LOST MY TEMPER cos I got called PSYCHO | ADHD Information

Sarah,

I have a saying that now guides my life, b/c for 50 years I let others tell me what they wanted me to be.

"Just let me be me."

It's okay for you to be you.

God made you that way.
Hi Sarah,

Sorry to hear your unhappy.  I don't blame you for being angry.  I don't think you are wrong for being upset at the things they've said.  Dave is right, and I agree with the others who suggested letting them know how you feel.  I used to work with a perfectionist and no matter what I said it came out wrong.  She was so critical of me.  It was very hard to work with her.  There were days I went home feeling so dejected, but in the end I realized that I'd rather be the caring and feeling person I am then the cold fish she is, keeping her emotions all bottled up and coming across so hard and harsh. I don't think she is a very happy person.  Thank goodness I don't work with her anymore. 

Sometimes people are jealous when they see someone who is happy and can express who they really are and they can't do that themselves.  I'm sure your Mum and b-friend didn't mean to hurt you.  You may just have to remind them that just because they are family doesn't mean they are aloud to treat you that way.   Sometimes I have to remind my own family not to take it for granted that they can say what they want and put me down.   I also find it's better for me too cool down before I talk to them or it makes things worse.  It was good for you to come here and vent and get some advice from everyone.  I hope it helps you to feel a little better.  You are appreciated here.   Your Friend, Dee
P.S. Sorry so long.  I can't ever just say what I mean in a few sentences, wonder why?

Srah I don't know if it will help but a friend of mine told me the other day that they liked the real me, the way I can talk non stop on any topic, that I have an abundance of energy that she would love to have and that basically she wished she could be more like me.

This friend is so organised and on time, her house is immaculate and she has a very important and high paying position in her company, and there she was wishing she had some of the trait that I take for granted in some respects and then bitch about for the rest of the time.

Maybe it hurts so much when other people comment because if you're even slightly like me, deep down you actually do like yourself. It's other people who are not able to reach the same excitement in life.

They restrain from laughing loud and from the belly whenever they want to.

They just dont get excited enough to talk and want to learn about people and how they think.

Is any of this like you??

I am not sure if I am in the wrong! I am constantly being told. Sarah you are mad, Sarah you are nutty, Sarah you are a psycho. Well it may be funny to others and sometimes it is to me. But sometimes it builds up!

My Mum and boyfriend were talking about how I am very demanding in the way I crave attention, talk loads and don't sit still. I just flipped. I was shouting, swearing going mad. I said 'Sometimes it bothers me' I have ADD, I cannot help it! You are not perfect, there are things I can say about you!!" I got annoyed because, it's always me they talk about. Now I feel like not talking at all, I am though cos I am not going to change!!

Sarah,

I used to hate it when people would say that I was ditzy or a blonde in disguise.  I truly felt like I was intelligent, things just came out wrong or mixed up, or I would forget things.

I know how you feel.  Take a deep breath and go take a hot bath, something relaxing.  Don't let it get you down.

 

Sarah,

When you're calm just tell them that you're tired of the name calling.  If they still do it after you tell them this then I would just not say a word and leave the room. 

I would also tell them that if they don't like the way I am then they don't have to be around me...because this is who I am. 

I would say by losing your temper you were letting them know how it bothers you.   Maybe next time when calmer talk to them and tell them how it makes you feel when they talk about you.  If they love you and care they should understand.

That really sucks, and I feel for you.  It is easy to blow off opinions of strangers, unfortunately it is harder to blow off opinions of people close to you. 

I agree with the advice people posted, I just wanted to add:

My mom and sister are like that with me.  I got stuck with the "screw up" label in my family.  When I was 19, I started therapy and worked really hard to improve my self esteem.  A major part of that was trying to make my mom understand that she had to quit taking shots at me.  I didn't find anything that worked.  (My mom has her own undiagnosed problems.)  After 31 years of their mean crap, I got fed up.  I now have no contact with my mom.

Hopefully your mom is more understanding.  If they can't change their behavior, get away-- far away.  A lot of people think that getting along with your family is necessary.  I can tell you for sure, it isn't. 

The point is, be good to yourself, your opinion of you is the ONLY one that matters. 

Take care.

Thank you so much for all your advice. It is a real help! I will from now on say to people 'LET ME BE ME' It is true we are all unique and nobody should judge anyone.xGood Girl.

But you CAN judge avatars.

I like yours.

It's soooo you!



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