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It sounds like something is stressing him out. Clearly you are very busy. Can the parent with the closest bond spend an hour one on one with him play/talking and get to the bottom of what is bothering him? Can one of you spare 30 minutes a day one on one for the next month? It sounds like he needs it at the moment.

Hi all im new to this but im in need of advice.

Right here it goes,i have 5 children aged 17 B,16 B,13 G,7 B,3 G....my 7yr old boy behaviour has started to change he's angry all the time e.g when he comes home from school and ask him to change out his uniform he goes crazy shouting screaming throwing toys (or anything to hand) then he will go upstairs change out of his school top but leave his school trousers on, so we have to go through the same process again, then again for dinner time for bath time and then for bed time....its only when you ask him to do something or you say no to him. eg my partner (who has bought my son up as his own for the last 6yrs) will simply say "can you go put your bike in the shed" my sons reaction is "scream shout he punches himself in the head, crys to a state where he feels sick or gives himself a banging headache, He dont sleep as he should its usually well after 10pm before he goes to sleep...at school they say his temper is ok but hes a bit behind with his reading and writing so im wondering if that ads to his frustration?

Tonight just before i joined the forum i went upstairs because i could smell something and i caught him putting a plastic toy onto his lamp bulb and melting it.

Dont get me wrong i love my little boy and will do anything to get him through this trying time and when his not in his angry, distructive mood hes so loving i just need a few tips a bit advice. I have a school nurse coming to chat with me Wednesday i just hope its not something im doing wrong

any advice will help me so much.

thanks

Debs

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I would probably take him in for a check up with the doc especially if this is angry behavior is something new.

There are many reason as to why he is behaving in this manner and you could be correct about his frustration with school ( perhaps a learning disability that is undiagnosed) or as you mentioned the lack of sleep. Being tired can make a person grumpy and angry.

Good luck with the school nurse. Hopefully she will have a few answers for you.

my_angels,

Have you looked over at the alternative board? Some parents over there use things there like Omega 3's and magnesium to help with ADHD symptoms.

My dd also is pretty well behaved in school, but when she gets home, she is on the warpath. I attribute it to trying sooooo hard to hold it together all day, and when she gets home, she lets it all hang out. I've learned to let her chill out when she first gets home from school, and to also have something to eat. Then I let her go out and play and run around. I also think it would be a good idea to get some professional advice. Maybe there are other things going on in his environment to cause him to be angry. Good luck.

thank you for your reply..

His sleep has always been a problem, the anger has only been around for 2mths or so.... hes always had a temper but it seems to be getting worse....in the week while at school he is at his worst when weekend comes hes ok but is always asking when he has to go back to school so thats what makes me think he may be finding school difficult, plus his teacher says he has to work extra hard to achieve what most children find easy so if hes frustrated at school perhaps hes exploding when he comes home because thats the only way he knows how to?

thnks again Debs

I wanted to come and offer my support although I don't have much insight to all of this either since I'm also new. I can only imagine the frustration that you both are going through. It could have to do with school and not doing as well as the other kids. I know someone here who's son can be quite the bully...especially to my son...and then I found out that they are having to hold him back because he's4th grade reading at a 1st grade level. I think he's taking out some of his aggressions on others because he's so frustrated at school. His other siblings are both excelled in school.

Good luck. I may try some of the other alternatives until I get to the pediatrician's office. Just to try and see if I can get some attentiveness. Let us know how things go.

Is he on meds? Unfortunately, he could have a mood disorder coming on, and I've heard that they won't diagnose that in kids in the UK. The problem with that is, if he has a mood disorder, stims will only fuel the anger and aggression. Are you allowed to see any kind of doctor you like? I know somebody from Austrailia who was told that her violent son couldn't have bipolar because that's an "American" affliction that doesn't really exist in kids

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Hi all im new to this but im in need of advice.

Tonight just before i joined the forum i went upstairs because i could smell something and i caught him putting a plastic toy onto his lamp bulb and melting it.

any advice will help me so much.

thanks

Debs

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Hes always thrown temper tantrums,not slept well, but it seems more prominant now. i dont know whether iv relized there MAY be a problem or i MAY be making excuses for his behaviour...Like i said before he was putting a toy soldier on the light bulb of his side lamp in his bedroom, i told him it was very dangerous and he could start a fire he just smiled and said sorry, then when i asked why he was doing this he replied"because im bored" but it was 9.15pm he should of been sleeping i explaind this to Colby (my little man) and he said its boring going to sleep he wasnt tired but he'd been on the go from 6.45am been to school, played out i just dont know what to do next or is he a typical 7yr old?

Debs