Help, i can’t stop my 5 yr old!! | ADHD Information

Have you thought of taking him to a Urologist? Wetting the bed is not due to ADHD. My oldest did it until he was 11 and my brother had done it until 12. It's a physical problem--possibly an immature bladder. There are meds for it, but, frankly, I just changed the linen and had my son shower before school. I didn't want to make a big deal out of it because I heard that only makes it worse. The kids don't do it on purpose. My oldest is 28 and no longer wets the bed :) I never gave him any meds for it--he just outgrew the problem. Whatever you do, don't punish the little guy for it. We were told to have him not drink after dinner and wake him during the night, but, frankly, I just didn't want to make that big of an issue out of it. Good luck :) Eliza, your not alone.  My son just turned 10 and still wets the bed everynight.  We also tried everything (except the medication, he takes enough).  It doesn't really phase my son, I just put him in pull-ups everynight.  I got so tired of washing sheets everyday.  Anyway, his doctor is just now beginning to be concerned, but I'm not.  I take the same position of Oldermom and just don't make a big deal about it.  We have an occasional dry night, sometimes two, but for the most part not.  Your little guy is still very young, just give him some time.  Hang in there!I have an 11 yr old who has been the SAME way since toddlerhood.  We tried EVERYTHING over the years... except the bedwetting alarm.  We finally agreed to try the alarm. He has been using the Sleep Dry bedwetting alarm system for just over a month now, and to my SHOCK... it's actually working! It cost 60 dollars. We had the same issues you are dealing with before this... he would be wet just a couple hrs into the night... and would NOT wake up for alarm clocks.  I about went crazy trying to wake him up several times a night (if I didn't get him to the bathroom at least 2x... usually he needed 3 trips), he'd be wet.  How long did you try the alarm?  I've read they can take up to like 3 months to work... maybe even longer in some.  I KNOW how frustrating it is... believe me... I've been dealing with it for 11 yrs!  If you need a break from it... I'd use pull ups or goodnights.  We went back and forth from using them and just washing sheets.  The other thing about my son is that he could care less if he was laying in pee all night.. he wouldn't even come to get me or try to change his bed or anything.  I hope things get better for your son soon!

this is a hard one.it looks that you have done all the things we are supposed to do.

my son is 4 next week and he stopped wetting the bed until last week.first i was wondering why ,then i realised the 3 days he wet the bed we had a bad day.it could be something is bothering him and the bed wetting is a result.i was trying a new routine set by the behavorial spychologist and he did not like it and we were fighting like cat and dog.i did not make a big deal about it,told him it was ok

nothing since.how is he during the day?

 Hi i need help, my 5 year old is Adhd and He has a bed wetting problem, every single night i put him to bed but before i make sure he goes to the toilet, then he goes to sleep and a few hours later his completely soaked in wee and it stinks. I have tried bed wetting alarms and even tried to wake him every couple of hours but it just doesn't work... What now.. what do i do i don't know what else to do

 

please help me!!

I also have the problem with my 8 yo ds. His M.D. gave me the ddavp medication I haven't started it yet. I have spent alot of time talking to people about this. I f you have taken him to the Dr. and had medical conditions ruled out I have been told it some thing they have to outgrow. My Dr. talk t omy ds about it, and told him he needed to handle it. Put on his pull up and night throw it in the am tell me when he is running low and yes even help me wash his sheets ( he does all but the last) I figure if he does all that and concentrates on school I try not to make him worry about it, he has enough to deal with. i have read it is more common in boys. Not sure if that helps. My ds is 8 and I finally started him on DDAVP because I couldn't take it anymore.  Then I read a magnesium deficiency can cause bedwetting, so I started ds on mag.  I slowly weaned him off the meds. and he has not had a problem yet.

Thanks for all your help guys, I did try all the alarms on the market but he just sleeps straight though them, noise when he sleeps doesn't bother him, i have tried waking him up and taking him to the toilet but he just goes back to sleep... i can't win

but if this is still happing maybe by the time his 6 i will go to the drs again about it

Thanks everyone

My daughter is almost six and has the same problem. She wears pull ups every night. I simply got tired of washing sheets everyday, if not two sets everyday. He pediatrician tried her on Imipramine, but it didn't help very much. I really don't want her to take medication if not absolutely necessary. Like your son she is a very sound sleeper, no noise wakes her. She doesn't mind being wet either. I sometimes feel as though I am going out of my mind. She will also wet her pants during the day and not even know it. Both sides of her family have this history so I think that it is just genetic.

