To Err is Human with or without ADHD | ADHD Information

Don't beat yourself up Glen, those things happen to all of us. Just a word of warning--you never know about those new trainees--A few years back I had one that went around with me (riding in my car), and he seemed rather strange. He didn't end up staying on the job very long, but a few months later he was charged and convicted of murdering one of his clients. That gave me the creeps! Who says our employers check out their new employees?I overcompensate for this tendency so much that I've become a mute in social situations...unless I've had a drink!  I have had so many occasions where a casual comment has come back to haunt me...I sympathize totally! Boy do I know how you feel.   I stuck my foot in my mouth just the other week.
I can be a real nervous twit at my school job as it can be a very rush rush get it done kind of job.  You have a certain amount of time to prepare things before they have to be served, and try as I may not too, I still freak out sometimes when the food is delivered late. 

The food is cooked at another school and brought in ovens.  We make the sandwiches and other entrees and put them together every day.  There are a lot of other things to prepare also and when the food is delivered late we are pressed for time.  Well, the other week, the normal delivery guy was on vaca and they sent another guy that fills in for him sometimes.  He is notorious for being very slow and late so we were kind of expecting it but he was worse then late.  Lunch was due to be served in 5 minutes and he hadn't arrived.  When he finally did arrive, I said "Where were you"?  We've got kids to serve in 5 minutes.  "Get me the hotdogs as fast as you can".   My co-worker said I did sound a bit harsh.

I didn't even realize how I sounded until I later found out he complained about me.  He's very sensitive apparently and I think he exaggerated a bit.  He said I had "ripped him a new one".  I really don't think it was as bad as he said but I sure learned a lesson about keeping my thoughts to myself no matter how nervous I am feeling.  Everyone heard about it.  How embarrassing.  My boss never said anything to me but I heard through the grapevine and felt like a heel.  I'm certainly no perfect person and I acted like a real jerk.  Another lesson, well learned.    lostmyshoe38831.823912037It would be inhuman not to say/do stupid things here and there, eh?

 

Glen,

Sometimes I also say dumb things, and I feel really badly about it when I do - both because I may have hurt someone else and because I may have hurt myself by saying it.

If you have the confidence and ability to acknowledge the mistake, get up and start moving in a positive direction again after it happens, you're pretty damn cool.  :)

 

 

 

Wow.  All I can think is wow.

I was expecting that this would get a bit of "there there" or "served you right a**hole" but the response is heart warming.

So I got some there theres and a deserved dig (yes I am famous for making "all of them are..." type statements.  Guilty on all counts.

But also I see that many of you are relating to this in your own way.  Fantastic!

I have walked away - well backed away feeling a bit hurt by it and scalded (or scolded as the case is).  But the meds have helped in that I don't obsess I work on it.  I get it in my head that words are weapons and that I must bite my lip and count out until the urge goes away when I wish to bash fellow workers at work no matter how absolutely dismally inadequate they are lol.

Thanks all - it's been wonderful!!

You're dumb.

<kidding!!!!!!!!>
Glen, I can remember having several similar situations when I was working outside of the home.  I would blurt things out, and they would always come back to haunt me.  This was long before I knew that I had ADD.  It did teach me some important lessons.  I think that these are situations that happen to everyone, they just happen more frequently to those of us with ADHD!

[QUOTE=GlenW]The guy is still an idiot I just shouldn't have said it out loud.[/QUOTE]

Been there! Done that! At least you learned the lesson so you won't be doing it again.

As I share my successes also I should share when I goof up.  I'm human and make the same mistakes as everyone does in life.  My ADHD comes to surface and it still is a struggle sometimes to keep my brain in gear before engaging mouth.

At work last week I had a trainee I was teaching at the factory I work at.  Nice young man and I noticed he was chumming with a young man who is doomed to be fired soon due to lack of skill and general bad attitude. 

I was cocky and began to explain that he should chose better who he deals with here and that I felt this young man he was befriending was what I would consider "dumb" (yes I said he was dumb).  He then said I had best watch what I say as he was a good friend of his.  Oops.

Anyway he passed the info on to his friend who immediately lodged a complaint with the manager about me.  Said it was "borderline harrassment" and he was very upset.  I got approached by the manager and told about the whole thing.  He joked with me telling me in confidence that from where it was coming from he put little weight but that it could cause me trouble if it happened again.  I assured him it wouldn't and admitted my mistake and it was ok - but could have been different.

I spoke to the wrong person about the wrong thing.  Friggin' stupid and I knew it right after I spouted it.  Not only did I attack a fellow worker but made blanket judgements which I should have just kept to myself (or complained about to the right place).  Stupid doubly.

So I goof up.  I am human and with or without ADHD I will always make the occasional mistakes.

Just thought I'd share that as it's not all wine and roses.  The guy is still an idiot I just shouldn't have said it out loud.

 

 Glen my friend..you do have a tendency to make "blanket judgememnts"!.... Good one though ...way to keep that ADHD spirit alive .  It's good to keep a good sense of humor about our mishaps .I've done the foot in the mouth thing so many times, that now I'm paranoid
that I've said something but I don't know what it is but I can sense that I've
created an awkward situation...

*sigh*