It s not the theme here. She stoled that for icecream and sweets, even if I gave her small amount of money for that everyday.
And she doesnt steal more than she need for sweets, ever. But I am afraid that if she continue to do the same that she would take more and more.
Stealing money can be a symptom of ADHD in children. I too did it - and the ADHD makes a child very apathetic about the consequences and how the parent feels about being robbed.
It's about resisting urges. We all get urges to get something (sweets, toys) as children. But an ADHD child finds these urges very powerful and nearly impossible to resist. We simply find it like a feedback loop - try to avoid thinking about it and it screams loudly in our ears.
About the only thing I can recommend is locking up free money at home when unattended. Use your bank card more and keep the PIN secret. When I was a child that wasn't available but now it certainly can be done. It sounds simplistic but out of sight means out of mind.
It can be a burden to have to worry about being robbed by your own child but once they get a taste for having what they want now the only thing you can truly do is remove the temptation. Punishment truly doesn't work. My parents nearly beat me and it never impacted on my mind until adulthood.
Therapy and meds definitely can help but get good therapy if you do. There is cognitive therapy and it definitely helped me as an adult. Would it have done good as a child? I think it possibly would have.
I find yesterday that my dd stealing money from my pocket. I assumed its going on for few weeks, but have no time to check her.
I talked with her, even scared her that I will call police, she said Im sorry, but I dont think she is. I grounded her and said no TV, but she doesnt care for consuquences.
What now?
i know the feeling of having a child steal from you, my daughter is 12 and has adhd, she has stold from me and family members, she could care less about consequences also. very tiresome.Could there be some underlying issue going on? Something that she is anxious about, so she is hoarding money because maybe subconsciously she thinks she'll need it for something? Just a thought but it sounds like she may be upset about something. Did you ask her what she needed the money for or what she intended to do with it?