mans piont of view.