Cheerleading not so good | ADHD Information
It is now officially over as of today. My daughter ran out with the other kids and then cheered them from the sidelines. She got to have her picture taken with the Buffalo Jill's cheerleaders (5 of them) and was a happy girl and did not care about autographs but i did.Jillette,
I have had similiar situations with my 6 year old son (ADHD)... and in talking to others I have realized that it may be best for me to just relax.... We want so much for our children to be like other children and be successful... instead of just wanting them to be happy.. If you daughter was happy being the "mascot" great... Believe me I know it is hard to see you child not going along with the "program" I guess I am trying to say embrace her differences and try to find the positives in what ever she is participating in... For example my son wrestles - Befoe he started medication he was soooo distracted that during matches he would loose focus and just lay down and get pinned - and he could have cared less - but he kept wanting to go out there and compete & goto practice (which he spent most of it in his own little world oblivious to what was going on around him) so I just kept encouraging him - Taking him And letting him enjoy it with out the added pressure from me to be like the other kids (iin terms of focus and determination).This has at times been very difficult for me since I am a competitive person by nature and want to see my son succeed But I want him to happy more...
Oh yeah did you say she wants to go the summer without her medication? OMG I cannot imagine doing that with my son.. he understands(at least he can explain it to me) the difference in how he feels when he is on his medication and actually asks for it If I forget (it is summer and we have gotton off the routine).. And being ADD myself I know how much better I feel while medicated. thats great if it works for you & your daughter.
Barbara
.IMac38944.8418981481Jillette, focus on the fact it was a positive experience for her. She had a good time. No one made fun of her or teased her. She did have a blast and as for the med vacation this summer she does not like the dry mouth. Also she is going to participate in A University Study come fall and they are going to give her a 3rd opinion on her diagnosis and want her med free for the testing. The study will either be for 1-3 years and all meds are free and treatments they will give us a behavior plan and work with her current psychologist. The university will go into the school and work out a plan for them and will demand weekly daily reports and they believe less med is best it is real intense. My husband and I recieve parenting classes and next summer she will be in their summer camp program all free. Testing will be next week. It is a great program and opportunity. I have a list from this board of things I would like her screened for as they are testing and a psychatrist and psychologist run the program..IMac38944.8421064815Wow. It's good that she's getting another evaluation. Good luck :)I have made a list our psychologist was not concerned about but i am like she does have sensory issues loves putting things in her mouth and a neighbor suggested having her checked for CPD. I also jot notes down from the message boards so I am ready for them. The camp is only for this week and is only for 3 hours 9 am to noon. She is going to take her med tomorow and we will see what happens. She knows to try real hard. To make her day better I took her to the town pool for swimming which she loves in the summer time.Well good luck & dont stress ok.Jillette,
Can you try the meds tomorrow and see if she enjoys the cheerleading more?
Also tell your sweetie that if she wants to stay at cheer camp she needs to try and stay with the group. How long is this camp?
I was going to try a med free summer too but I have decided that my ds really does need the med to function and keep safe.
I think the meds help normalize how he see the world.
joemom38894.6138888889She wants cheerleading but the distractability is the problem. It does not help she wants her summer med free. She does dance and she does have her distractabiltiy too but they are used to her and let her be then pull her back with the group I guess less leway here. We will see what happens tommorow. My girl loves to be active and on the move.Any ideas, my daughter signed up for cheerleading camp for this week and after 15-20 minutes I was told she lost interest and began checking things out in the room versus doing what she should. I did inform them prior so they know in case of anything and I hope I did not curse her. They moved her upstairs doing crafts until I picked her up and I was told she was a sweethart. I guess they cannot have one child not following suite they were nice about it. I was told she would be given one more chance one more day and if still no good then I will get our money back. Any suggestions?Maybe you could sign her up for the craft sessions upstairs & have a talk with your daughter to see if she wants to do cheerleading or not, if not then she cant go back. At least you wont loose out on your money.
Good luck tomorrow. Let us know how it goes.
My little guy has a camp coming up in a few weeks so we will see how that goes. He is still taking his meds but at a lesser strength. Hopefully he can stay at this level for the summer...it sure helps his eating and his focus seems pretty good. He just put together a difficult lego model ( star wars) so I think his meds are working.
It is now day 3 and she is doing better I am told however she is basically the mascot from what I can see she is not doing any of the cheers just basically watching and helping out. She does little from what I can tell and she is supposed to help pass out the certificates friday after the show (she will not be in) and it hurts my heart is just breaking for her. Mind you the child is clueless and I may decide to pull her out although she is enjoying the crafts and activities why is life so hard for such a sweet kid. It makes me wonder are they taking the time with her or just using her as the mascot. Undecided on what to do.For us summers are busier and more stressed than school year. The idea of a med free summer makes me want to sit in the corner and suck my thumb, which sounds good anyways. We are still tweaking dosages. At least she did not get kicked out and was called a sweetie. Be grateful for that.Jillette,
Sometimes I think it is more heartbreaking for us as parents...the kids don't seem to mind nearly as much as we do.
It is difficult for people who don't understand the special needs of our kids and don't know how to help them be successful. It is a constant struggle for my family.
Keep involving her in things she enjoys.
Jillette,
Well it sounds like she did out and participated in the way that made her the most comfortable. My son did this same thing last year at a ice skating camp. He loves to skate but did not want to do a program for the final show. He instead participated in the group numbers and pushed the props around the ice.
Often our kids like to do these activities but the explanations and long winded chats forces them away from doing it. My child does better in singular sports-bike riding, paintballing etc. He's not into group sports which is fine by me. He doesn't really have a competetive bone in his body. Yes it was very disappointing when he was younger that he would just skate around when he was supposed to be playing a game of hockey, also when he got kicked out of Karate because he wouldn't stay with the group. I think our children do better in recreational activities rather than really structured especially if the child in ADHD, but I guess it depends on there activity level. It takes time to accept the child the way they are and that its okay to be different. When my son was younger he didn't seem to care that he was the worst in sporting activities. He tended to give up easily. My son is 15 now, and has shown a dramatic difference in social interactions and maturity all in the last year. It really is amazing to see him growing up. I never thought I'd see the day where he acts more normal for longer periods of time. We never saw a day go by where he could fit in, now its pretty much part of him. Remember things do and will get better. Thank God. Good luck and keep doing what you are doing.