meds confusing

djsmommie - First of all, while we didn't try B'Calmed, we did try Focus, without noticing much difference.  We find that simply giving him a multi-vitamin and being a bit more controlling of his diet (it was so carb loaded), we see the same type of results as we did with Focus - minor focus improvement.  It wasn't enough to continue paying for the pills.  Maybe you will see a different result.

As far as the arguing in the morning - frankly, I would have let him go without the jacket.  Why bother with the argument?  If he's cold, so what?  You won't be cold!  Maybe tomorrow he'll make the decision to take his jacket all by himself.  Pick your battles - if he has to deal with the consequences of being cold, having messy hair, or wearing two different shoes, then so be it.  You might worry a little bit, but it's not going to kill either of you.

After much communication with our sons teacher, we discovered that he actually did better in school on the days we had a blow up in the morning.  Maybe it's some kind of instinct for him to get his adrenaline going - kind of a jumpstart on his engine.  Now, to give him the rush, we just toss him out the window.  JUST KIDDING!  No, actually, I drag his reluctant little  butt out of bed 30 minutes early and make him go on a bike ride or walk with me.  The exercise  (if I work him hard enough) seems to take the edge off.  On rainy/snowy days, we either head off to the rec center, or we do some goofy aerobics to get us going.  Not always the way I want to start my morning, but it definately helps my guy.  After much heart burn, we've finally gotten into a habit and we consider it our special time for the day.