Bolting | ADHD Information

LMAO Damon has just started this! is this a faze they go through, if so how long does it last??? I hate it. I do like the ear thing. I'm going to start doing that along with the marbles.

Yes, we still use the marbles and it still works great!

Hi everyone, I have 3 children and my youngest child Kyle has adhd with aytistic tendancies and wow what a shock after already having 2 children. Kyle bolts all the time. He has now started school full time and the school were warned so they hired a 1 to 1 teacher for Kyle, but they obviously didn't listen to my warnings as Kyle has run out of the school on many occasions onto the main road. Any given oppurtunity and he will run. I now have to put a wrist strap on him everytime we go out which gets me a few funny looks from people and some comments which I give some comments back to, but it has stopped him running and if he does I run with him.

Mine bolts out of the house. In fact he did it last night and I called the police to go get him. I have no idea how to handle it with a teen who is bigger than me (5'7" and around 180 lbs). Fortunately he came back before the police found him. But anybody have any suggestions how to deal with a teen who bolts?LOL!!! I worked as a permanent substitute in an elementary school, where we had a PreK kid who was a bolter. And he was FAST! I'd be in my classroom and hear the teacher scream, "He's loose!" Teachers would come running out of their classes to catch him

. What was worse, his house was on the same street as the school, just about a 1/2 block away. One time, the class was walking down the hallway, and he bolted out the front door. The Principal went after him and was running down the street

. After that, he was not allowed to be in the hallway, if he wasn't holding the teacher's hand.

lillian38856.4045833333I usually hold him by the ear when i catch him. Hold firm to the lobe, the amount of struggling he dose dictates the uncomfort he will have. Then explain to him in the sterness voice that running away is not tollerated. Aparrently we do not explain or negotiate on this point so the PHSYC told me. I also spoke with our Health visitor about this worried that someone will think i am hurting Jude. She replied that this was a corrective technic to deal with a situation which could lead to Jude running inn front of a car. If this sounds horrible to you make him wear a hood and hold that.LOL INa. You reminded me of the days of chasing Lucas through malls and wondering if anyone would call the police on their cell phones because he'd scream like I was kidnapping him. What did I do when he bolted??? I chased him!!! And I also limited taking him outdoors. Lucas would also open the front door and go outside at 3am. We got permission from his caseworker (he was a foster child at the time) to take a hook and put it outside the door to keep him in his room at night, as long as we had a monitor from his room to ours so we could hear him. That didn't stop him from TRYING to get out, but he only broke the lock once :) After that we put two hooks on the door, again with DCFS permission. He doesn't do that anymore, but it's not something you ever forget. OlderMom38856.2763194444

My dd tried to run off from house when she was 7 years old. We had some bad time then.

Well , I let her go but I was walking behind her, certainly. She decided to move to her Aunts house so after a half an hour, when she asked some woman to show her way, women decided to call police. I approached to her, take her home, had a looong talk...

Month ago I asked her something about that runing off and she told me " You must be dreaming something bad, I never done that "

She s forget everything. And she had never tried to to the same again, after.

Any of you have children who bolt (run off)? How do you deal with it?Bolt off how? when when my ds is mad he does that. I just make him come back and explain I was not done.

HI, I just joined-I can't believe it took me this long to find this great resource. This is my first reply/post I couldn't resist this one. I have a huge problem with my 7 year old son bolting. He has run from school a couple times and had to be carried back - last time it took 8 people. I lost him in Target and when the Target team members found him he ran from them; it was an embarrasssing big chase he even continued to run when he saw me!!!!! Anyway like it was already mentioned it's the impulsivity. We are working on some stratagies to prevent this from happening and also some serious consequences have been put in place due to the dangerous behavior (could get hit by a car etc). The Dr put him on Tenex (already on concerta) to help slow down the fight-or-flight response. Only been 2 weeks we'll see.

Thanks for lettin me join in

Welcome olie. My sister gave me a name (I have to get back to her again) for a product the child and parent wear on their wrist. From what I understand, the wrist is programmed to set boundaries. If the child steps outside those boundaries, it will beep. It also has a 'walkie-talkie' option to it incase the child is lost.

I've emailed my sister for it and once she gets back to me, I'll forward it on to this thread. It might be something to consider. I'm going to check it out myself. I've never heard of it before.

[QUOTE=julie339326]Mine bolts out of the house. In fact he did it last night and I called the police to go get him. I have no idea how to handle it with a teen who is bigger than me (5'7" and around 180 lbs). Fortunately he came back before the police found him. But anybody have any suggestions how to deal with a teen who bolts?[/QUOTE]

My 17 year old son with ODD used to do this. Usually when he was being disciplined and was hearing something that he didn't want to hear. You handled it the same way as what we did. We had the police pick him up twice. He has not tried it again in over a year, so it must have worked!

Oh yeah but not so much now on meds. It is the impulsivity.

It IS the impulsivity. My son bolts and I'm also dealing with a student who bolts as well. It's hard. I've tried the ear thing .. upper ear though and always feel bad doing it .. kind of like the whole 'spanking' debate. I'm hoping it's a phase he'll grow out of VERY QUICKLY. He has bolted at school on numerous occasions as well. Luckily, he has a 1to1 worker during recess/lunch times to keep him safe. Of course, there's always going to be that ONE time that .. I don't even want to think about it.

The student I have bolted from his father one weekend recently. He ran down the road; hopped onto the bus and managed to get onto the skytrain as well. He's in grade one with no concept of safety. Finally, a stranger on the train grabbed a hold of his hand and reported him to the skytrain police. He was later brought home safely .. LUCKILY!

