Are boys rough? | ADHD Information

Hello there...

My 9 year old son has had similar experience. The most recent one was this boy from his class, who has been his friend since August (new school), decided he didn't like my son's ears. (Little bigger and stick out slightly, but growing nicely into them) Started calling him names and then one day the boy brought his bike to school (happened to be a day I was at my son's counselor's office.) and hurt my son with his bike. Luckily a witness came and got me (another friend of my son's) and it was reported to the teacher and principal. The boy got suspended the next day. Funny thing is now....that same boy is friends with him again and they are playing nicely together once again.

My son gets a long better (nicer) with girls.  He frequently gets into fights with his guy pals, but they seem to get over it.  Most times within a week they are friends again.  Boys (not all as there are exceptions) can be physically aggressive and enjoy rough play. Society also dictates such behavior in boys as it is seen as symbolic of how a boy defines himself as a male. Physical aggression is also taught in movies, television and video games and children get the message that problem solving is done through physical aggression rather than talking it out. There is also a difference between malicious fighting and boys just rough housing it but either way children can get terribly hurt. I have also seen some girls than are just as rough as boys but in general, rough housing it seems to be an acceptable form of play in the male kingdom.I've raised three kids to adulthood (two boys) and one boy is twelve. There are some bully boys, like bully girls (yes, they exist too). Boys pretty much rum the gamut of too rough to sedate. I have one son who has never been in a fight in his life. He's 28, engaged, gentle and the sweetest person on earth. My other son was more verbally rough--all talk, no action. Your son can find gentler boys as friends. Actually, my nine year old daughter is rougher than any child I've raised...lol. Now if ANY ch ild deliberately goes around hurting others and seems to enjoy it, the kid is a problem, has issues, and, frankly, it's better for your child to find another friend, even if it's hard for him to make friends. My daughter is a Tomboy and her best friend is a boy who is called "the gentle giant" by adults. He wouldn't hurt a fly and is kind and compassionate, yet he's "all boy." He plays hard, but doesn't hurt anybody. Lovemyboy, i think that boys being rough is normall, its like too lion cubs fighting but there not really fighting they are teaching each other how to servive in life, if that makes sence??
I have two boys,1 with adhd & they fight more than they get on & it drives me sooooo mad sometimes but other times i let them becoz i think 'what happens if he was fighting with another boy, would he be able to stick up for hiself?' id rather them fight & learn by it than be a sissy & run off crying.
Thats what i think anyway.

Hello its Scotmama`s hubby here aye it is perfectly normal for boys to batter each other one day and play the next. Its all character building stuff!!!

I know some parents do worry about this too but like Mikmukm its better they learn a few moves than run behind their mums skirt

My son has difficulty making  and keeping friends because of his ADHD. There is a boy he has been friends with for about a year now. Recently this boy has been rough with him a few times. He pushed him down today. They were with some friends.

I know the boy's parents and spoke with them once when there was an incident.  Does anyone else have a boy who has difficulty with other boys? Are boys rough in general. There was another boy who got rough with mine previously.

 

I think a little roughness is normal to some extent. Boys are generally very competitive athletically. My sons friend is more aggressive and rough than my son. He likes to box and wrestle. I think what motivates the roughness is most important. It is just a little competitive friendly fighting/roughness, or is it out of spite and meanness? Thanks for all your replies. I don't think the boy is trying to be mean neccessarily. He did help Brandon up yesterday after knocking him down. Brandon did tell me that he told Brandon he is tougher than him. This boy has 2 older sisters and one older brother so that may have something to do with it. His mom did tell me a long time ago that he has a violence problem.