My Life the living nightmare | ADHD Information
This is the mood i am in My child has now been screaming and trying to dictate to me for 3 hours now and has been as nasty as can be. Is it ODD or is it ADHD or the combination either way I am ready to scream. It started off at homework time for she did not want to do her homework (plus the work she did not finish in school) we struggled through it. Then I had to force her into the shower and afterwards she was fine while I was doing her hair of course she was playing her gameboy to occupy her time. Then she mouthed me off so she lost the gameboy nad has to earn it back so the tantrums began and now 3 hours later she is out of control. Then she wanted her favorite nightgown which is in the machine so she began screaming at me and I told her to find something else to wear or you will go to bed in your underwear. She refused to brush her teeth etc so I had to make good and put her to bed in her underwear kicking and screaming all the way and threatening me. It took several times for me to get her to stay in her bedroom.
Then I have the added stress of my husband adult ADD but not treated having a tantrum of his own due to his truck is broken I swear I hate my life about now. The child is starting to calm I think Any advice. My daughter has a psychologist appointment the 24th if i can hold on. 
She was diagnosed by a psychologist who specializes in children and teens with ADHD, we completed packets upon packets of paperwork as well as did the school. The typical questionairs the psychologist also spent time testing my child doing various tests with her before her diagnosis. She is currently taking Concerta 18mg for 3 weeks now may be connection I do not know. She was prior on Ritalin 10mg lA until the substitute teacher reported it was not helping and she had all this extra homework. When the Ritalin La was changed to 20mg she did not act like herself, would not leave the couch and appeared sad to me why the switch again. She is now bringing home extra homework work not getting done in school however her teacher is back and there is a communication barrier, she never responds nor returns my calls. I am glad the year is almost over. This is in another post on the school section.
Thanks for the support I feel like no one else understands what we go through that life is not easy. She sees the psychologist on the 30th thought was sooner but not and I will talk to him about her behavior. I am also hoping to hear from the university to see if she is in fact in on the 3 year study.
i found i was planC and my hubby planA.i did not find the book usefull for me as ds is not 4 yet,but i think it is good for older kids.i think they are hoping that it will teach them control and that will help them in their future life.
as for you jillette,i hope you get an answer from your doctor,
our behavior therapy is doing ok,better than i thought,maybe you could give it a try.what about trying to get your hubby to accept his ADD.I am feling a lot stronger since i finally accepted that i have it.
I do remember throwing a moment of a tantrum a couple times when the kids would get to me and i wanted to demonstrate what they were doing. Since I am generally patient and easy going, the shock value was really worth it. They suddenly shaped up and everything was fine.
Smallmom, I respect your opinion. I didn't read the whole book...lol. It could work long term, but will not change the child's problems. If he has a disorder, it's going to be there and adults (I have three adult kids) do have to be stable. There are no allowances made for our adult kids and others, such as employers, won't do Ross Greene basket methods for our kids. It is mandatory to find out what the disorder is and correct it in the best way possible. That's where a good diagnosis comes in. I feel this child should be checked beyond ADHD. Just too much going on.I respectfully disagree with OlderMom on the methods outlined in The Explosive Child being a short-term fix. I just finished re-reading it (for a workshop I'm teaching on extra-challenging children -- think I have any first-hand experience?), and Greene's techniques make good common sense for parenting children now through adulthood. I personally think his methods will improve the parent-child relationship regardless of diagnosis.OlderMom, it's true -- you still need a diagnosis, and you still need the proper interventions. And believe me, when my 13-year-old son was raging every night following his manic reaction to Zoloft, there was no reasoning with him -- everything was in Basket C (the "let it go" basket). What I like about Greene is that he explains why many of our kids act the way they do (regardless of dx) and how to work with them, instead of against them. I think he makes good sense. When I use his methods, we have a lot less shouting and a lot less tantruming. Works for me!throw a tantrum of your own tomorrow ---- that'll learn 'em.
refuse to dress your daughter or take her to school or get her
breakfast or do anything but tantrum -and make sure it is bigger and nastier than any they've ever thrown at you!
oops - just as well i'm not married - i can see this...........
(and i'm only joking jillette - btw really good luck with it all)
Jill, have you read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene? Lots of great info on parenting chronically inflexible and easily frustrated children (like all of ours!). Good luck.I don't know who diagnosed your child, but it's probably not ADHD or ODD. It's probably something a lot different which means stimulants or straterra are making him worse. I'd get another evaluation by a Psyschiatrist (with the MD) and/or a NeuroPsych. ADHD kids do not scream and rage like that and ODD is more a symptom of another disorder than a disorder in of itself. Obviously his current treatment isn't working. I'd seriously question it. "The Explosive Child" is a good method while you're waiting to find out what's wrong with your child, but won't work in the long run and will not change your child--it WILL give you temporary added peace in your house. I'd have your husband see a Psychiatrist too. Good luck. OlderMom38845.8121180556
I feel for you Jillette, I have days like that. Sometimes I feel like throwing a tantrum myself, or to pack my bags and leave.
Rebecca 3rd gr. has to learn her multiplication tables, she passed the 9's 10's and 11's, but we're still working on the 6's 7's and 8's. Sunday a week ago I made her sit down and write all of them twice. The usual whining started: I don't want to, why do I have to, that's not fair etc. We were in the kitchen and I started supper, I also asked dh to sit in livingr. with Jacob (K) and read a book and do a bookreport. And as usual Rebecca sucked me into arguing with her, I was just about to really scream at her, when I took a deep breath and told her, that I will set the timer for 45 min. - by then she was up to writing them 5x each due to whining and compaining - that nobody will come in the kitch. and bother her, and will be playing on the computer untill she's done, and left the room. I totaly took the wind out of her sail, she had no audience anymore, nobody to whine to, and she did them. After she was done her da** attitude was gone too.
Today was another day with the homework battle. But I rememberd how it worked last sunday, and did the same thing. Fortunatly they are in bed now.
It just makes feel better to know that i'm not the only mom, who's ready to pull her hair out just about every day.
[QUOTE=SmallMom]Jill, have you read The Explosive Child by Ross Greene? Lots of great info on parenting chronically inflexible and easily frustrated children (like all of ours!). Good luck.[/QUOTE]
*I will either look for it at the library or will purchase it. Thanks for the support. I deserve a medal for I did not kill her and kept my cool. I am scared for the future especially with the oppositonal defiency right now she is 6 I am terrifed of the teen years. I want to hear and see positives to make me feel better. I do love her more than life and it kills me when she is out of control. Thanks again. Jill