ADD and *sex* | ADHD Information

I dont like kisses & cuddles either, especially not now we have the kids, yeah we kiss & cuddle in front of them i think its important to let the children see that mummy & daddy love each other, but not to put on a show.You might want to look at some of the feedback under  Relationships and Social Issues. You are not alone when it comes to being ADD in bed!

i am inattentive and impulsive ADD.

I am not too keen on cuddles and kisses either and i do get bored if my hubby tries to be romantic and make it last

why do men think we need a long,romantic love making ?i am blushing writing thisbut i like it hard and fast as long as he takes care of you know what first.

god i will be very surprised if my post stays

pee on her

rayray! geez *smack* 

where ya been?  missed ya -- well ok not in this exact thread, but in general. 

I tend to just drift in and out of the moment.  I can't stay focused even on sex.  God help the man who has a TV going in the background, or a radio on, or books on the headboard of his bed.  Meds actually help that quite a bit.  ADD usualy means you are pretty creative.
Perhaps the reason for your rigid behaviour is derived from your fear of what your wife will think should you "start having ideas". Most people without ADD are pretty inhibitted about doing things outside normal standards (like verbalizing during sex). For a person with ADD with its associated comorbities, this could be almost impossible.
Think about a time where you almost wanted to tell your wife to try something new. Think back and remember if you felt fearful to even ask and ended up not doing so.
If this is the case then you should work on your intimacy with your wife.
If its just about imagination then i would suggest you to see porn! It might be sleezy and it might be "dirty" but if it wasnt for that industry we would still be stuck on missionary!
watch some x rated movies together, its not discusting, its naterall, or watch them on you own, you may get some idea's, try different moves, talk about it to her, do you know if you please her? if you think your crap, what does she think?

another one: go to ann summers buy some sexy underwear & toys for you both to experiment.

it may change you sex life completly, you need to gain more confidence some how, try talking about it first off.

OK, I'm just going to out this out there because I'd like to get some feedback and/ or hear about other experiences in this department.

Bottom line:  I suck at sex (no pun intended!).  I'm a man and have been married for 15 years to my college girlfriend.  We have 4 kids together.  But I'm terrible at "cuddling" and the like, and when sex does happen it's like I'm following a script.  There's no emotion (on my part).  And then its over (usually pretty quickly I'm sad to admit).  And then I completely lose interest (so no repeat performance).

I usually take care of my wife's needs first, so to speak, but like I mentioned I usually do move A followed by move B and then finish with C. 

Any advice?  How do I change? 

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