Moving home! | ADHD Information

 While moving is very stressful, I believe that in the long run these kids will be stronger when they need to move, go to college or make big changes in the future.  A counselor told me this when my kids were going through  our difficult first move.  I have found it to be true as I have watched my kids mature.  New schools will often give kids a fresh start. It did for my ds.  I also did my homework and we moved into a family oriented neighborhood with about twenty terrific school aged kids on our street!
We moved from CA to PA when my kids were  3,6,9.  Lived in three different houses there along with a change in schools again.  Moved to WA - ages 7, 10, 13.  By the time ds was in 4th grade, he had been in four different elementary schools!   The moves were all job related, something one cannot necessarily control.  After 8 years here it looks like it may happen again.  Sometimes I feel bad that my kids grew up without extended family nearby, on the other hand our family has learned how to deal with change, is a very tight knit and enjoy spending time together. 
There is one place that my kids feel a sense of family and permanence at and that is the summer cottage we return to every year or two since they were babies.  It has been in the family for the last 85 years or so.
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I agree with julie339326 when she said "The best way to help your son deal with the transition is to research before you move and find social activities for him to participate in right from the beginning." I did research the city and the area before I bought my home. Fortunately they were very kid friendly.

Good luck and keep us posted

Moving is very hard, we just moved our ds from TX to TN, he is away from everything he knew, but now he is on a better schedule not going between our home, and his fathers home.  He is adjusting to the school suprisingly well, afterschool prgrm on the other hand is a nightmare just about, but we feel this movie is going to benefit him in the long run.  He still acts up of course but we are working very hard on keeping him on a strict schedule, and actually since I posted my first post on Monday I am seeing a HUGE difference, as where last week (his first week he was in trouble everyday, and where this week, we've had 3 good days out of 4, which is a good thing) keeping things very strict so if you keep your dx child on a schedule hopefully things will work.  I was stressed out so bad last week thinking the move was horrible idea, but now after this week, I am thinking this is the best thing for him we are having so much of a better week and it is such a relief.  So I wish you all the best of luck for you and your families move!

While moving is hard on kids sometimes it's something that is out of your control.  Are you moving home for financial reasons or for a job transfer??  Sometimes you just have to do what you have to do.  The best way to help your son deal with the transition is to research before you move and find social activities for him to participate in right from the beginning.  That might make him deal with the change better if he's busy from the start.  Good luck with it.  LEt us know how it goes.

Hello there jacquie -k-....

My family moved in August 2004 from one city to another..same state. I had left DS in the private school in our old city, due to the fact my Mom lived right near the school, to finish off that school year. He started public school in August 2005 and DS hasn't transitioned well. Alot of ups and downs. He is currently seeing a counselor on campus once a week. You might try to find some neighborhood children's events or organizations. We live in a mobilehome park and they have a Kid's club established. Sports are another good thing. There wil be alot of tears and frustration. I know with us....the move was a good thing.

Wishing the best for you and your family.

 

we are curently,looking to move home and i was wondering if we would do our son more harm than good ,taking away from everything he knows and love where he feels safe and secure.

Then springing an all new enviroment people paces ect upon him ,he finds it hard to make friends as kids his age dont want to play with him cause he is sooooo  naughty .

Please help.