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I have a daughter who has a 9yr old daughter who is ADHD with behaviour problems and ocd.They both have seen many psychologists and paediatricians who have put her on ritalin and catapress for her inability to sleep.These meds seem to work for a short time,and she looks so druged it breaks my heart to she her like this.She appears to have a split personality and today my daughter had the heart breaking decision to give her to her father(they are divorced mainly due to the problems having a child with ADHD) as she has disrupted the family she is in a blended family yours mine & ours.Her behaviour is affecting the other children and her relationship with her husband.Problems with the school with her behaviour and she is getting no real help from so called professionals.My daughter is devistated but on medical advice she was stronly advised to have time out and relinquish her child to her father.We have tried to take her but as her grandfather has no real understanding of ADHD and the implications of such it became impossable to keep her.Guilt is a strong feeling I have as I have a son who is also ADHD and my daughter was bought up with a disrupted family life due to all the disheaval he presented.Now she is living it with her daughter.I know there are so many families affected by this horrible condition and reading your stories helps in making me feel we are not alone.

Welcome! and I am glad you are finding comfort here. I hope your family finds a solution to their situation, and can help your granddaughter. Hugs to you!

Thankyou It feels good to know that people are willing to listen it makes me feel no so alone.You will find a lot of help here. There are a lot of knowledgeable, helpful folks here. Good luck to you and your family. It is a very difficult thing giving up control, and doing what is best for the child.

 

Don't ever feel guilty because you have a son that has ADHD; I too grew up with a brother that has ADHD and I am now raising a son with it as well.  I never blame my parents for passing the gene--besides,  they passed along wonderful traits as well!  It is nice having family that understands what you are going through with your child since they went through the same thing. 

Check out the alternative Forum.  Omegas have helped many; I am pretty sure your grandaughter could take them in conjunction with her prescibe meds.  It is wonderful that your family has a devoted grandma as yourself

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When we started the meds route with my son, I told the psych that I didn't want to see my child turned into a zombie, without that spark that makes him so special.  She told me that the point of medication is to improve the quality of the child's interactions and behavior, never to make them zombie-like, and that if he should develop a flat affect, the med or the dosage is wrong. She said that there are two families of adhd meds, that both should be tried to see which works best.  Keep trying, and don't ignore that split-personality thing, it worries me. Good luck. 

Thankyou for all the kind words and the understanding it really helps knowing you are not the only one going thru such turmoil