My son's school was so fed up with his behavior that he's not allowed to go back the rest of the year. I will need to pick up/drop off his work every monday from now on.
The final straw went like this:
Kid teasing son, out of impulse son hit (with his hand not fist) boy on arm. Boy told teacher that son was saying that his family was gay, he said something back to son and son hit him...and my son got into trouble because he hit the other boy.
We've been having trouble for awhile now with my son hitting other students if he is teased (there's a lot of teasing going on in this school). He get's frustrated very easily and has a hard time calming down. We switched his meds and they seemed to be working until this incident happened. As i mentioned in another post, this is a private school and i will be switching him to a public one next year. He is not receiving any accomodations here so i may have more luck in public.
Any suggestions out there with easily frustred kids? When he doesn't get his way he gets very upset. I can reason with him and i can get him to calm down and think rationally, but i don't think teachers have the patience for this.
My son has very little friends. If they tease him he get's mad and the little connection they had is severed. What do i do?
sorry to hear about your son'school but it seems in the long run it would be better for him,they did not seem to be able to meet his needs.my son also hits but he is only 4 so people tend to forgive him but i know it is not always going to be the case.it must be hard for you to see your son without friends,hang in there and ihope you find a solution for his frustrationI also recommend looking at the diagnosis. It sounds like more than ADHD. Good luck (think you'll like public school more).Sorry to hear about your son. I would recommend starting the IEP process now. Lillian, a frequent poster, is the best source of info on this topic.
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IMac...thank you so much for the info. i don't know if his school has this program, but i will certainly mention it. this sounds exactly what we need!
Thanks so much!
My son is 10. He was on ritalin for a while which he did well on (he still talked), but it stopped working (he was on it for 2 years). We then switched him to concerta which made him not sleep at all, so we ended with dexetrine. He's doing pretty good on it...although he was on this med when he impulsively tapped the other kid. He doesn't rage...but it does take about 20 minutes for him to calm down and not be upset.My son is the type of person that if a kid hits him, he'll hit him back, and so on... he gets very upset when other kids tell him no or if he's trying to be nice they aren't nice back. The thing is, once he's upset, it takes awhile for him to calm down. Once he does, he'll start thinking about it again and get mad all over again! I'm trying to teach him to just "drop it", but he tells me he can't help it.
Almostsane, you are very welcome. There are critics of the Second Step program who worry that practice lessons don't carry over into real life situations, but I've seen great teachers incorporate the principles of second step into the whole curriculum and not just as a separate lesson. I've also witnessed little kids using the Second Step assertiveness techniques on the playground and I think that's a good thing.Sounds like he is reacting to what is around him that is how he is handling the being teased situation not that it is good but to me it was provoked. Is anything being done about the other BRATS? Curious for our children always take the rap, not always fair. I hope things get better for you Jill
How old is your son? Have you tried different meds?