Impulsivity and Bolting | ADHD Information
[QUOTE=susieb]Jillette, have you read the Daytrana thread? [/QUOTE]
*I think I did. And I too get jealous of people with children who listen and sit still but having a child with extra needs is good too for it opened all of our eyes to things we may not have been aware of before. A good example prior to having children we might have considered a child a brat when there could have been an underlying condition like ADD/ADHD now we are wiser. Society needs to be more educated.
Jillette, have you read the Daytrana thread?welcome to my world jillette
i have all my doors,windows locked as he always try to bolt.i was in the shower and he just ran away,and he does it so suddenly as well,he is sitting playing and then he is gone.
taking him anywhere is a nightmare,we have lost him in wallmart for a couple of minutes.and he also runs into roads.
sometimes it is over stimulation but i think most of the time it is his impulsive side
I don't know how many times I have thought - Can't they makes this child behave or dont' they have any control over this kid? - That was a long time ago before we had kids. I agree with Jillette, there could have been more to the story. And I get jealous to when I see mom's with their kids at the wal mart register and they just simply stay with her.
We have one child that comes to the playroom sometimes, a 6yr old boy, and for the whole hour he just sits there, and watches tv, asks very quietly and politly for a coloring page, sometimes he just walks around. I look at him and think " This is a ghost, not a 6yr old boy, I don't want Jacob to be like that" I rather have him active and loud.
Two years ago we went to an amusment park, and did buy a "kiddie-leash" that goes on the wrist, just for that. I was too afraid of him runnig away for us. Yes, we did get a few strange looks, but we also saw other children on those "leashes".
She is 6 and a half, do they make harnesses for that age? I am chalking it up to too much stimulation.I think putting a harness on a six-year-old child is a bit over the top. My son is thirteen, and when he first came to live with us, he was eight, almost nine. There were many places we simply could not go because it was way too much stimulation and his hyperactivity could not be controlled. Now, we go anywhere and everywhere, and it's hard to believe it was ever a problem. When I see people with calm little ones, I am a tad bit jealous.
Lillian- I can certainly agree. My son is 9, and I do tend to get jelous of people with nice quiet calm children. They do not know what a gift they have been given.
[QUOTE=Jillette]Tonight we tried to go to the park and listen to our friends band and it was a disaster. There was too much distraction and she decided to bolt from mom and dad and run from us and think it was a game. She was heading towards the slides where we were prior to the band starting. It was horrifying to realize we could have lost her so easily once I caught her she lost her gameboy and has to earn it back as well as computer time. I also dragged her away and took her home. So much for the family outing. 
[/QUOTE]Good for you! It takes guts to be firm with consequences, especially having to leave special events.
Hmm...I find it so hard not to take him places like this because he knows about it. He talks to other kids. He knows when the fair is in town, he asks to go to the circus and amusement parks when he sees the commercials. Other kids go and they tell him about it. I couldn't see avoiding it most of the time. [QUOTE=susieb] I always imagine that those kids are Stepford Children and I wouldn't want to have a boring kid.
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I am finding the goods fats help calm Daniel down. Kids have to be taught what isn't happening naturally for them. There are times we have to say Daniel that behavior is not ok. [QUOTE=crazymama]Lillian- I can certainly agree. My son is 9, and I do tend to get jelous of people with nice quiet calm children. They do not know what a gift they have been given.[/QUOTE]
I always imagine that those kids are Stepford Children and I wouldn't want to have a boring kid.
About the impulsivity, my ds takes Ritalin specifically because of him not being able to control his impulses. We also don't do med vacations. I'm not pushing meds, but in this case it seems like something needs to be done for the safety of your daughter. I'm also thinking about using the patch on him. He's been on Ritalin for 1 1/2 yrs and has done well. My ds has only a slightly lessened appetite and doesn't go to sleep till about 11 pm even though he goes to bed at 9.
Jill are you still on a med vacation? If so, you may have to just hold hands quite a bit and inform her prior, and during that she needs to stay with you so she wont get hurt. I tell my son that ( not to scare him but to make him aware) that there are some people who are not so nice to little boys and he needs to stay with his parents. This was one of my fears that someone would take him or he would get hurt ( hit by a car because he was not paying attention).Tonight we tried to go to the park and listen to our friends band and it was a disaster. There was too much distraction and she decided to bolt from mom and dad and run from us and think it was a game. She was heading towards the slides where we were prior to the band starting. It was horrifying to realize we could have lost her so easily once I caught her she lost her gameboy and has to earn it back as well as computer time. I also dragged her away and took her home. So much for the family outing.
I would use a child harness for safety and ignore the stares. The impulsiveness is the hardest to deal with, I think.
Jillette-My son bolts alot also. Impulsivity instead of anything else, I think. He just gets overly excited about being/going/at wherever we are. I have been trying to "change" my ecxpectations about going out in public. For 6 years now (son is 8) I know he'll dart-dissapear-run through the parking lot-If i give him that one small fraction of an opportunity. Now that we have a diagnosis (finally) we can move on a little bettter (less frusrtating-sometimes). I know not every outing will be "perfect" & now I know why he does what he does...Glad to hear you stuck to your guns...
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i do agree about using these outings as lessons on how to behave,we do it but still he still does it.it doesn't matter he knows the consequences still he does it.
his new thing is just deciding he is bored so he is leaving to leave with Pat,and he means it as well,he is away,so i have to lock the front door.
oh yes,if we let their behavior stop us doing normal things like family outings we would never go out.so you just percevere.IMac38944.6868518519