Bethnpaul
Ogram has another thread describing the marble syste. It is similar to what the school helped us put in place to get homework done for my youngest, so we just changed to marbles for the summer to work on home behaviors. We have about 10 behavors on each of our lists, and a list of ways to earn bonus marbles (when everything on the primary list is done). For my less independent child, these primary list to gain marbles includes things like "brush teeth, go to bed on time, stay in bed". These are things she really needs to work on which will fall off the list later and be replaced by other things. Because my husband is so frustrated with the kids leaving things in our living room (the room next to the front door), they get each a marble for every day they keep thier stuff out of the living room.
There are conseqences outside the marble system because I can't list everythinig. My kids are allowed to buy thier way out of some punishment (after a minimum sentence is served).
vickie38891.3940046296Notellin if you only chose the 5 things he did that you didn't like the most and didn't punish him for others then did he get away with some negative behaviours?Can someone please explain the marble system to me? My 4 1/2 year old daughter was just diagnosed with ADHA and ODD. I have a lot of the problems you all seem to be writing about: her bedroom is a disaster, punishment/timeouts, taking things away, yelling, spanking(rarely), rewards - nothing is affecting her. She has been grounded from TV, playing outside, taking treats away.
I need help! Nothing affects her - she may cry for a moment and then its gone. It is breaking my heart because I know she knows something is not right with her - but there are days I feel I cannot cope! Can someone please help me? Help us?!
Do you use the marble system for everything? For example Brandon was an hour late tonight. So I didn't use the marbles. I grounded him for 2 nights and 1 day. Unfortunately his end of the year cub banquet is tomorrow night. I can't take that away from him. Especially since he is no longer a cub, but a scout. OH well. He should be very bored on Saturday here.Close to every thing. I don't know how it will be when he is older (he's 8 now), but I will use it when he is older for sure. I'd not only ground him, I'd make him pay you marbles to get time out after the grounding is up. "hit it where it will hurt the most". lol He might respond angry but the next time he thinks about being late, Use the marbles for him go buy back privileges. It works for mine, but you can taylor it to the age. the purpose of the marble system for us, is to keep him consistent with punishment. Make the punishment fit the offense. I find it works well when Damon gets into trouble and has to remove some marbles, but when he wants some thing special during his grounded time, he can buy back some of it with the marbles he still has. I hope this helps.