Good thing I know how to mess up so well | ADHD Information

And late fees are just another item on the utility bills...

And never, ever, should I be allowed to check out a library book.

 

 

I've gotten more acceptant of my mistakes - but a lot of that may have to do with better self-esteem along with better resources in my life.

For example, last month my cell phone bill was two hundred dollars above where it should have been - I have other phones to use during the day time, etc.  Previously, when I didn't have a way to take care of that type of "unexpected" bill responsibly, I used to get very upset with myself.  However, now, I can pay the bill, realize I made a mistake, and change my pattern - it's ok.

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And late fees are just another item on the utility bills...

And never, ever, should I be allowed to check out a library book.

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You know it!!... Don't you love how BlockBuster became ADHD friendly with no late fee's?  

I haven't tried to even go there in over a decade.  I heard something about that no late fee thing being complete false advertizing.   Do you know whatever happened with it?

I look at bouncing checks as a cost of doing business.
Seems to be  amain thing for me. Others dislike me cause of my honesty. Well so cause God no's I am being truthful. RN

Good for you Reisa!

That's one of the benefits I guess of ADHD - the lack of strong short-term memory.  But sometimes we can end up looping back on failures and obsessing so I am glad you don't end up that way too often.  I did - it was either mess up, say sorry and forget it or worry on the petty mistakes for weeks or even months.  Sometimes something would remind me months later of it and I'd end up ill over them.

In most cases it's the best policy just to brush the dust off and keep moving.  It is good to remember the mistakes though - so as not to repeat them.  That's one of the things I like to chuckle about - I say that I never make the same mistake twice - there are just so many new ones to make!

Very good attitude.  I'm glad - it's never any use to worry endlessly when we trip and fall. 

Yep Reisa,

I can totally relate.  I never try to cover anything.  What's the point?  I would never be able to keep track of all the cover ups!  I mess things up, forget, loose things all the time..even medicated..But at least the meds. help motivate me to begin and finish things!

I just straight up say, "I messed up the ...." or "I forgot..."  I then apologies sincerely.  People who know me and/or love me don't take it personally because they know me and they know that my intentions just don't always match up with my actions.

Those who expect the same standard or certain way of being for all people are very ignorant and I don't choose to waste my time with them. 

What's most important to me is to know that I try my best and I don't ever use my "disability" as an excuse. . If people have a problem with me it's their problem.

 Well said! I bet you have a lot of friends too. They don't have to worry that you will blame them for somehow causing you to make mistakes, which is a common ADHDer mistake.

I am acutally being serious.   Messing up is a part of life we all like to sweep under the rug.  Most non-ADHD people get really embarrassed about it.  Some even go to extraordinary lengths to cover it up or blame somebody else. 

People who aren't so familiar with making mistakes get caught by surprise.  They immediately try to compensate for the error, and assume others think they are dumb.  They get huge insecurity complexes over all kinds of things and sometimes end up looking dumb... not from the mistake, but from their feeble and akward attempts to save face.

Not me.  I can mess up like a pro.  I can forget stuff, make careless mistakes, be late despite heroic (to me) efforts.  For the most part, I shamelessly admit to it and do what it takes to fix it.  I can make an honest appology without tripping over my tongue.  I can say "yep, that was me, you can call me Grace."  Sometimes I can see situations that set me up to fail, and I simply don't go there. 

Don't get me wrong, sometimes it really hurts.  But even then, I know it is just a sucky time in my life and get past it as soon as possible.  In my universe, I practice the fine art of tripping with style.  It's better than constant insecurity and FEAR of failure that other people carry around.

Reisa,

Here's Blockbusters Policy and what it has printed on the bottom of my receipts:

"All Rentals due by 12:00 pm (noon)

              on the due date.

           Life after Late Fees:

       Participating stores only.

Rental product kept more than 7 days

    after the due date is converted to

    a sale.  Sale may be reversed by

returning the product within 30 days of

     the sale date and paying a .25

  restocking fee.  Franchise restocking

                    fees may vary."

So check with the particular location that you would go to and see if they are participating in "no late fee's" and find out what their restocking fee would be if you kept it over 7 days past the due date.

It sounds great to me!  They have to have some kind of control.