Amy

Did you or dh, or any of your siblings had this problem? Our ped. told me, that it can be genetic. My sister was bedwetter until was 12 or 13. Dd is finally growing out of it ( she's 9 ), we tried two different meds, wich didn't help at all. The alarm stoped it for a while, and then it went back to every night again. I bought protective cover for the matress, that zipps up. Ped said it's an immature bladder and she just has to grow out of it.  We also limit drinks that have caffine in it, like tea, sodas and juice. Dr. said not giving the kid anything to drink after a certain time only trains the bladder to stay small. They still get water to drink when their thirsty, but only smaller amounts.

I have never heard the thing about milk, but have to try it, ds drinks milk all day. He still wears pull-ups, we call it "night underwear".

And like OlderMom said, never ever blame them for it, cause it's not their fault. 

Good luck 

My son (not ADHD) had this problem until he was about 13 years old.  We tried the waking him up in the middle of the night, and using a dual alarm clock (he didn't wake up, but everyone else did).  We tried the bedwetting alarms, but he would wet, the alarm would go off, and he would still be asleep.  He was better with DDAVP, but he would still wet several nights a week.  His doctor finally suggested that he limit milk products after 6pm.  He said that there is something about them that cause the kidneys to absorb water kind of like a sponge, and then all of a sudden let go!   Well, he was better as long as we could get him to follow this.  We would catch him "sneaking" milk, yogurt, and ice cream, and sure enough, there would be problems that night!  He finally outgrew the problem, thank heavens!My ds is 13 and wet the bed until last spring.  I bought a dry nite bedwetting alarm.  It clips to the underwear and as soon as it gets a little bit wet, it goes off with a shrill alarm that is clipped to his pajama shirt.  After 2 weeks, he had stopped wetting the bed.  My ds sleeps like a thing, and I was skeptical, but it woke him up and he'd get up to go potty and go back to sleep.  It also alarms as soon as the wetting begins, so he doesn't have to flood the bed for it to go off.  It only cost 19.99. 

Our doctor said that the dairy ban only needed to be after supper, like after 6or 7 pm. 

I don't think i could do the dairy ban for a month, it would take alot out of his diet, he doesnt like toast much so it has to be ceral for breakfast, with out the milk it would be a bit dry lol. And with kindy they have to have something dairy in their lunch boxes. so i'm not real sure what to do i will be going back to the doctors soon and i'll see what they can do for me.

Some younger kids just don't have the nightime muscular control developed yet.  It's something he cannot help. 

I had worked for a chiropractor for 10 years, and had learned that the chiropractic treatments can help with this issue.  We had a very large patient base of children, and my doc is very gentle, but VERY effective.    If you'd like more information, you are welcome to PM me. 

My son is 5 1/2  and still wets at night, like others I just don't make a big deal out of it because I know he is not doing it on purpose.

 One day he will stop ! I do not think he will be 20 yrs old and still do it                   " I HOPE "

 I think You should relax and wait for him until he is ready, I think we have enough problems with other issues that are far more important than this one, at least that is my opinion.

 I just take him to the bathroom before he goes to bed and put a pull up !

 He is Always wet when he gets up !

Good luck !

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My son wets the bed nightly and more than once a night as well. I have him wear night pull-ups and at times they leak through. It used to get to me but being that he has low muscle tone, I'm guessing it may have something to do with it. I don't make it a big deal either. He can't control it and punishing him for it will only hurt him. In the mornings I ask him if he's wet the bed and he'll let me know. If he does it's usually followed with an apology but really - it's not the end of the world. He's only 5 and it's his reality.

If I were you, I'd just accept it. He'll grow out of it eventually.

I have a 9 year old with bedwetting issues. I keep thinking "maybe by the next birthday he'll have grown out of it".

I have run out of ideas on my own.... limitting fluids after dinner ("I'm dehydrated!" he wails), waking him up to go to the toilet (didn't help even a little), encouraging him to change his own sheets(he just hid the fact they were wet).

He is a deep sleeper once he finally gets to sleep.... our fire alarm went off one night (spider climbed into it) and he didn't even stir. The road to sleep is a long one though, quite often he is still squirming and fussing an hour and a half after we put him to bed!

My middle of the night stress levels were through the roof with the stinky wetness and the sheets and quilts were wearing out from the daily washing! So we went back to "goodnights". Darn those designers! My son was finally okay with wearing them because they were plain white (unlike his little brother's colourful pull-ups) and then they go and start putting prints on them!!!!!! urg. They are very expensive when used every night and they sometime leak anyway.... but there is nothing left to try without medical intervention. HOWEVER, I am going to try the DAIRY BAN for a month and see if there is a difference!

my son never had this problem.  A friend of mine did w/ her son.  She said she made him wash his own sheets and fold them.  then she made him put them on the bed by himself.  But she said she felt sure it was him just being lazy.  But it worked for her and he has not done it again after the 3 times she made him do it by himself.  He as 5 at the time.