If you learn anything from what I've shared learn that early intervention on passive-agressive tendencies could make a great deal of difference in this or any child with ADHD and this problem. Get him into a good pediactric therapist and explain everything. He needs to find productive and honest outlets or believe me the future will be pitted with much sorrow for him. It certainly was for me.
It's not easy growing up not trusting anyone (not even yourself). You end up either reaching out to the wrong person (and getting hurt by it) then becoming very calloused, or never truly being either trusting or educated in deception enough to filter it all out.
Cognitive therapy has helped me be able to find new ways to express myself. The medication with that has allowed me to say what I feel in a non-angry way that gets results.
Don't leave a child like this. It's a very lonely world and he's going to be totally convinced it's him versus everything. Not a happy way to grow up.
Glen, that is so eyeopening. Thanks so much. I'm sure that my son has some of the same feelings of anger and loss of control. He, too, doesn't seem to be able to express those feelings but I can tell he's feeling them.
Thanks so much for the explanation!
I guess I should add a view from a male who did that when younger. I'm kind of embarassed to admit it but I had a phase where I did indeed urinate inside.
During a tough time (I was about 9) when my parents moved to a nasty little town where I was bullied and felt helpless I began this bad habit. I bullied my two younger sisters, damaged things like the TV and other valuables and peed upstairs in the attic - in the wood shaving insulation.
My mother caught me when it began to flow through to the ceiling. She then asked why and at the time I couldn't explain it. Now I know it was a passive-agressive behavior that was me manifesting my anger at being helpless. I decided to mess up and destroy things to let everyone know I wasn't happy.
Not saying that this is the reason here - but that was mine. And I was severely ADHD so maybe there's a connection. Some hidden anger that he cannot express in a healthy way?
jude loves to pee outside in the garden,must be a boy thing.Actually, it's NOT normal for a boy to pee in his closet, but some little ones may try it until told it's wrong. How old is he? If he's three, I wouldn't worry. If he's six, I'd have to give it another thought and ask myself why he'd do that. My autistic son used to pee outside at about three years old, but he was a copycat...lol. He had a friend who was often locked out of his house so that kid did it. He doesn't do it anymore and didnt' do it beyond age five. Then again he has autistm. My other two boys never did that. One was slow to learn the potty, but he just wet his pants (ick). No closet. I confess that my son, almost 13, still sometimes pees into empty pop bottles. He does this when he 1/ is watching something on television or playing a videogame and can't bear to leave (his autism obsessions) and 2/ When somebody is using our one bathroom and he doesn't want to knock and ask us to hurry or to wait. Again, though, this is a kid on the autism spectrum. I have yet to figure out how to make him stop, even at his age, but at least he's using a bottle :/ OlderMom38850.5678125I have a strange question. My ds son was caught urinating in his room. ( GROSS) after I regained my thoughts and cleaned I came here. First he blamed it on our dog. Then came clean. So I was just wondering, is this a boy thing, adha thing or just plain gross. My friend told me her son used to "Pee" in the closet but why? is it just becuase they can? very confused just wondering whjat the other moms have to say about this. Please let me know. Thanks well it has to be the first time, right? otherwise you would have smelt it/noticed it before.
well he is seven almost eight. It did once before when he was younger. When I asked him why he said he didn't know. I am so confused and a little grossed out.
I guess I will just keep talking to him. Thanks for the input.
bumping so more people can readto put it at the top for more people to comment and reply in the hopes to help you out.
My son LOVES to pee out side. I just tell him to pee around my garden so he will keep the rabbits away. but remember, i live in a small neighborhood with a 2 acre lot, no one can see. If some one does see, they are probably doing it too. lol But not in the house. That's a bit different. I agree with oldermom. It's not that common in the house, Damon has never done it inside (except for the toilet).
what does that mean? bumping so more people can read. If you catch him a natural consequence should be make him clean it up not you and of course no outdoor play or something he wants to do until it is cleaned up. once cleaned up and you have quiet time with him talk to him about it and why it was not a good idea. Good luck.dylans mom, My son has peed countless times in his room and closet. I was just at the point where I had no idea what to do and I think it has finally stopped. No amount of discipline helped. He was also still wetting his bed at this point too. It happened from about 5 until after he turned 7. He stopped, at least I hope he stopped, about 6 months ago. He also stopped bedwetting. My son also blamed it on the dog, then the cat. Now, he's not peeing in his room but he is peeing without lifting the seat and occasionaly he's peeing all over the floor around the toilet.
I'm so glad to hear that it's not just my son. We're having so much trouble with my son in school this year and after I reply to this post I'm going to start a new thread about it because I just need to vent.