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Oh! Laura, I am sorry this extra load has been added to your Mom's already overloaded Lot...It is so unfair that it is the Moms who 9 times outa 10 are left with the practical everyday things when it comes to ADHD..If it is any consulation you are in our prayers here.. hey Mom let it go.. you have the human right to get mad and cry and give out hell... Psstt I know Auntie is behind your back watching out for U..my oldest has ADD....it is typical of an ADDer to hold a different point of view from the majority (and apparently that holds true even on an ADDer board, surprisingly) --- so just from what little i have read in the basement about you and your family...!
it's so difficult to say - not knowing your circumstances properly. this is the impression i get however. first off, i would talk to your daughter about it. she is getting Ds - well, what does she want to do in life? if she wants to be a University don then fine - put her on the stims and help her out. if however, her temperament is more that she would prefer to do something unacademic - be a hairstylist, beautician or riding-school teacher, ice-skater whatever! then i, personally, would hold off on the stims for the moment.
you know your daughter best. it may seem to be limiting her options. personally i don't think so - but it depends how you see your daughter. being bad at school is no guarantee of not making a success of ones life (particularly if one has ADD). being a hairstylist - one can become Vidal Sassoon. a beautician - Bobbi Brown or whoever. a photographer - David Bailey. and not making a fortune of money in your life - to me doesn't mean that one is not a success either. if your daughter gets a job as a hairstylist and doesn't become Vidal Sassoon - i still can't see that that is a problem.
i just feel that if your daughter, herself, is happy in herself - beyond the normal teenage stuff. then i would talk to her - diagnosing ADD is not an exact science anyway. i would not put her on the stims just to up her grades now. my own personal opinon. i would only put her on them if SHE wants them, if she is unhappy, if she is really struggling on an everday level - if she can't make friends, if she can't express herself, if she is so impulsive that she makes her life a miserable experience, if she is desperately struggling against her symptoms.
ADDers can often end up having more choices i think - because they are pushed into looking for other solutions. my ADD (succesful) friends have ended up doing really interesting jobs (one coaches a junior Olympic ski-team --- he was HOPELESS at school) whereas my non-ADD friends have ended up working in far more tedious, less rewarding (except possibly financially) type jobs such as marketing executive for a large firm, that they loathe! day in/day out at some miserable office - working as a cog in the machine, it's soul-destroying.
i wish you had written more - why she was diagnosed, what are her symptoms (beyond getting Ds - which i don't think counts as a proper diagnosis btw), what you feel about it. it is quite hard to respond (i know you felt there wasn't much support up here - but to be honest it is difficult to reply without any info beyond my daughter has been dxed ADD) - has she? why? do you agree? do you think it is correct? are you relieved? does this explain all the difficulties you/she have been having? is it like "at last" something that explains/helps/makes such sense?
people are normally obviously ADD in my opinion. i was obviously different from all my friends - not that they cared, it was a very tolerant, variety is the spice of life kinda attitude. but i was about as dreamy and out-of-it as you can imagine. my friends took it upon themselves to help me - help me combat my considerable absent-mindedness - as a sort of project! even the teachers would not get cross but just sort of shake their heads and go "uh, christiiiiiiiiiiiine!" not cross, just a level of almost amused exasperation that AGAIN....
on many levels i value my ADDness - that is why i don't medicate myself - but the majority of other ADDers here, really don't and can't think of anything worse than falling back into that apathetic, destructive fog - and i would be the first to admit it can be HARD and soul-destroying in it's own right, the constant failure, failure, failure. but it is a personal choice and if your daughter is old enough i would talk it through with her - don't feel pressured just because she has been diagnosed that she automatically has to be medicated or not, or even that that automatically means her life will be rubbish! it doesn't at all!!!! go with your gut feeling ----
good luck with it all!
chjones38852.294837963I'm sorry
I'll pray for you both.thank you for your replies!
wow chjones---thanks....i'm sorry i didn't write more, but i have alot going on right now....when i feel better, i'll post more, downstairs!
Nice One jfla2,
Have we got the start of a Prayer Chain for Laura? Mmmm. Watch this space...I say watch this space... I'm outta here.. heading down to the basement to see if i can get "Auntie's Famous coffee Mug...
Opps.. hope she didnt catch me on camera saying that...
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thanks for the support guys.....i'm off to the basement now
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