TEENAGE TROUBLES! | ADHD Information
I have a 17 year old child who was daginosed with ADHD when he was in the 1st grade. We have tried all stimulants and it was a disaster!! He did not respond well at all. Then antidepresant and the doctors thought he had leukimia. BUt come to find out is was the drug. By 4th grade I had just about given up, I finally took him to a physcatrist and they were doing an experiamenal project on ADD/ADHD and EEG Biofeedback, So for 6months twice a week we went for 1 hour sessons. I believe it worked as far as teaching him how to deal with distractions and how to concetrate for longer perids of time. My child has never failed a grade in school,but his main problem is socity and his brother. HE is so afraid he is getting cheated and that his brother(14) is gonna get something better than him. HE gets so depressed and sown.
This year in school he started out so GUNGHO! I was so excited , for one, he is a Senior and two we are finally gonna get the HELL outta there. (Hopefully). I had him so ready to conquer the world and 2 weeks was all it took for the teachers to have him beat back down!! It is pittiful on how these teachers think they know what they are doing to our children is funny and that our children do not have any concern what so ever for school or their work. When in fact the child can only do so much and if he does not understand like the rest of the class then he is NOT TRING! FOr example; Last week in English my son had an assignment , HE was not at school the day before and when asking the teacher about the assignment he replyed to get it from his friends, So he did and they told him to write an essay on one of the storys they were reading at school or on a movie of his choice. So he wrote it on the movie the MIRACLE, I was so proud of him, He laid in his room and watched the movie and hand wrote 4 pages,then he typed it out on the puter and spell and grammar checked it and we put it in a plastic folder and he had no porblem the next morning getting off to school, When he turned it in the teacher read it and THREW it back at him and told him that he had copied it! It was like my son quit at that moment. I have had HELL with him this past week and with his teacher.My son and I was up all night Saturaday first screaming and holloring and then finally we were able to talk, HOpefully I have him on the right track again. HE works well with brivary but he is gonna have hell when he starts to college,if he makes it that far.
HELP!!!! What to do????
Teachers hated me in school too and I still hate teachers, (except for the few on this forum).
My 9 year old has a "reading contract" that they have to fulfill each term. Books have point and they have read so many books to get the required amount of books to fulfill the contract, and if they do they get rewarded with a "fun day" at school.
My daughter scraped in last term, this term they had to gain 50 more point, she was 3 days late and completed on the day of the fun day. But she still was not allowed to attend. Because it would not have been fair to the other kids.
TEACHERS - kids should be rewarded on their best, not the collective best. The same 3 kids dont reach the contract each term, this should tell them, that the kids cant. My daughter tried so hard and didnt cheat and did beautiful reading responses. But for what - to be punished because she took and extra 3 days.
Well to hell with that stupid man I said to her - you can stay home with me tomorrow (because if she did not attend on fun day to miss out she would have been punished) and I will give you a fun day because you deserve it, and next time we will just read the blurbs and the first and last page of each chapter and cheat like half of the other "successful" kids did.
I know I am such a bad mother, but I am on her side and he is just teaching them to cheat.
AMEN!!!!!!!!!
If it weren't for our kids not sneaking around and or cheating who would get in trouble then? THey just do not have a clue what these type of kids go through and the depression that they cause! I am with you on the fun days at home I have been this for 12 years. I have been wanting to get back at them for ever!!!
This week they had elections for class positions. My son was not eligble because his grade point average was not good enough. They told him that in front of the whole class. Well I checked into it and he has the grade point average of a 2.20 at the end of last year so now they have already had all the elections and he was nominated for several things but cannot hold an office ( like he has always wanted) due to the fact that they just failed to look back at his gpa. They just assumed that he did not have it apparently. My son would not allow me to raise HEll over this, this time.
I want to take them to the bank after all we have been thorough,. TOOO bad we do not have all this recorded. IF I had it all to do over I would be writing everything down everytime I went up there. Then we would see who was suffering.
When my kids say dont do it mum - dont go to the teacher - then I write the principal an email. And word it very carefully. Then there is a record! I feel for these kids that parents take the side of the teachers. Poor little buggers, no one understands them - I was like that as a kid.I have a stepson 19 years old that has recently been back in his fathers life, my fiance, we live together. Jeremy his son is a marine and comes home on leave. I am told from his dad and foster parent he is adhd and that is way he cannot focus. He comes here and dosn't pick up after himself and talks alot and loud. I am new to this and would like to like this kid but I don't. He has gotten better over the last 2 years but needs a great deal more improvement. I have done some research and understand alittle more about adhd but I cannot understand how he can be in the marines (he joined at 17 now 19) and do all that is required of him but when he comes home he does nothing. Example, we don't have him do anything here except enjoy his milatary leave all I ask to put your dirty dishes in the sink and pick up after yourself and he just won't. I cannot understand how he can do military complicated things and cannot follow a simple house rule. HELP!!!!! I must sound like a monster but I really love his father and don't have children of my own, I am 43 years old and would like to like this kid but he is so different from me both from how I was as a child which is quiet and withdrawn to how I am as an adult methodical and organized. Does anyone else have this kinda problem.[QUOTE=Cheryl]I have a stepson 19 years old that has recently been back in his fathers life, my fiance, we live together. Jeremy his son is a marine and comes home on leave. I am told from his dad and foster parent he is adhd and that is way he cannot focus. He comes here and dosn't pick up after himself and talks alot and loud. I am new to this and would like to like this kid but I don't. He has gotten better over the last 2 years but needs a great deal more improvement. I have done some research and understand alittle more about adhd but I cannot understand how he can be in the marines (he joined at 17 now 19) and do all that is required of him but when he comes home he does nothing. Example, we don't have him do anything here except enjoy his milatary leave all I ask to put your dirty dishes in the sink and pick up after yourself and he just won't. I cannot understand how he can do military complicated things and cannot follow a simple house rule. HELP!!!!! I must sound like a monster but I really love his father and don't have children of my own, I am 43 years old and would like to like this kid but he is so different from me both from how I was as a child which is quiet and withdrawn to how I am as an adult methodical and organized. Does anyone else have this kinda problem.[/QUOTE] My husband is Step father to 3 of my children and the youngest is his. We are always fighting about the children. I only see there beauty and can forgive easily their transgressions.
He on the other hand thinks they are undisciplined, lazy, inconsiderate kids.
Who's right ?
Cheryl you have every right to request that this young man not live with you. He is an adult, he is earning money. Perhaps it is time to suggest that he find his own place or a share house arrangement. He will soon discover that others will not tolerate this laziness
He is a big boy now - ultimatums (at the risk of being b*tch is probably a fair option). You are not his mother, he is not your responsibility. Either his father enforces the rules, or he should leave.
I know I am hard, but even ADHD people are fully capable of surviving on their own, and his case he is trained to survive - and he is taking advantage of you.
My boyfriend is 18,(w/ ADHD) he is off the wall someties and i cant handle it. I work in a preschool so my patience get tried most of the day. When i get home i just dont have anymore. Please help!Helpme - you have to explain exactly what behaviours your boyfriend is displaying that you need help coping with.
With the little information you have given, I would say dump the scoundrel and enjoy your freedom, but I would rather give a more informed advice. 