hello all,
what do all of you do to make things run smoother with your child mostly for those who's children that are not on meds? things to calm them down during episodes /tantrums,ect.when the child's not listening what are some things all of you do to ease things? how do you go out in pubic, we take turns in our house to stay home with him unless its absolutely necessary its always so stressing in public i have anxiety attacks i cant deal with that.but any little tips that you have found that work for you & yourchild will be most helpful
THANKS !!!!!!
for now your, fellow Indorer
copinGmama38877.7399074074bumpI always let my son know, just before the car door opens and he's gone, what I expect of his behavior, what to do if confronted with a situation that may trigger him, and always that I am not afraid to pull him out of any situation if he fails to behave appropriately. We have a code word that I say to him in a sentence that won't draw attention from anyone else, that lets him know that he's close to being taken home. It works well.I usually feel my girls mood out and on the way to where we are going I go over the rules with her and what I expect of her. It is hard but you cannot stay home forever. Sometimes I offer a reward something of interest to my daughter that helps too. If she breaks the rules then I use what her psychologist recommended she loses something like her gameboy for example and has to earn it back either by good behavior and I decide when she gets it back or she gets a chore and gets it back once done. This way the child has choices.
If she has a meltdown in public I take her or carry her out to the car until she can contain herself and of course there can be a consequence depending on the situation. As far as listening have your child look you in the eyes to know they are listening and have them repeat your directions so you know they heard you.
I feel that being consistent is very important, and also not caving in. I agree that it is also important to review the rules, so that they know what is expected of them. My 17 year old son has ODD, and still tantrums at times. When he was younger, we tried to focus as little attention to this behavior as possible, and would send him to his room to calm down. When we were in public, we would remove him from the situation, and take him to the car. If he refused to calm down, it would mean going home and spending time in his room. thank you all for your commentsif we go shopping we get him involved,if we go to a redtaurant we go to one with a play area
i know when he is going to be difficult by his moods so we do things when he is in a good mood,we take him to the car when he misbehaved
When my son was like that, I didn't take him out. Again, with the extreme tantrumming, I'd have him evaluated by a good professional. Do you have Katie Beckett in your state? If a child has a mental disability, and it sounds like she could, the state has to pay for psychiatric expenses and I believe it's regardless of income. This is no way to live and I doubt your little one is in control of her behavior. She has to have help. Check Katie Beckett. I'll see if I can find it in my search engine and link you up to it. This child needs a good Psychiatrist (with the MD) or NeuroPsych or both (we did both) to get a clear picture of why this is happening and what could help her (and you). I doubt therapy alone would help nor are non-MD therapists, including Psycologists, very good at diagnosing kids with childhood disorders. Good luck. My only suggestion is to keep her home as much as you can until you get her stablized. OlderMom38877.827025463