Another Bday done and taking stock | ADHD Information

Happy Birthday Glenn !!!

It sounds like you've had a very productive year. What a great direction you've started for yourself - and, all in just a year.

I know it's not exactly where you want to be but it really is a lot of movement for just a year. No one can predict the future, but I guess next year you'll be even further along in your positive movement.

I took many years after being diagnosed to start really accepting and dealing with things. I guess I've been really trying for a couple years now. I've certainly found that it takes a lot of effort and time to bring in the reigns, slow down the horses and get them moving in a different direction, and an effort also to keep things from going off course again.

It is sad to think about how things might have been, but I can honestly say that I didn't know how to do better during my "destructive" years. I just try to do the best I can now, and that comes with carrying the load of the past.

My life is more positive now.

I've also met someone nice - although it's still new and tenuous,

I have a pretty good job and people seem to like me and my work - although that job is also tenuous for other reasons,

my finances are being dealt with although of course, financially, I'm where I 'should have been' many years ago - but all that I can do is try to improve this,

I'm in pretty good physical shape;

I've made arrangements to volunteer beginning next month one evening every two weeks in a field in which I previously failed,

I'm moving into a better living situation next week,

I'm currently getting along with and spending some time with each member of my family.

I feel like it could all turn out ok - or - it could fall apart tomorrow. I think it takes several years to really "get there."

A bit belated, but HAPPY B-DAY to everyone, from someone that is just a couple of feet over the hill. Dee Reisa, mine was the 2nd also!! Small world!

And Glen, Happy Birthday! Glad to hear things are going well, I sure miss ya!

[QUOTE=Reisa]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Glen said:

I'm beginning to see where "taking stock" - making lists of the better things - can be a very cathartic and useful psych tool to help see that inner negative thoughts can be defeated that way. I thought I'd take a list of what has improved and maybe give a place where you all can too.

Are we both Gemini? Mine was the 2nd.

Reisa's list

1) This year I have finished recovering from MLD (major life disaster). I still bounce! Yay!

2) I have awesome housemates. First time I had some that were fun to live with.

3) I have a job that I feel good about, both the people and the responsibilities.

4) I have finally figured out how to stop inviting negative people into my universe.

5) I heard from my ex husband recently. (We had an amicable breakup.) It was good to hear how he is doing after all these years.

Thanks Glen, this was a great idea. I wish I could fall into a hole of positive thoughts. How come the hole always has negative thoughts?

[/QUOTE]HeidiMarie38901.7422453704Thanks everyone!

Wow. Tuesday was my 39th birthday. Kind of snuck up on me.

While I've been loathing it's coming it has shown me that I am beginning to progress rather than regress. I was starting again to dwell on the negatives of the past years but I find that I am also seeing where things are much better.

- First birthday on dexedrine (well neither a plus or minus but just new lol)

- First birthday where ADHD wasn't swarming my mind with all the bad memories and removing the good ones from easy access.

- I have a girlfriend! Well I think I do but that's another story

- I am dating

- I've paid off the taxes from my previous business. Wow - only took 6 years LOL.

- Finally got my PC back to where I'm proud of it - got XP back again!! Now I just can't go sell it or give it to friends and loved ones.

- Have a much nicer residence where I feel most often comfortable.

- Have 2 good friends at work and many good acquaintences.

- The bad eggs at work are vanishing - and I haven't caused self-destruction obsessing over them

- My employers remain extremely happy with me over a year now!

- I've had a whole year where my parents haven't called saying "why can't you just do/not do" "I can't see why you can't get it together" "Why can't you just leave her" "How did you get so far in debt" etc. etc. They are finally seeing that I am an adult now and that I'm not doing so bad.

- My sisters (though still not communicating directly) have told my parents they are thinking I'm a better man from what they've heard about me

- I am getting healthier, making better food choices and cutting back my smoking

- I exercise daily at work and am exercising outside of work

Wow - lots of good stuff! How about all of you?

Yeah Glen!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's so good to see you positive and upbeat!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!

Your 40's will only be better!!!

Oh...I almost forgot...HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the happy happy. I'm not sure about 40 being all that but I do know I'm in better shape mentally and for sure physically than even when I was 18. I tried so hard then to work out and get some muscle and remove fat (I was fat until 19 - didn't grow out of it through high school) and only ended up with some minimal muscle that had to be felt through the fat. My new job works me hard and it's easily seen and felt.

I try not to regret - but heck why couldn't I have gotten this life fixed 20 years ago?? I am sure I would have had a much more fun time than what I had.

Wisdom in my opinion is HIGHLY overrated! It may prevent sadness but it certainly puts up a wall against simple pleasure. I'd take a drop of 60IQ points and totally be devoid of wisdom to be a shuffling member of the masses all happy and oblivious.

Happy Bday Glen! 39 was hard for me too, but then 40 was a breeze! Now, at 41, I feel older, wiser and more entitled to my opinions. So chin up, it only gets better--plus YOU are doing so much positive, you have lots to look forward to!.IMac38943.8117939815

with few delay...

HAPPY BIRTHDAY GLENN

We are never too old to set another goal

to dream a new dream!!!

i thimk you are also cancer,scotdady is a cancer as well,i don't really follow horoscope but i like cancer men

happy birthday
Glenn !
Happy Birthday Glen!!

Thanks for the positive words and your own list of good things to remember this year. It's nice to do and nicer to see.

Don't tell me you follow that horoscope junk?!? I guess I would be a cancer as my bday is june 27 and I think cancer starts jun 21st or something.

HAppy BIrthday to you!!!!