Dh and I sometimes joke about putting a dog collar on Jacob, I didn't know someting like that exsitet for kids. I really like to know more about this.

Jacob is 6 now and he still runs off. I usually do my grocerysh. at night when dh is home, but when I do have to take the kids with me, Jacob still has to in the cart. On the rare occ. when I do let him walk with me like "a big boy", a few steps into the store and woosh, he's gone. Just to much to see!

We live on 3acres right on a 4 lane hwy, with a rock quarry behind us. He started running off when he was 2. The last straw was, when I went to the bathroom, and he went out the "locked" backdoor. I grabbed my cellph. ran around the front of the house first, and then down the path towards the barn. I can't believe how fast these little one can go. By the time I got to the barn, a worker from the quarry walked him up the hill and through the bushes from the quarry. No fence between us and the quarry. But two days later my in-laws came and helped us put up a fence in the backyard. Sadly he can undo the springlatch now. Just two weeks ago he took off to the neighbors house ( about 100yd. through the field) on his little battery ATV. A friend of ours who is a dumptruck driver saw him on the hill, and called me, I was starting supper, and didn't see him taking off. Got in my car and went after him. I told him how dissapionted I was that I can't trust him, how dangerous this could have been and blah, blah. Neddles to say, the ATV is now parked in the barn, with the battery in dh's truck.

I don't think he'll ever stop running off, he's much to imulsive. One of those day's he'll give me a heartattack. But he's never run off from school, yet! He likes it there, he also had an awsome teacher for Kindergarten.

I was just talking to a mom whose 3rd child routinely "disappears" in (and out!) of stores, the library, etc. She is so shocked, after two kids who stayed near mom when they were toddlers. I had to laugh. DS has been bolting off since he could walk at 9 months. Now you see him, now you don't.

When we were traveling through airports when he was 2, we actually used a harness. There was no way we could risk him simply taking off. Too fast!

In fact this is one of the things that I love most about DS's medication treatment for ADHD. I am not constantly worried when we are out in public that he will dart into traffic at any moment. And it's not just because he's older now, because when he's off meds, he is still prone to disappear without notice.

He feels bad after doing it, and even realizes the danger he puts himself in to some extent, but those thoughts don't surface before he is already off and running. Scary and exhausting!

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[QUOTE=IMac]I hope this product is the answer you are looking for, but will it stop the boltee from running or just tell everyone in the vicinity that a bolter has left the area? [/QUOTE]

Honestly, I think it will really depend on the child. It's not going to work for everyone. I work with a child who bolts and I can already tell you, this product is not going to work with this child. My son, on the other hand, it may just do the job. We shall see.

I found Target on the list, they carry it for 19.99. It may work better for us just here at home, to let me know when he walks away from the house, so I can go after him. In a big crowd, he still could get lost if runs fast enough. we'll see.

If you're needing this product but are living outside my local neighbourhood click onto this site provided and it will give you other sources for you to choose from:

Where to buy Angel Alert. Best of luck.

Wow that sounds great-yeah let me know if you find out more about this wrist device.

Thanks

The product I'm looking for comes from a local store here in BC. I've emailed them to see if they can forward me a link and I'll pass it onto here.

I contacted Walmart and London Drugs from the list provided and they didn't carry the product. I'm guessing the Walmart in the US may have the product but not here in Canada - or at least in the city I'm from.

As for London Drugs, I called 5 different locations and no one ever heard of it.

I am reading these posts and laughing so hard! I know it is not a funny thing, it's just horrible and helpless when you are there. My ADHD son isn't the "bolter" in fact he is very good because he is so NOISY all the time, I know EXACTLY where he is. Not a stealthy bone in his body..... as a result he quite often is stepping on my heels, running into me with the cart and generally painfully in my space when we are together. Its my younger boy (no ADHD symptoms) that is the runner! He is so quiet and purposeful, and strong and FAST! He climbed OVER the baby gate at the top of the stairs the day he learned to walk (crying at the sore toes, but not stopping til he got over) we took it down immediately and had very few problems with him falling down the stairs. That was just the beginning. He would start off petting the cat on the back porch while I am cooking, and next thing I knew he was running down the street in his sock feet after the neighbour's dog.... quietly (it was the dog's noise that gave him away). And slipping out the front door, and bolting in parking lots, stores, his brother's school..... anywhere and everywhere. As he is getting older, he is choosing when and where he wants to bolt now -- he knows he will get in trouble (yes I do the ear lobe pull when I catch him, it works terrific no matter how many dirty looks I get) sometimes he just thinks its worth it! I can see the little gears in his head grinding away, it is funny, when its not infuriating!

I found it! Check it out:

Jolly Jumper Angel Alert

My son had a different variation on this before meds- when we went to
somewhere with a lot to see, he would dart right in front of me when we
were walking. I would never dare let go of his hand, so I guess it was the
only direction he could go. We have stumbled and crashed our way
through the mall, the State Fair... it is like walking a cat on a leash. On
meds he is better, but often has to be reminded that he has walked in
front of me- he just drifts all over the place.

I am ashamed to say that when he was three and this started (I couldn't
carry him anymore at 36 lbs) I told him that every time that he crashed
into my legs I would kick him. Getting kicked didn't even phase him.

Hopefully he figures out synchronized walking before his first girlfriend... I'm still working on it .. I didnt forget. My sister hasn't been able to get back to me but she will. I hope this problem grows itself out. How old are your children?

Thanks INaBOX I'm so grateful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My little bolter might even think this is cool He has a twin brother who is the complete opposite but he'll probably want one too.

again thanks!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks INaBOX, I'll check out. We are going to an amusement park this summer, and this might just be the thing we need to have.