Hello everyone! I'm a new member with a few questions... my son was diagnosed with ADHD five years ago...he is 10 years old now. He's been consistently struggling with reading comprehension since he was in 2nd grade. I pulled him out of public school and placed him in a private school after 4th grade thinking he would get more of a one-on-one with his reading. This unfortunately hasn't happened. I've consistently been communicating with the school because my son never sends any vocabulary or spelling words home, nor any reading assignments! My son is falling even further behind on his reading. Needless to say, i will be placing him back into public school next year.
My question is, are there any programs in the public schools that would help get him caught up in his reading? Or would he need to attend ES classes. Before i placed him in the private school, we had an IEP set up for him, but that was done when school was almost over.
My son has also behavioral issues. He is extremely sensitive and takes it to heart when the other children are rude or mean to him. When this happens he usually gets very upset and mean himself. Are there any programs in the public school that deal with these behavioral issues?
I know there are a lot of experienced parents on this board. I would appreciate any suggestions you have. Thank you.
My son is also behind in his reading. He is in the 5th grade but is reading only at a 3rd grade level. He has a sever learning disability. He learned to read words before he could tell you the letters of the alphebet. He has always attended a private but receives his LD services through the public school system. He is currently under an IEP but I've been told once he reaches jr high they will write a 504 because of the adhd. He has always received more one on one. They even read him his test and help him with his homework during his LD classes. From what I've been told your son's IEP should carry over from private to public or visa versa. I personnally would never put my son in public school, I'm afraid he would get lost in the mix and become just a number. But than I'm sure not all private schools are the same and ours is extremely small (108 kids K-6). Good luck.Because your son received an IEP at the end of the school year in his last year in public school, he will enter as a SPED student when he re-enters public school. You will need to inform the school that he has an IEP. You will need to call an ARD to discuss his reading comprehension to see what the school can do and what programs are available. When he was classified SPED and given an IEP, what was his SPED classification?
teencat,
What kind of LD does your son have? If he is reading without knowing the letters of the alphabet and is currently two grades below level in reading, he may have dyslexia. Can he sound out words? Can he write from memory both the uppercase and lowercase alphabet in cursive and print? Does he have or has he had a speech impediment, particularly an articulation disorder?
almostsane,
my son sounds a lot like yours. he has actually done extremely well with reading which suprises me because my husband is adhd and dyslexic. he really gives me fits about doing homework and his behavior in school is a major problem. he gets his feelings hurt easy and there have been many times when he did something really bad at home he said he was a stupid kid and was gonna kill himself. how do you a punish him when he is so down on himself. it breaks my heart.
i know that he has special reading programs at his school and we have been blessed this year with a great teacher. we werent so lucky last year. i couldnt get his teacher to communicate with me and i flipped out on her one day and told her it is mandatory for her to fill out the daily report sheets for me so i can know what is going on with my son. she straightened up after that. sometimes you get good teachers and sometimes you get someone who doesnt make that extra effort. i pray every year for a good one and the principal works with me in finding the right place for him.
i would definetly talk with the school and tell them your situation. i am sure they will work with you. they dont want parents calling and complaining all the time and believe me his school knows me very well. good luck and god bless you and your family.
Lillian,
His LD only affects his reading. Now, he can regonize the alphebet, write them, so on and so forth. He is sounding out words also. Actually, this last year he has made great improvements. I did send him to speech before he started kindergarten but they said it was more because he was behind where he should be.
Lillian, you're absolutely right. But the thing is, he comes home sometimes and says, "### was mean to me, i don't know why because i gave him a slice of my pizza." I sometimes get frustrated and tell him not to give that boy anything anymore. Of course, he gets upset at me when i say things like that...so i've been trying not to say it...but it still gets me mad because i know that the other boy is just using him. Maybe he'll understand it eventually, i don't know. But i will take your advise and just praise him. Thanks.Thank you all for your replies. i spoke to the public school my son will attend and they said that his IEP would follow him, but that it would have to be updated (of course). We shall see...
Yesterday he came home and told me that he gave his pencils away. These are pencils i bought him because he didn't have any to write with! I asked him why and i pretty much got the picture that he's giving his things away so that the kids will be nice to him... it about broke my heart. How do i get him to understand that no matter what you give away, you can't buy friendship?
Kids give things away to make friends all the time. It's more painful to watch when you have a child who does not make friends easily or his giving away things doesn't help make friends. But, I would just say, "Well, what a sweet boy you are!" and give him a big hug, never letting on that it isn't working for him because hinting at the fact that it isn't working for him will just make his feelings of inferiority worse.