The crisis counselor called back and he helped to calm me down and to get Sylvia calmed down. When I put her to bed last night she hugged me and told me she was sorry she was angry and yelled at me. Then she said she doesn't like to be angry, and that she is mean when she is angry and she doesn't like being mean. She is so smart for a five year old. I hugged her real tight last night and we fell asleep together. She had a great day today. The biggest thing we have to wrk on is how she handles not getting her way. My mom is a big issues in this area because before I met my husband it was just me and Sylvia(my husband is not her biological dad)and my mom was the other adult in her life and on top of that she spoiled sylvia rotten often underminig my parenting in the process so now when Sylvia doesn't get her way and grandma's not around to try and force us to give her her way she has melt down
I am glad they called you back, I hope it didn't take long. I sure wish I had someone like that here! It is also really awesome that she was sorry and apologized on her own! That is great! I hope you have many more good days! I hope she has seen a Psychitrist (with the MD) or a NeuroPsych. Extreme anger can be a childhood disorder beyond ADHD, and usually is. Your mom may have an undiagnosed psychiatric or neurological problem that passed onto your kid. Breaks your heart when they're so sorry, but can't help themselves. I hope you pursue it further.