Actually I asked if he could continue to go back to that school and I was told no .. I didn't really raise a stink about it though I just accepted the answer and sent him back to his regular school. His teacher last year had a great part in his success too .. she was almost animated and so bubbly, had lots of patience and new when to give Tommy his space. I'm afraid that if I did push to get him back to that school I may look like a fool because he would have a different teacher and they now have a new principal too (which he loved the one they had when he was there) so things may be different. He has to click with his teacher .. he just doesn't this year .. she is a very nice woman, I like her .. but she isn't that much "fun" and lacks patience and it shows. I am in the school once a week for half days to assist the children with their reading and snap words so I see and hear what goes on .. she is easily frustrated and Tommy will play right into that. Things that I know she can handle he gets sent to the principle for thus increasing his anxiety getting sent to "the principals office"!
Crazymama I know exactly what you mean .. I can't imagine my son at 15 the way he acts now and Im terrified for his future .. and Momiss2 .. it is exactly that way with one step forward 10 back .. I have a habit of letting myself get comfortable when things are going well only to get a rude awakening when the stuff hits the fan again. Then my depression takes over .. its a vicious cycle .. and other people have told me it gets better .. but Im going to have to see it to believe it lol .. I will however hang on to that hope and keep trying to do the best that I can for him. When my husband works he is gone from 6 in the morning til 8pm at night .. these days are especially rough. Today is one of those days .. he has off every other weekend. So I need to go and play a game with him now as it is raining here and nothing much to do .. he is running through the house like a ninja so I need to go calm him down. Have a good Sunday everyone!
It does consume your life when you love your child so much it hurts and want what is best. We also face on their behalf struggles and hurtles along the way. And My husband most likely has adult ADD but un-treated and not diagnosed I am swallowed up and want to scream and cry. My husband is in process of getting a referal and it is not soon enough. I think I am stressed.When I read your second post, I can really sympathize with you because a lot of the things you said had me shaking my head up and down and going yes, yes, yes. My son really has had a hard time this year with his teacher, it's like you said he has to click with that person. And they really need patience. My son also really doesn't get to see his father much either because he works second shift. All I can say is hang in there.Ms Kitty I read the posts here more than i write and find myself doing the same thing for certain posts. It is really rough at times feeling like a single parent when I see single parents getting along better than I am. You hang in there as well!
I know you are stressed Jillette.. my husband has his own issues and I know he has OCD. We joke about it but it really isn't funny. I don't get much of a break when he is here unless I make it a point. We are working on that though and when the issue is fresh he gives more of an effort.
We all need to hang in there and believe things will get better no matter how rough it gets .. we have our good moments to help get us through here. I need to spend alot more time trying to find him a neuro no matter the cost now .. Thanks for making me see that.
Can you get him back to the first school? I think the ADHD consumes our life when things are not going well...you sound like a good mom just trying to get the best for your son.I hear you. I feel like ADHD doesn't consume us, but it is a huge part of our lives. I want my son to succeed, and to have a good life. I realize he is only 8, but I worry about his future. He is so smart in some ways, but man can he make bad choices. Could you find a local support group to go to? This site is great, and has heped me in many ways, but you may need something more tangible. Yes it feels very much like it consumes your life. It will get better when your child is older, and you get more practice at not worrying so much, about every phone call or negative experience you have with your child. Sometimes it feels that no matter what you do, at that moment in time it feels like you take one step forward and 10 back. It will get better. From a mom with a 15 year ADHD son. The steps backward are fewer, the phone calls are fewer, and the child can be more joy than negative experiences. Believe that all your hard work now pays off in the future. It really does.Does anyone else feel like their life is totally consumed with adhd? Not to sound fruity or corny but I just feel like I eat, breath, and sleep adhd with my son. It literally consumes my life. Last year my son went to a different school within our district for transitional first grade .. it was the best! I wasn't called into the school once! He made leaps and bounds in that class and school (he even won the young authors contest and now he barely writes a sentence). Now he is back at his regular school this year and its kindergarten all over again! He says they treat him bad there and there is too much going on in the class to get anything done. I get calls all the time at home. Behavior plans for every step he makes .. it must be so hard for him. Always being picked apart. I am always reading up on it, searching for something new to try .. and the behavior/mental health companies that have the wrap around services hire independent contractors who are incompetent of their position and frauds (in our experiences so far). Now I am trying to find a neuropsych and psychiatrist because his developmental pediatrician looks puzzled half the time when we discuss the behavior issues. And finding one is like trying to find a needle in a haystack ( that accepts his insurance or new patients). Im in Southeastern PA .. if anyone knows of a good neuro and psych that will accept KEYSTONE and AETNA please please let me know. I am also looking for a support group that I can go to so I can break down on my knees and get it all out front of other parents who can sympathize with me.. god I need that. Thank you !Frustrated in PA,
I so relate to your post. I have a third-grader and I, too, live in SE PA (Reading). Are we neighbors? Would love to actually meet some parents in my area. Please do let me know!
--Julia
It is sad for I do feel like a single parent half the time for I do not get much help around the house nor with our daughter. My husband also has a low tolerance level and when left alone the two of them are argue and I end up being the referee when I come home. His expectations of her are not always realistic and at times they are too much alike could be why. I take things one day at a time.Hi jvantin1
I am down from you near Philadelphia .. actually Delaware County (Brookhaven area). I used to go to Reading alot when I had the Ludens Hershey account ... we are about an hour away from each other. Do you or have you and your child seen a neuropsych yet? I'm looking for one in the general area but would travel to see one at this point. An hour isn't that long of a drive for a good cause! Let me know .. I will be calling the ped tomorrow too. Thanks!
Jillette I know exactly how you feel .. sometimes especially when I've had a rough day I expect dad to come in and take over but it ends up a screaming match which I just got out of .. I am looking for him to take over with a fresh more calm approach since I am already fried and my patience are literally GONE! But it doesn't work out that way. I just keep talking to my husband about it but he tends to get more frustrated then I LET ON I am .. if that makes sense to you. Meaning I hold alot back for my sons sake because I know it isn't his fault. At times I take things one hour at a time !!