Wow! Non-ADDers just suck don't they? Self-righteous asses! (I'm venting along with you here). Seriously, though, it drives me nuts when people assume to know everything there is to know about ADD because of what they've 'heard' on tv or anecdotal heresay. Gah! I would suggest that if it's possible to find some scientific article on ADD and plop it on her desk but she wouldn't read it or blow it off.
Now, for a little devil's advocate. I'm assuming you are still on meds. How are they working? What are you on? Would a meds check-up with your psych be worth it? And maybe therapy isn't a bad idea. Not the kind of therapy she's recommending (the kind that deals with your 'immaturity' and other issues) but the kind that can help with the organization, feelings of being overwhelmed, expectations of failure, etc. Those are typical ADD emotions and ones that need to be addressed/dealt with before they become self-fulfilling prophecies.
Now, you mentioned, that the money is good, benefits, etc. But what are those costing you? Family time (the kids are only kids for so long) and your health. What are the value of those?
Options: Is the company big enough to move to another position? Is there some sort of limitation on moving to another position (be in the job one year before eligible for a move)? Use your ADD to think outside the box. Imagine your most perfect job. What would it look like?
I hope that some of this helps. I've dealt with those emotions/issues before. I got on Strattera back in August, went to therapy for a couple of months, then started a new career. Life is so much better.
Another side thought. If she thought you were immature and impulsive why did she hire you in the first place? Or did someone else do the hiring and she became your defacto boss? If she is calling you names, etc. then sounds like an issue for the HR dept. ADD&Proud38840.29Yesterday, I had enough! I've been working at a job for 7 mo. that has alot of benefits as far as contacts and experiance, but I feel like everyday I am walking into HELL. I just can't pull it together. I was forced to tell my boss about my ADD, because I had to take a drug test. I've posted before on how I believe that was a huge mistake. Anyway, I told her yesterday that I didn't feel like my job was a good match for me. It requires an extreeme amount of organization, commitees, training, public speaking, etc. I dread it every day!Right now I am literally ill, because I am the sole provider for my family and I know that I should keep this job, suck it up and manage, but I am so f**king miserable. The pay is better than I've ever had, but I'm giving up family time and my mental health to do it. So, in response to my concerns because I feel like everything I do at work is foreign and uneasy to me she says... " I think you need to see a therapist" this was all in the middle of her calling me immature and impulsive. Then she says about my ADD that " you diagnosed yourself and then went out and found a doctor to convince to give you the meds you wanted". WHAT? So, here I sit, knowing that part of every problem I'm having at work is my complete inability to be as organised and follow the strict, yet ever changing regeime she has for me because I am ADD or because it is just not within me. I feel like I am swimming upstream and am doomed to drown!Sorry for the vent, but I just don't know what to do...Play along with the witch.
[quote=ADD&Proud]Another side thought. If she thought you were immature and impulsive why did she hire you in the first place? Or did someone else do the hiring and she became your defacto boss? If she is calling you names, etc. then sounds like an issue for the HR dept. [/quote]
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ADD&P makes an excellent point. When someone is being critical, it's a great tactic to remind them of your strenghts and contributions. With your manager, you could remind them of why you were hired, or how your ADD has developed skills in yourself that contribute to your effectiveness.
I also get frustrated when someone minimizes the seriousness of ADD. It's unfortunate that folks are so shallow that they make assumptions and immediatly assume a negative.
Also something to consider is how we communicate our disorder to others, especially those we work with. Looking at it from their perspective, they may feel like ADD is being used as an excuse because we inadvertanly give that impression (even if we do not intend to). We can help folks like that by making sure we also communicate the steps we take to manage our disorder. If they perceive that we are assuming responsibility for our medical issues, then they will be more likely to balance that against those areas we tend to not perform well with.
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